Is not allowing my husband to cook scrambled eggs in the morning an unreasonable request?

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Anonymous wrote:Why have several posters made the exception for pregnancy? Others deserve the right to avoid wrenching and vomiting too.
Like other posters have mentioned, I too wasn't smell sensitive until pregnancy. I was looking forward to the symptom disappearing but it only got more sensitive. It was also much worse after giving birth because vomiting often means involuntary peeing (something else that didnt happen before being pregnant).

You only get allowances when you're growing a human and maybe 6 months after after that you got to figure it out. Is if a smell you don't like makes you vomit and pee your pants and your kid is 5 you should probably see a specialist

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Anonymous wrote:Buy some candles.

+1. I did actually develop an aversion to a bunch of food smells.when I was pregnant (like I like onions but first trimester the smell of the cooking would make me gag, it was weird). Just burn a candle.

I am 100% team DH, but all candles do is add another scent on top of the existing one. It’s like scented cat litter — now your house just smells like poop AND flowers.

No, unscented candles help too. Striking several matches is also effective.

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Anonymous wrote:Why have several posters made the exception for pregnancy? Others deserve the right to avoid wrenching and vomiting too.
Like other posters have mentioned, I too wasn't smell sensitive until pregnancy. I was looking forward to the symptom disappearing but it only got more sensitive. It was also much worse after giving birth because vomiting often means involuntary peeing (something else that didnt happen before being pregnant).

Pregnancy is a temporary condition that imposes a disproportionate burden on women, so most people think that inconveniencing a man for a few months is fair enough.

If you’re not pregnant, it’s just a thing about your body that you have to learn to live with, and it’s worth learning how to live with it so that you don’t impose a burden on your husband, as you are doing right now. I’d hate it if I were “not allowed” to cook eggs in my own house! He’s making an effort to accommodate you by having them less often, you need to make an effort to accommodate him by either working in a different space or improving your ventilation. That’s how marriage works. You both make an effort to accommodate each other.

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would he be agreeable to making breakfast sandwiches ahead of time once a week? that way he gets all the eggs he wants and you get to smell eggs only once a week.

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also, get a nonstick pan. you can clean up one of those with hot water and a paper towel in about 5 seconds.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s unreasonable. Buy a better kitchen hood vent.

Does a vent exist to have no cooking smells? I find that a little hard to believe. I don't think our vent is bad. We live in a nice home.

Does he run it? You really shouldn’t have a lot of smells if you do.

He does run it and he tries to quickly clean the stove, pan and his plate. But each time I can still smell the eggs. I am very sensitive to the cooked egg smell.

Has he ever tried microwaving eggs? They come out pretty good and that reduces the smell.

otherwise… I think you need to suck it up and improve ventilation as suggested.

I think microwaving eggs makes the smell worse!

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I get it- the smell of eggs cooking grosses me out too, though scrambled eggs bother me way less than fried eggs. Maybe he could limit his eggs to Saturday mornings so you could have a couple days for the smell to dissipate before work on monday? Assuming you work mon-fri. Also, yes, make sure he uses the fan while cooking.

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Enjoy divorce, OP. No man in his right mind would stick around for your insufferable demands.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you were going to say he leaves a mess. That is my one big complaint about scrambled egg mornings (we use a cast iron that has to cool, and then it has to be cleaned/burnt off at high heat). Breakfast dishes then tend to sit for a while (I also WAH and it bothers me although I’m not in the kitchen). But can’t you fix the smell issue by running the hood vent and/or opening a window. Get a nice soy candle with essential oils to light for a few minutes. Brew some nice coffee (we have a fancy Breville that freshly grinds our beans so it makes the kitchen smell like a coffee shop in the morning). I feel like this is solvable although I would object to daily eggs based on potential health implications (unless you know he is in fantastic shape and can handle all these eggs).

Cast iron doesn't have to be cleaned like that. Take the hot pan, hold it under running water, soap and sponge or chainmail scrubber, dry on high heat. Cast iron is hard to mess up, drive it like a rental.

That’s what I was saying, you have to wash the pan and then put it back on the stove on high (I guess not technically “burn” it but you get the idea). It’s extra steps and dishes compared to toasting a bagel or making a bowl of cereal. But still I wouldn’t stop DH from making eggs.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the smell of coffee and I think I have some kind of allergy to it as it makes me feel off but I would never tell my family they are no longer allowed to make or drink coffee in the house. I just suffer a little because my discomfort to me doesn’t mean i get to control everything that happens in the house

That’s because you are a thoughtful, reasonable human being. OP could learn a lot from you if OP were not a troll. But I’m sincerely sorry that the smell of coffee bothers you.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be upset if my spouse asked me not to cook a totally normal breakfast food in my own house. It’s not like he’s frying tuna. 🤣

I got that reference (except it’s LIGHTLY fried tuna, thank you very much).

We’ve both been here too long.

Another one here. Thanks for the chuckle.

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I’d be so pissed if my DH tried to tell me not to cook myself breakfast.

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I don’t like the smell either. I have a strong air purifier in my kitchen with a charcoal and hepa filter combo designed to stop food smells. It even handles fish.

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My husband hates eggs, grosses him out. I LOVE egg salad and scrambled eggs. I make scrambled eggs on weekend days when I know he won’t be up until later and am sure to clean up every speck and clean the sink. He usually does not notice.

We both work from home but if he ever leaves the house to travel somewhere, the very first thing I do is make egg salad.

I hate it. But I work around it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like the smell either. I have a strong air purifier in my kitchen with a charcoal and hepa filter combo designed to stop food smells. It even handles fish.

Can you explain which filter you have and where in a kitchen you place it? I just googled portable filters and they're anywhere from $50 to $1,000+.