I think I am going to have a panic attack

[Anonymous]

Wow get a grip. This isn’t that hard. If she is done with her stuff she can submit. Then the teachers follow with recommendations. And The counselor follows with their recommendation if required, school profile, transcript etc.

All she is doing is tracking and following up.

As long as everything is done by deadlines she is fine!

[Anonymous]

Why does she have two counselors?

[Anonymous]

Your kid is so far ahead of the game. She has a whole 15 days yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does she have two counselors?

Our school is large, we have a college counselor for each grade and then a general one.

[Anonymous]

My kid hasn't even started one essay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow get a grip. This isn’t that hard. If she is done with her stuff she can submit. Then the teachers follow with recommendations. And The counselor follows with their recommendation if required, school profile, transcript etc.

All she is doing is tracking and following up.

As long as everything is done by deadlines she is fine!

The issue is that part is showing as incomplete for the school, but it is not required or even needed at all for that school. That part should not be on the screen at all.

[Anonymous]

What school? In sure this crowd can confirm if reco is needed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am finding this so stressful. Dd has submitted no applications. She has done everything she could including supplemental essays, but she is getting contradicting info from two counselors and the common app is so confusing to me in terms of how to submit everything. She is also waiting for letters of recommendations (she asked as soon as school started) Deadlines are coming and I wake up at night with cold sweats. Why am I so stupid and why can't we figure all of this out? I was really hoping dd would solve all this today and it's yet another no-progress day.

You're not stupid. It's way more complicated than it needs to be. There are many online resources that can help with how to submit the common app. Once your DD submits one, you will feel much better. That first one is tough. Good luck and I promise it gets better.

[Anonymous]

what applications are due Oct. 15?

[Anonymous]

Go into Common App, FERPA section, and remove the recommender. There should be a button someplace that says "Manage Recommenders."

Regardless of whether a recommendation is required or is not required, the application itself can be submitted even if an assigned recommendation has not yet been submitted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What school? In sure this crowd can confirm if reco is needed

I don't want to say but I am 100% positive it's not needed. My dd's friend submitted without, I checked the school site, and the second counselor just told dd as well it's not needed. I am now looking and seeing "recommenders and FERPA" can be added/removed for each school? Is this correct? So then dd would just have to remove for this one school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what applications are due Oct. 15?

Some large public universities. UNC, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go into Common App, FERPA section, and remove the recommender. There should be a button someplace that says "Manage Recommenders."

Regardless of whether a recommendation is required or is not required, the application itself can be submitted even if an assigned recommendation has not yet been submitted.

So she can do this per school, right? It won't remove for all schools? She does need it for some of the schools she is applying to.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has regular panic attacks (not due to college admissions), and who has gone through the college app process with my oldest...

... it's not the end of the world if you do get a panic attack. You won't die, even if you feel you're dying. I know, it's a harsh truth, but when I have one at 2 in the morning, that's all I can tell myself to get through it. Also, cold packs helps. Or opening the freezer door and just standing there.

To go back to college apps. Email the counselor yourself. Or call, during school hours. They're swamped, but if they made a mistake, they deserve a call from the parent. Your child can also call the admissions office (not you this time - you want to keep a low profile in front of admissions).

Go through the app again, and make sure everything's correct. Believe the app and the college, not the high school counselor.

Everything is going to be OK. You are a caring, thoughtful, detail-oriented adult and your kid is doing everything she needs to do. It will be alright in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is so far ahead of the game. She has a whole 15 days yet.

Yes! I have twins and neither one has started writing any supplementals. We have two full weekends.