Men who still think about the one who got away

[Anonymous]

A lot of people who have never loved anyone on this thread… on all threads actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people who have never loved anyone on this thread… on all threads actually.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is more common for women because after the kids are gone all that’s left is the family bank account. If that doesn’t look attractive, there’s thoughts about a more successful guy.

Ehhh, or maybe women think about the one they really loved vs the one who was acceptable to their family at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't think men dream about the girl who got away you're nuts. Yes, men do IF they are unhappy with their marriage. Of course they don't know they are happy.

Almost every man sees another woman/wife and dreams of what life would be like if he married her versus a spouse who makes him unhappy.

Haaaaaaa!!!!!! No! Every men looks at their bachelor friends and romanticizes a life of keeping all their $$ and smashing any woman they want all the time. It’s why the married men are the absolute worst behaved at bachelor parties. They live vicariously through their single friends.

They certainly aren’t wistfully dreaming of married life with another woman.

JFC- you can tell this board is 99% female. Lmaof

[Anonymous]

Could it be that not all men think alike?

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.

Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.

First love. So pps are basically correct. All the randos after not so much.

I understand men very well, being one. And yes, men don't think about the one that got away, not in the say women mean it. You may have felt strongly about past relationships, especially your first serious one. But you aren't constantly comparing your current relationships with your previous ones in the same way women do

[Anonymous]

My 45 year old brother still talks about a woman he met in Australia nearly 25 years ago. It was literally a brief chance meeting, but he's not forgotten it.
He's had 5 long-term relationships one of was a marriage..
I personally think he's both idealizing a fantasy and avoiding real relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.

Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.

First love. So pps are basically correct. All the randos after not so much.

I understand men very well, being one. And yes, men don't think about the one that got away, not in the say women mean it. You may have felt strongly about past relationships, especially your first serious one. But you aren't constantly comparing your current relationships with your previous ones in the same way women do

I think women only compare in this way if they end up with someone who does not compare favorably to a past love. They tend to be ok with upgrading. Many men, I think, can only fall truly in love once, even if they end up marring someone who is objectively better, and even if they have loving feelings toward other women it’s not the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.

Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.

First love. So pps are basically correct. All the randos after not so much.

I understand men very well, being one. And yes, men don't think about the one that got away, not in the say women mean it. You may have felt strongly about past relationships, especially your first serious one. But you aren't constantly comparing your current relationships with your previous ones in the same way women do

I think women only compare in this way if they end up with someone who does not compare favorably to a past love. They tend to be ok with upgrading. Many men, I think, can only fall truly in love once, even if they end up marring someone who is objectively better, and even if they have loving feelings toward other women it’s not the same.

I think you and the PP are way off base.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is more common for women because after the kids are gone all that’s left is the family bank account. If that doesn’t look attractive, there’s thoughts about a more successful guy.

Ehhh, or maybe women think about the one they really loved vs the one who was acceptable to their family at the time.

Exactly, oftentimes the one that got away is less conventionally successful and less wealthy than the one they married.

[Anonymous]

Missing you every minute. You know who you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't think about "the one that got away." That's woman thinking.

Man here: you don’t understand men, at all. Men get their heart broken for the first time and are basically never the same after. Every man I’ve ever discussed the matter with felt the loss of their first love very, very deeply, and it sticks with you like an old football injury or something. IME women are quicker to move on once they meet a “better” man, and the ones who pine are ones who have ended up with someone not as appealing.

First love. So pps are basically correct. All the randos after not so much.

I understand men very well, being one. And yes, men don't think about the one that got away, not in the say women mean it. You may have felt strongly about past relationships, especially your first serious one. But you aren't constantly comparing your current relationships with your previous ones in the same way women do

I think women only compare in this way if they end up with someone who does not compare favorably to a past love. They tend to be ok with upgrading. Many men, I think, can only fall truly in love once, even if they end up marring someone who is objectively better, and even if they have loving feelings toward other women it’s not the same.

I think you and the PP are way off base.

Perhaps. All I can say is what it looks like based on my own observations. I’m less sure about how women feel, not being one myself, but have a high degree of confidence on how men tend to feel. Most don’t talk about it, but if you have a male friend who trusts you and is willing to discuss, you might be surprised what you hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Missing you every minute. You know who you are.

❤️

[Anonymous]

Man here. I think about one of my exes. We broke up mostly because our timing was off. She wanted marriage or moving in and I had just gotten out of a marriage and therefore was not ready. Now that my divorce is much further behind me, she has come to occupy some space in my mind. We remained friends throughout the years but our timing is still off bc we are both in relationships (not marriages).

[Anonymous]

I knew her and her DH were comfortable lower middle class. I did pretty well financially early on in life. Didn't want her cheat, so I made an "indecent proposal". They accepted.