Gen X parenting with Millennial parents/classmates

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Most millennials have boomer parents, most gen z have gen x parents, most gen alpha have millennial parents. Obviously this isn’t always the case.

I don’t know any gen x people as parents so I can’t really compare but I know lots of millennials and parenting styles vary. I’d say, while generation might matter a bit, family of origin, socioeconomic status, cultural background etc etc etc matter much more

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

I don’t know that this is bad. In a capitalist society, it’s kind of ridiculous to rely on free labor to get things done.
For example from my own life. You can hire teenage lifeguards to be timers at the swim meet for $15/hr. You don’t need to ask a judge to spend her limited time off standing at the edge of the pool for four hours instead of socializing with her friends and family. And we don’t need two separate times to see what a seven year old got in her 25 free.

I mean good luck finding people to coach your kids' teams or organize events at your kids' school, then. Or are you just planning to hire people to do that? I would happily plan multicultural night for $10K, thanks.

This is why most people send their kids to schools with rich PTAs who can pay 10k for multicultural night. Poor schools are usually one culture anyway so multicultural night isn’t possible or needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re mixing the generations.
Everyone Deserves a Trophy is how the Millennials were raised, mostly by boomer parents. Going to bed without dinner was also a boomer parent thing.

I think that was more of a 1950s thing which was before a large part of the boomers were even born. Even then I don’t think it was ever common although I’m sure it’s still being used in an tiny amount of families.

1950's is peak boomer. The United States Census Bureau defines baby boomers as "individuals born in the United States between mid-1946 and mid-1964".

In the 50s and 60s, boomers were young so they were the ones being sent to bed without dinner by the Greatest Gen or Silent Gen parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

I don’t know that this is bad. In a capitalist society, it’s kind of ridiculous to rely on free labor to get things done.
For example from my own life. You can hire teenage lifeguards to be timers at the swim meet for $15/hr. You don’t need to ask a judge to spend her limited time off standing at the edge of the pool for four hours instead of socializing with her friends and family. And we don’t need two separate times to see what a seven year old got in her 25 free.

I mean good luck finding people to coach your kids' teams or organize events at your kids' school, then. Or are you just planning to hire people to do that? I would happily plan multicultural night for $10K, thanks.

+1 The first PP clearly lives in a bubble. My DH coaches a volleyball rec team. He's had kids playing whose parents really had to stretch to pay the rec league fee. But because his time is free, the kids got to play and make friends. Joining a club team with paid employees would have been out of the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you are foul. Sending kids to bed without dinner isn’t a gen x thing, it’s a bad parenting thing for people who are not smart.

OP here. I’m the boss on this ship you can call me skippy

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Anonymous wrote:I am genx. I had my DD at 40 (husband was 41)

I feel our “old school” ways of parenting (not everyone deserves a trophy mentality, go to bed without dinner. Not as strict as we were raised, but influenced ) is so different than how my child’s friends are being raised.

How did GenX parents raise their kids vs Millennials?

Are GenX kids the GenZ?

What are Millennials kids generation?

Are Millennials’ parents Boomers?

Wow wheel chair parents

You’re a disgusting 🐷

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

Our experience as well we attribute it two a) more two income families because of expenses with housing etc b) the rise of SAHD and moms with CAREERS rather than more flexible part time mom jobs. For our oldest, we didn’t know a SINGLE family with a mom who worked 40 hour job once kids were in kinder. That has changed. Dads just don’t volunteer as much except sports.

Where were you living? That sounds bizarre.

+1, GenX here and all my friends have careers outside the home. There is no way you are in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

I don’t know that this is bad. In a capitalist society, it’s kind of ridiculous to rely on free labor to get things done.
For example from my own life. You can hire teenage lifeguards to be timers at the swim meet for $15/hr. You don’t need to ask a judge to spend her limited time off standing at the edge of the pool for four hours instead of socializing with her friends and family. And we don’t need two separate times to see what a seven year old got in her 25 free.

I’m genx and have the opposite experience. It’s the millennial parents that volunteer and I dislike volunteering and would rather pay.

I wish swim teams would stop nagging the parents and just pay for timers, concessions, etc. Every week is a struggle to get the necessary number of volunteers. I think that’s the only reason they wanted us back this year and sent multiple emails: I always used to volunteer at each meet.

Swim team volunteering requirements are excessive. I think any generation parents can agree on that, at least in NVSL. It literally drives families away (especially the THREE separate times for the 7 year old).

