Repeat last year primary school or middle school?

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He's not yet 5 so I wouldn't worry about sports yet. If he's doing fine, I wouldn't hold him back. If it vecones an issue you can address it then, but I think worrying about it now isn't productive.

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Anonymous wrote:You will kill this kids self esteem if they repeat 5th or 8th grade. You do it now at a different school or you don’t do it. Kids are cruel and your kid will get labeled the stupid one if they repeat later.

I agree. I think repeating after K or 1st is social suicide. I still am not clear why OP is looking at repeating.

Didn’t she say at a different school? How would anyone know?

Perhaps I misunderstood. Since OP stated her child loves the current school, I assumed that the repeat would take place at a different school and then the child would return to the original school. I do think if it’s in the same area, people are likely to find out and at the older age it would still be a social issue.

Would he have a disguise mustache and new name when he returns to his original school still in the same grade?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I can relate to your post. We chose to send DD to K a little early, because she was truly ready academically for K, and we figured she would catch up socially. By fourth grade, we found the exact opposite to be true!

We didn’t do it, and though she’s in 8th now and everything has leveled out for the most part, I wish I would have sent her to a different school to repeat 5th, because now that she’s in 8th, I can tell she’s socially behind again. And there would be nothing wrong at all with her having the extra academics.

What do you mean that you sent her early? When is her birthday? Some of these claims that their children “went early” don’t make sense.

Her birthday was five days after the cutoff, so we signed the waiver. Her preschool teacher urged us to send her, and we did. It was fine until it wasn’t. It’s mostly fine now, but I still wonder if she would fit in better socially if we had held her back. I wouldn’t do it after 5th grade, though.

I had written that in our schools the girls seem to follow the guidelines unless there was a learning issue. The boys were more likely to be held back.

My oldest was born in February and had friends with birthdays in November, December of the same year. There was no difference. My youngest has a November birthday, with the cut off date now September 1st she’s one of the older students. Kids can have difficulty no matter where they are on the birthday scale.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I can relate to your post. We chose to send DD to K a little early, because she was truly ready academically for K, and we figured she would catch up socially. By fourth grade, we found the exact opposite to be true!

We didn’t do it, and though she’s in 8th now and everything has leveled out for the most part, I wish I would have sent her to a different school to repeat 5th, because now that she’s in 8th, I can tell she’s socially behind again. And there would be nothing wrong at all with her having the extra academics.

What do you mean that you sent her early? When is her birthday? Some of these claims that their children “went early” don’t make sense.

Going to K early means that your child turns 5 after the cut off date but you get permission to enroll in K anyway.

By way of example, the majority of states have a Sept 1 cut off date (or very close to that), and if your child turned 5 on Sept 16, your child would technically have to wait a whole year before they could start K. But some schools will let you enroll your child in K anyway since it's pretty close. Your child could be in class with "Larla" who turns 6 on September 16, because Larla was started on time. And if your live in a wealthy district where redshirting is rampant, your child could even be in a class with "Larlo" who turned 6 on May 16, because Larlo was redshirted.

I never knew you could get a waiver. I can see asking for one because at the point it feels like the child is in “pre” programs forever. I can also see how difficult it must be to have to make that decision with a September birthday. But kids born in the spring being held back for no reason is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Background: DS is in K now and youngest in class and birthday is after cutoff. 14-15 months younger than oldest kids. Might not have been best to send him early but I’m not sure. His current school (private K-12) won’t let him repeat a grade due to school policy of not letting students repeat grades (DS has been at the school since preschool). They are very strict with the policy and have never made an exception.

Question: Can we have him repeat a year later in his educational career at a different school? For example, after 5th or 8th grade at current school, ok to do 5th or 8th again at another school? (Either public or private?) Or will my DS be forced to move to the next grade?

I’d have him repeat K at another school next year but I want to give it a few years and wait and see if he really needs to repeat a year - I’m not at this time sure if repeating a grade is necessary/worth the downside (not being able to go to the school he loves with his siblings and friends/potential internalization of not being perceived as smart/good enough, etc.) so want to wait a few years and see how he’s doing and then decide.

why would you want to do that? You are saying he turns 5 in 2025? If not, if he turns 5 before 2025 it isnt early. That is why you did it. Holding him back for no reason is gross.

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She'll be fine. Repeating a grade is so traumatic to her confidence and social life. I would not do it if it is "absolutely" necessary, like failing academically.

Sportwise, some sports go by grade, some sports go by birth year. It all depends.

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Anonymous wrote:We did this with my son. He started K early. We actually didn’t mean for it to happen. He was in a mixed age classroom and he was advanced through the preschool curriculum early and was academically ready for more.

We switched schools after 6th grade and had him repeat 6th. He wasn’t having issues at all, but I felt it was in his best interest long term to be older rather than the youngest. He is very bright and academically several grades ahead- regardless of if he stayed in the same grade. He would still be far ahead. In middle school, he had access to highly accelerated academic programming, so he was able to be challenged and having him be older gave him some maturity to navigate all the extra work he was receiving and manage it appropriately. He’s in high school now and doing amazing. I do think he would have been fine had we not repeated, but he is doing so well now I’m glad we did.

He isn’t several grades ahead if you dropped him down. He’s where he should have been if you did not hold him back.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I can relate to your post. We chose to send DD to K a little early, because she was truly ready academically for K, and we figured she would catch up socially. By fourth grade, we found the exact opposite to be true!

We didn’t do it, and though she’s in 8th now and everything has leveled out for the most part, I wish I would have sent her to a different school to repeat 5th, because now that she’s in 8th, I can tell she’s socially behind again. And there would be nothing wrong at all with her having the extra academics.

What do you mean that you sent her early? When is her birthday? Some of these claims that their children “went early” don’t make sense.

Going to K early means that your child turns 5 after the cut off date but you get permission to enroll in K anyway.

By way of example, the majority of states have a Sept 1 cut off date (or very close to that), and if your child turned 5 on Sept 16, your child would technically have to wait a whole year before they could start K. But some schools will let you enroll your child in K anyway since it's pretty close. Your child could be in class with "Larla" who turns 6 on September 16, because Larla was started on time. And if your live in a wealthy district where redshirting is rampant, your child could even be in a class with "Larlo" who turned 6 on May 16, because Larlo was redshirted.

I never knew you could get a waiver. I can see asking for one because at the point it feels like the child is in “pre” programs forever. I can also see how difficult it must be to have to make that decision with a September birthday. But kids born in the spring being held back for no reason is ridiculous.

Some private school cultures are very weird like that.