Men who still think about the one who got away

[Anonymous]

I learned this past weekend that my college boyfriend talked to a common friend recently of me as the “one that got away”. I am totally shocked TBH. I am not/was not particularly attractive. I also was not a stunningly interesting or cool or kind person. Just an ordinary woman doing ordinary things. I think it’s looking back on a time in his life that was easy and without too much responsibilities. And j was just part of the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned this past weekend that my college boyfriend talked to a common friend recently of me as the “one that got away”. I am totally shocked TBH. I am not/was not particularly attractive. I also was not a stunningly interesting or cool or kind person. Just an ordinary woman doing ordinary things. I think it’s looking back on a time in his life that was easy and without too much responsibilities. And j was just part of the story.

Agree. I think that’s a lot of it for many people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned this past weekend that my college boyfriend talked to a common friend recently of me as the “one that got away”. I am totally shocked TBH. I am not/was not particularly attractive. I also was not a stunningly interesting or cool or kind person. Just an ordinary woman doing ordinary things. I think it’s looking back on a time in his life that was easy and without too much responsibilities. And j was just part of the story.

Agree. I think that’s a lot of it for many people.

Agree. Carefree. No kids. No house. Youth on your side. Who wouldn’t pine for that?

[Anonymous]

Don't think about them on a regular basis, but took me a long time to get to this place. At this stage, remember first times meeting, couple of things about the sex, and breakups. But can't remember dates, places we went, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey, I never stop thinking of her, so yes, it happens.

Why? Why was she special?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems more common of a psychological thing for women than men. Men are less prone to regret and what ifs. If they married you, they are either content or if they are dissatisfied with the relationship, they may be thinking about affair or divorce, but they don’t daydream about some ex years ago.

+ ha

So true. I remember every single one of my husband’s best friend’s many ex-gfs and details and every one he had before me. 25 years later they can’t remember almost any of them. I will bring something up and sometimes they still don’t remember.

Uhhhh, YOU REMEMBER EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOUR HUSBAND'S BEST FRIEND'S MANY GFS AND DETAILS AND EVERY ONE HE HAD BEFORE YOU???

Respectfully ma'am, you need to get a life. 😵‍💫

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey, I never stop thinking of her, so yes, it happens.

Why? Why was she special?

I’m a woman answering this, but I think saying “she was so special” is a red herring. I think it is often more where you were in life. This usually happens when you are young and just figuring yourself out. So that person is a foundational relationship because they helped you become the adult you have become. Although that person had great qualities, it isn’t necessarily those qualities or that person who made them so special. It is that they were your foundational relationship and you processed the newness of adulthood with them. The human brain isn’t mature until 25 or so and relationships before that age have a different quality because you are still making you and developing your brain.

That’s my theory anyway.

[Anonymous]

It is pathetic to believe a former lover is "the one that got away." This implies that your current partner is a stand-in for someone better.

I think about former lovers from time to time. However, what I mainly think about is what I enjoyed about them sexually. I hope they are doing well, and I do not care what they think about me.

[Anonymous]

We don’t think about the ones that “got away.” We think about the ones we didn’t sleep with…and wonder it would’ve been like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey, I never stop thinking of her, so yes, it happens.

Why? Why was she special?

Yes, very much. Unique connection, out of this world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey, I never stop thinking of her, so yes, it happens.

Why? Why was she special?

Yes, very much. Unique connection, out of this world.

Why did she get away?

[Anonymous]

Men don’t think about the one that got away.

They think about the next one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t think about the one that got away.

They think about the next one.

There are exceptions.

[Anonymous]

This is more common for women because after the kids are gone all that’s left is the family bank account. If that doesn’t look attractive, there’s thoughts about a more successful guy.

[Anonymous]

If you don't think men dream about the girl who got away you're nuts. Yes, men do IF they are unhappy with their marriage. Of course they don't know they are happy.

Almost every man sees another woman/wife and dreams of what life would be like if he married her versus a spouse who makes him unhappy.