But the capitalist society PP realizes that our entire society wasn't built on expecting paid labor for everything, right? For example the poverty line was at least initially set expecting every family to have an economizing housewife at home who would make the best use of every dollar and cent having been trained well by the huge home ec programs that used to exist. A lot of assumptions in our society actually do expect there is a group of people who aren't earners who are contributing to society in unpaid ways. I don't think it's a good thing that this was assumed to be women for the longest time, but I also think it would be fine if we allowed that some people enjoy not working but yet volunteering for things and gave them scope to do that, regardless of sex or gender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op you are foul. Sending kids to bed without dinner isn’t a gen x thing, it’s a bad parenting thing for people who are not smart.

OP here. I’m the boss on this ship you can call me skippy

Not the OP (above). Another sassy teen that thinks they are hilarious

[Anonymous]

I have a 10 and 7 year old and we have never been given a participation trophy. I am Xennial (born in 1980) and was given one almost every season of playing sports growing up.

[Anonymous]

Gen X parent here. Does anyone else remember how ridiculously time intensive parenting was like 15 years ago? Attachment parenting was in vogue, which meant that you were literally physically touching your child all of the time. You more or less never put them down until they were old enough to hold your hand and walk. Very few people did this, but getting as close to this as possible was the goal.
Oh, and you were never supposed to give your kids any processed food ever. Everything homemade and preferably grown in your garden or nearby.
Basically, every regular mom, even those working outside the home, was supposed to act like a tradwife.

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Anonymous wrote:Im gen x with a 9 year old. My parents were silent generation. My parents were loving, sacrificed, and didn’t tolerate bs. I parent the same way but am more permissive because i have more time and disposable income. I don’t believe in participation trophies after the age of 9. Im strict about behavior expectations but I’m more open about emotions and more forgiving of kids being kids, i don’t care about swear words- i care about proper grammar, manners, and being kind. I am shocked at kids today being mean, trash talking, saying dumb things- telling kids they cheated or don’t belong someplace. I can’t believe how many mean kids there are- what makes them think they can just say anything? Sure think it but why walk up yo a kid and say I am better than you- thats some millenial bs parenting right there…

Frankly, I think that’s old school Gen X and boomer parenting. Kids don’t say that stuff unless they hear it at home.

They hear it on their phones, not from their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

Our experience as well we attribute it two a) more two income families because of expenses with housing etc b) the rise of SAHD and moms with CAREERS rather than more flexible part time mom jobs. For our oldest, we didn’t know a SINGLE family with a mom who worked 40 hour job once kids were in kinder. That has changed. Dads just don’t volunteer as much except sports.

Where were you living? That sounds bizarre.

+1, GenX here and all my friends have careers outside the home. There is no way you are in DC.

The key words here are “all my friends”. That doesn’t describe all of DC. Half of DC is young single people. A lot of transient workers. Your life does not describe all of DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gen X parent here. Does anyone else remember how ridiculously time intensive parenting was like 15 years ago? Attachment parenting was in vogue, which meant that you were literally physically touching your child all of the time. You more or less never put them down until they were old enough to hold your hand and walk. Very few people did this, but getting as close to this as possible was the goal.
Oh, and you were never supposed to give your kids any processed food ever. Everything homemade and preferably grown in your garden or nearby.
Basically, every regular mom, even those working outside the home, was supposed to act like a tradwife.

Yes! And if you did give your kid regular goldfish at the park you got schooled by the moms and told you how bad they were for your kid. While they breastfed their 7 year old on demand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen X parent here. Does anyone else remember how ridiculously time intensive parenting was like 15 years ago? Attachment parenting was in vogue, which meant that you were literally physically touching your child all of the time. You more or less never put them down until they were old enough to hold your hand and walk. Very few people did this, but getting as close to this as possible was the goal.
Oh, and you were never supposed to give your kids any processed food ever. Everything homemade and preferably grown in your garden or nearby.
Basically, every regular mom, even those working outside the home, was supposed to act like a tradwife.

Yes! And if you did give your kid regular goldfish at the park you got schooled by the moms and told you how bad they were for your kid. While they breastfed their 7 year old on demand.

Haha! That’s right!

There is no reason to call millennials insane. We were just as insane.

I used to drive out to this farm where I would get free range chickens, and I baked all of my own bread. I made six loaves at a time. My older kids never watched television except for one episode a day of Sesame St, and anytime I was home, they were with me doing whatever I was doing.

I yelled at them so much. It was so overwhelming and dumb.