Hand-me-down Barbour too expensive for school wear? 4th grader

[Anonymous]

Do you trust your child? I have a 6th grader who has never lost anything before. I would 100% trust her with an expensive jacket. I also have a 2nd grader who last year left her hoodie on the playground not once, but twice. I would not let her go to school with a $400 jacket.

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Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

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Go to Costco and buy him a lightweight puffer jacket for $30 like all the other kids. Poor kid!

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

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Anonymous wrote:No. My DS lost several jackets in elementary school by leaving them on the playground at recess. Some turned up in lost and found, others did not.

This and maybe refer to the thread about parents shopping in the lost and found. I know that's what happened to one of my sons coats because I bought a nice coat at the beginning of the year. He lost it, and I had to buy another coat because it never showed up in the lost and found. however, at the end of the year when I was looking for something else he lost, the coat just reappeared. I was pretty upset because the second code I bought him was not as good quality as that first coat that was stolen by a parent. The coat had his name in the collar and everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

I have on as well and agree with this. I don't think the "used" part matters as I've had mine for a LONG time - but it doesn't seem something a young boy would wear to the playground and to run around.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you in PG or Bethesda? That matters.

A lot of murders happen because of jackets.

Used Barbour is not an in-demand item in the ES set, unless OP's kid being targeted by a roving band of outdoorsy WASPs, but I appreciate your poor attempt at a flame war.

You have no idea. This stuff happens often and you're crazy if you think murders only happen for expensive items. . A person was mudered in Fort Washington in 2005 over a $350 North Face jacket.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/a-jacket-to-die-for/2012/11/30/b3e8bc48-3b26-11e2-8a97-363b0f9a0ab3_story.html

https://www.npr.org/2019/11/26/782941770/after-36-years-in-prison-for-georgetown-jacket-murder-3-men-are-exonerated-at-la

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9383419/Hussain-Chaudhry-Teenager-18-arrested-murder-law-student.html

because it was NORTHFACE! not abrand associated with the Windsors (barf)

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

Op here. Part of the appeal for him is that it’s not puffy. He doesn’t like the feel of the puffy jackets for whatever reason it’s always irked him. He also never liked the touch sensation of bumpier/rougher textured fleece and Sherpa jackets. When given it he said he also likes it because it’s different than any thing he had seen before. He thinks it’s pretty cool which I mean, is that not the goal of finding something you find cool at that age? I don’t need to rewax it apparently until it wears off and it’s fitting loose enough he had movement. It’s still too warm to wear it but I think it’s giving him the option to not wear the Sherpa or puffers. I’m going to still seek a cheaper alternative too as a second jacket for this year - one that is versatile enough for rain, sleet, snow, or shine. Not too heavy, not too light.
Financially, would we be able to replace it? No. But because he does think it’s cool, I do want him to enjoy it.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

Op here. Part of the appeal for him is that it’s not puffy. He doesn’t like the feel of the puffy jackets for whatever reason it’s always irked him. He also never liked the touch sensation of bumpier/rougher textured fleece and Sherpa jackets. When given it he said he also likes it because it’s different than any thing he had seen before. He thinks it’s pretty cool which I mean, is that not the goal of finding something you find cool at that age? I don’t need to rewax it apparently until it wears off and it’s fitting loose enough he had movement. It’s still too warm to wear it but I think it’s giving him the option to not wear the Sherpa or puffers. I’m going to still seek a cheaper alternative too as a second jacket for this year - one that is versatile enough for rain, sleet, snow, or shine. Not too heavy, not too light.
Financially, would we be able to replace it? No. But because he does think it’s cool, I do want him to enjoy it.

This is all reasonable OP. Sounds like you've thought it through enough.

FWIW I think I could make it across our monkey bars in my Barbour. Maybe mine doesn't fit right?

[Anonymous]

with stuff like that for my kids- i have successfully stashed an apple airtag in the seam or inner pocket and its helped us track stuff down. I have an airtag in my kids backpacks as well as their bikes and its been very effective. We are the sort of adhd family that is always losing stuff, you know teh family that comes to your house and always leave something behind? thats us- and i find having the airtag really helpful, we've used it to track stuff down a lot. My kids have vintage toys in their back packs that they woudl be devestated to lose which is why i thought of it.

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If he likes it and you don’t care if he looses it, go ahead. But don’t be mad at him for something that is very likely to happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

Op here. Part of the appeal for him is that it’s not puffy. He doesn’t like the feel of the puffy jackets for whatever reason it’s always irked him. He also never liked the touch sensation of bumpier/rougher textured fleece and Sherpa jackets. When given it he said he also likes it because it’s different than any thing he had seen before. He thinks it’s pretty cool which I mean, is that not the goal of finding something you find cool at that age? I don’t need to rewax it apparently until it wears off and it’s fitting loose enough he had movement. It’s still too warm to wear it but I think it’s giving him the option to not wear the Sherpa or puffers. I’m going to still seek a cheaper alternative too as a second jacket for this year - one that is versatile enough for rain, sleet, snow, or shine. Not too heavy, not too light.
Financially, would we be able to replace it? No. But because he does think it’s cool, I do want him to enjoy it.

This is all reasonable OP. Sounds like you've thought it through enough.

FWIW I think I could make it across our monkey bars in my Barbour. Maybe mine doesn't fit right?

I went down such a rabbit hole on the Barbour reddit.

[Anonymous]

Again - the relevant comparison is not the brand new price on jcrew.com but the price on Poshmark, since you received it used. Price for the adult Bedale is around $150-250, so that's the amount you're putting at risk.

I don't think it makes sense to prohibit your son from wearing this jacket that he likes to school. It's where he goes 5/7 days of the week, and before long he'll outgrow it. Let him enjoy it while he can. If he loses it, his punishment is that he no longer has the cool jacket he likes, and you can let him know that the replacement will be bought at Goodwill for 75% off.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your 4th grader even like the coat? It's something Kate Middleton would wear. Kids don't always like "nice" clothes if they are very different from what the other kids are wearing.

Agree. I have a Barbour. I’m assuming you mean one of their traditional waxed jackets? They are great for rainy days an adult on hikes, running earrands, walking to work, but I’d never put a kid in one for the school playground. They are quite structured and it really isn’t appropriate outerwear for recess IMO. They aren’t warm alone and need layering and no way could you traverse the monkey bars in one

Op here. Part of the appeal for him is that it’s not puffy. He doesn’t like the feel of the puffy jackets for whatever reason it’s always irked him. He also never liked the touch sensation of bumpier/rougher textured fleece and Sherpa jackets. When given it he said he also likes it because it’s different than any thing he had seen before. He thinks it’s pretty cool which I mean, is that not the goal of finding something you find cool at that age? I don’t need to rewax it apparently until it wears off and it’s fitting loose enough he had movement. It’s still too warm to wear it but I think it’s giving him the option to not wear the Sherpa or puffers. I’m going to still seek a cheaper alternative too as a second jacket for this year - one that is versatile enough for rain, sleet, snow, or shine. Not too heavy, not too light.
Financially, would we be able to replace it? No. But because he does think it’s cool, I do want him to enjoy it.

Oh my god, if he WANTS to wear, please let him wear it to school. When else would he wear it? Please let the poor kid wear his jacket to school.

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If he likes it and wants to wear it, let him. It’s not like he will be able to wear it for but so many years. If you want him to wear it because social engineering, your bat signal will keep your kid warm and dry.