Is not allowing my husband to cook scrambled eggs in the morning an unreasonable request?

[Anonymous]

Not only is this an unreasonable request, you should avoid shaming him by complaining about the "gross smell", which would unfairly take away enjoyment of his morning meal or make him feel bad at the start of the day.

[Anonymous]

Yes this is an unreasonable request but also seems like something you should have worked out before getting married because your position on this is such a huge outlier and your expectation (that he simply not cook or eat an extremely common breakfast food for the rest of his life because you have a weird aversion to it) reflect a rigid and controlling personality.

BTW food aversions can be worked on and minimized. I have a strong aversion to shrimp (look and smell which means of course I don't eat them) but my DH loves shrimp. I love my DH more than I dislike shrimp so I've worked on dealing with this and I have no problem with him eating shrimp right next to me at this point. His compromise is that we don't make shrimp for family dinner so he mostly has it if he's cooking just for himself and the kids or when we order food. But I would never try to deprive him of eating a food he loves.

Like try evolving as a person OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I LOVE eggs. Poached, boiled (hard or soft) over easy, scrambled, you name it.

But they can put off a strong smell, ESPECIALLY when overcooked. So he needs to be cooking low and slow and turn off the burner when still a little runny. Works best in cast iron, and throw in some set aside raw scramble to cool it down right at the end and cook with residual heat.

Or he can take this whole mess to the office kitchen: https://youtu.be/l9d9CrEAOdQ?si=P-i7XhBmL5CyJv0w. DASH mini griddle.

Alternative

ORRRRRRR she can go sit somewhere else in her nice house and let her DH cook in the...kitchen. So self absorbed. Literally one day a week you've made him reduce this to and you're still not satisfied. Insufferable. And not that it matters, but I'm a wife saying this. Go work elsewhere. Surely the kitchen is not the only place you can work from home in the morning. Amazing how you posted this with a straight face.

[Anonymous]

Not a reasonable request. You need a better oven hood or an air cleaner.

[Anonymous]

I personally would stop cooking eggs at home if it bothered my spouse that much. It's not a must have food and thus I would go without as an act of love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over it, jfc. He already only eats them once a week. Work in a different room or turn on a fan that one day per week that he makes them.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally would stop cooking eggs at home if it bothered my spouse that much. It's not a must have food and thus I would go without as an act of love.

Great. Throw yourself on the sword. Here's your gold star. How about OP loves her spouse enough to tolerate the smell once a week - and GO TO ANOTHER ROOM.

Good grief with the dramatics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Is there anything you can do about this smell aversion you have? I have a very sensitive sense of smell but no aversions. It’s really handicapping your relationship.

Eggs and fish are the only cooking smells I really can't stand. I don't drink coffee but I enjoy the smell of it. I promise this isn't some broad theme. Just eggs and fish. Two things.

But those are basic everyday healthy things to eat. It’s very unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if a spouse said the smell of coffee bothers them? Would it be reasonable for the other spouse to go without?

I think so. You can easily get coffee at work or down the street for a $1 to $4.

You clearly don't understand how $4 coffee's add up.

OP (and you) are unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband would eat eggs with buttered toast & a coffee every morning if he could. I don't have an aversion to eating scrambled eggs at a restaurant but the smell when they're cooked at home drives me insane, likely made worse by that being the first thing to smell when I wake up. It's right up there with fish, which I do not cook or eat. I also work remotely in the kitchen area, while he heads to an office, so any faint lingering smell of cooked eggs bothers me after he departs. He's down to cooking them once a week or so (today, of course) instead of the five or so times a week he'd like to make them, but I'd prefer he stop period.

As an employer, I don't think you are properly set up to work remotely. You need to have your own dedicated space away from distractions and not in another room like a kitchen. This is the main problem, if you are unable to do this you should come into the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I LOVE eggs. Poached, boiled (hard or soft) over easy, scrambled, you name it.

But they can put off a strong smell, ESPECIALLY when overcooked. So he needs to be cooking low and slow and turn off the burner when still a little runny. Works best in cast iron, and throw in some set aside raw scramble to cool it down right at the end and cook with residual heat.

Or he can take this whole mess to the office kitchen: https://youtu.be/l9d9CrEAOdQ?si=P-i7XhBmL5CyJv0w. DASH mini griddle.

Alternative

ORRRRRRR she can go sit somewhere else in her nice house and let her DH cook in the...kitchen. So self absorbed. Literally one day a week you've made him reduce this to and you're still not satisfied. Insufferable. And not that it matters, but I'm a wife saying this. Go work elsewhere. Surely the kitchen is not the only place you can work from home in the morning. Amazing how you posted this with a straight face.

Who knows the actual mechanics of a nice house. Maybe it’s an updated row house in palisades, and upstairs is two bedrooms, main floor is kitchen and living room, and basement is unfinished. She needs a surface for a laptop and takes calls on the camera with open mic so can’t fake it from the bed or the din of a coffee shop. And her main office is in Chicago, no local facility.

So her options are too rent a WeWork conference room or gag from the smell.

This may not be her exact scenario but I can see it being a tricky problem. As I said I love eggs but I also have a high scent sensitivity so odors can be a real issue.

But PP agreed, he’s overcooking them. He can also cool it at the end with cream, that’s probably easier.

[Anonymous]

Are you certain it is egg smell and not the smell of the fat he cooks them with? Do you dislike the smell of hot butter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband would eat eggs with buttered toast & a coffee every morning if he could. I don't have an aversion to eating scrambled eggs at a restaurant but the smell when they're cooked at home drives me insane, likely made worse by that being the first thing to smell when I wake up. It's right up there with fish, which I do not cook or eat. I also work remotely in the kitchen area, while he heads to an office, so any faint lingering smell of cooked eggs bothers me after he departs. He's down to cooking them once a week or so (today, of course) instead of the five or so times a week he'd like to make them, but I'd prefer he stop period.

As an employer, I don't think you are properly set up to work remotely. You need to have your own dedicated space away from distractions and not in another room like a kitchen. This is the main problem, if you are unable to do this you should come into the office.

That’s a Fed thing, not most private employers are that ridiculous

[Anonymous]

I have never encountered so many people with "scent sensitivities" in real life as I do here on DCUM. Is this just a new way to complain about something to get attention?

[Anonymous]

I would resent the h*ll out of a spouse who WFH in the kitchen, then expects me to not make my own breakfast and clean it up because it's inconvenient to them.

Seriously, OP, I hope you're a troll.