Gen X parenting with Millennial parents/classmates

[Anonymous]

I think you’re mixing the generations.
Everyone Deserves a Trophy is how the Millennials were raised, mostly by boomer parents. Going to bed without dinner was also a boomer parent thing.

[Anonymous]

we never sent kids to bed without dinner but def expected them to take into account others around them - have younger cousins with gentle parenting style that is intolerable to be around for more than a few hours. we've cut vacations short in a shared house to avoid the toddler - 5 year olds running the house hold - offering 3 different things for dinner and having the kids throw food on the floor, screaming fits, hitting the parents etc. and these are not kids with special needs. Kids need a sense of community and that as part of a group they are not always going to get their way

[Anonymous]

These threads about generational differences are so tiresome. People are just different. It’s not bc they’re millennial or gen x or whatever. I’m a millennial who is more “old school” in some ways (don’t think everyone needs a trophy, my kids go out and play w neighborhood kids and aren’t constantly supervised/no helicoptering, we have sit down family dinner most nights and it’s a somewhat more formal thing. You don’t wear a hat at dinner, you ask to be excused when you’re done, table manners are taught, etc.) but we are more involved in our kids’ lives than our parents were, we actually talk to our kids about their feelings, we let them express opinions and value their ideas/opinions, we talk to them much more as equal people in the family whereas in our families growing up it was more of a children should be seen and not heard and never ok to question our parents’ authority.

[Anonymous]

I’m 47 with a 20 year old and 16 yo, so I am Gen X. My parents are boomers. I was never sent to bed without dinner as punishment. One thing I do notice is that my parents were less likely to apologize if they were wrong, my DH and I definitely apologize when we are wrong, and my millennial friends go overboard with the apologies even when they aren’t wrong. 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am genx. I had my DD at 40 (husband was 41)

I feel our “old school” ways of parenting (not everyone deserves a trophy mentality, go to bed without dinner. Not as strict as we were raised, but influenced ) is so different than how my child’s friends are being raised.

How did GenX parents raise their kids vs Millennials?

Are GenX kids the GenZ?

What are Millennials kids generation?

Are Millennials’ parents Boomers?

I'm Gen X and I have to ask how does missing dinner teach anything? Food is necessary. What you are doing is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I was trying to come up with a contrasting way of parenting between the generations.

I feel I explain my feelings a lot to my child. Why I am upset. And I also try to make sure she s HEARD. (I didn’t get that from my parents. Silent Generation)

We are probably more protective. Maybe we saw more, experienced shady stuff growing up.

I was also raised by silent. I think being heard is a GOOD thing!

[Anonymous]

Op you are foul. Sending kids to bed without dinner isn’t a gen x thing, it’s a bad parenting thing for people who are not smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am genx. I had my DD at 40 (husband was 41)

I feel our “old school” ways of parenting (not everyone deserves a trophy mentality, go to bed without dinner. Not as strict as we were raised, but influenced ) is so different than how my child’s friends are being raised.

How did GenX parents raise their kids vs Millennials?

Are GenX kids the GenZ?

What are Millennials kids generation?

Are Millennials’ parents Boomers?

I'm Gen X and I have to ask how does missing dinner teach anything? Food is necessary. What you are doing is wrong.

Gen X with late silent generation parents. I don't remember going to bed without dinner, but corporal punishment was always on the table.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Can't believe what ageism is on this thread, acting like 40 year olds are in wheelchairs. I had a kid at 41 and am in better shape than when I was younger. Respect your elders.

[Anonymous]

Going to bed without dinner is if they don't like what is served, then that's their problem. I'm Gen-x. We obeyed our parents, even if it meant eating vegetables. I feel like parents aren't the main influencer of children anymore. There are too many outside influences these days and not good ones, like screens, the Amazon culture of instant gratification, and bizarre school systems that don't even use books or teach cursive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did GenX parents raise their kids vs Millennials?

Are GenX kids the GenZ? Yes or gen alpha

What are Millennials kids generation? Gen Z or Alpha

Are Millennials’ parents Boomers? Yes largely

I'm gen x and had my kids at 42 so they are still young. I would never send them to bed without dinner. I thought gen x was kind and accepting. Gen X doesn't care about trophies or winning. Sounds like you are describing old school boomer parenting.

I don’t know anyone who that happened to with boomer parents. Some more stereotyping I see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Millennial married to an X-er. The difference my Gen X DH claims he sees is that many younger parents (not borderline Millenials like me) are less likely to step up and get involved in sports, clubs, and PTAs. It's not a perfect generalization and there are definitely exceptions on both sides, but it does seem like fewer and fewer people volunteer for things every year.

I don’t know that this is bad. In a capitalist society, it’s kind of ridiculous to rely on free labor to get things done.
For example from my own life. You can hire teenage lifeguards to be timers at the swim meet for $15/hr. You don’t need to ask a judge to spend her limited time off standing at the edge of the pool for four hours instead of socializing with her friends and family. And we don’t need two separate times to see what a seven year old got in her 25 free.

I mean good luck finding people to coach your kids' teams or organize events at your kids' school, then. Or are you just planning to hire people to do that? I would happily plan multicultural night for $10K, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Can't believe what ageism is on this thread, acting like 40 year olds are in wheelchairs. I had a kid at 41 and am in better shape than when I was younger. Respect your elders.

47 year old here who had my youngest at 39, and yeah, no. That's BS. Respect everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re mixing the generations.
Everyone Deserves a Trophy is how the Millennials were raised, mostly by boomer parents. Going to bed without dinner was also a boomer parent thing.

I think that was more of a 1950s thing which was before a large part of the boomers were even born. Even then I don’t think it was ever common although I’m sure it’s still being used in an tiny amount of families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re mixing the generations.
Everyone Deserves a Trophy is how the Millennials were raised, mostly by boomer parents. Going to bed without dinner was also a boomer parent thing.

I think that was more of a 1950s thing which was before a large part of the boomers were even born. Even then I don’t think it was ever common although I’m sure it’s still being used in an tiny amount of families.

1950's is peak boomer. The United States Census Bureau defines baby boomers as "individuals born in the United States between mid-1946 and mid-1964".