Vent: husband half-a**es everything

[Anonymous]

It’s half assed bc he doesn’t know what he’s doing and you DO need an electrician. It’s beyond his limitations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team DH, if the switch works it’s not a big deal. Deal with it or pay someone to fix it as he suggested.

Not OP but it doesn't work! What are you missing about that?

It sounds like it works to turn the light on as long as the light has been turned off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

I think it’s more like if you asked him to hang a large mirror, and it’s an inch off center.

No, this is completely different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team DH, if the switch works it’s not a big deal. Deal with it or pay someone to fix it as he suggested.

Not OP but it doesn't work! What are you missing about that?

It sounds like it works to turn the light on as long as the light has been turned off.

It's almost like you people have never operated a light switch before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team DH, if the switch works it’s not a big deal. Deal with it or pay someone to fix it as he suggested.

Not OP but it doesn't work! What are you missing about that?

It sounds like it works to turn the light on as long as the light has been turned off.

It's almost like you people have never operated a light switch before.

I have. I have a light in my kitchen like this. There is a switch by the garage door, and a switch by the living room. If it happens that someone turns on the switch by the garage door, and then later turns the lights off using the switch by the living room, then you can’t turn the lights on again with the living room switch. It happens like once a week, and you have to walk eight steps across the kitchen and fix it.

It is a very minor annoyance. Sort of like having something slightly off center.

[Anonymous]

Just put a piece of tape over the other switch that needs to be in the off position. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

I'm more concerned because there are three connection points on a three way switch and two on a single pole so what did he wire together to make this work? Did he even ground it? Please, please know when to call an expert!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband and would not split up my family but I 100% sometimes think about how nice my house would be if I was not married and didn't have to humor my husband with stuff like this -- he would absolutely do this and then try to convince me it was fine and also complain that hiring someone to fix it properly was a waste of money. It's laziness and being cheap combined with masculine pride and it's genuinely irritating to have to work around it just to deal with extremely simple household issues.

OP here.

This is pretty much a million percent it in a nutshell. I'm also not going to split up my family over this, but it's so irritating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you fix it

Because likely she was doing other necessary stuff?

Yes, it takes a lot of time and energy to micromanage a family and nitpick every tiny flaw in an entire house…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

It's honestly more annoying because if my husband hung a painting upside down I could easily fix that myself but what OP Is describing requires either her DH to figure out what he did wrong and fix it OR to call and electrician. Which is almost certainly what OP wanted to do in the first place but was told "no that's a waste of money when I can just do it myself" and now her DH is trying to convince her that the fact that the switch does not work properly is actually fine and "it's been like that for 10 years" when it hasn't.

This is 100% his screw up and instead of admitting it and saying "you're right I will fix it next week" or "I'm in over my head let's just hire an electrician" he is lying and trying to make her think it's fine when it isn't.

There are just people on these boards who default to blaming the wife for everything and can's seem to understand that there are actually situations where a DH is wrong and it is totally merited to be annoyed with him.

Sorry maybe I missed it but… why can’t OP figure out how to fix it herself? Talk about weaponized incompetence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband and would not split up my family but I 100% sometimes think about how nice my house would be if I was not married and didn't have to humor my husband with stuff like this -- he would absolutely do this and then try to convince me it was fine and also complain that hiring someone to fix it properly was a waste of money. It's laziness and being cheap combined with masculine pride and it's genuinely irritating to have to work around it just to deal with extremely simple household issues.

OP here.

This is pretty much a million percent it in a nutshell. I'm also not going to split up my family over this, but it's so irritating.

I had a housekeeper like you once. Everything was perfect, and if she couldn’t do it, she hired professionals She was divorced three times and had a child die by suicide, but she was a f**king great housekeeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband and would not split up my family but I 100% sometimes think about how nice my house would be if I was not married and didn't have to humor my husband with stuff like this -- he would absolutely do this and then try to convince me it was fine and also complain that hiring someone to fix it properly was a waste of money. It's laziness and being cheap combined with masculine pride and it's genuinely irritating to have to work around it just to deal with extremely simple household issues.

OP here.

This is pretty much a million percent it in a nutshell. I'm also not going to split up my family over this, but it's so irritating.

I had a housekeeper like you once. Everything was perfect, and if she couldn’t do it, she hired professionals She was divorced three times and had a child die by suicide, but she was a f**king great housekeeper.

WTH?

[Anonymous]

It’s a 5 minute project if you can use a screwdriver- teal dh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Weaponized incompetence.

The light switch works, no sparks, no short circuit. What’s the problem? Demanding things work just so is a personal problem, not a problem in other people.

The issue is that if you want to turn on the light you have to walk to the other end of the hallway and ensure that switch is in the off position. Also in a house with kids stuff like this gets annoying really fast because you'll have a kid who absentmindedly changes the switches for no reason so you are going to have to go change that switch constantly.

I would find that very annoying as well and would want it fixed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

It's honestly more annoying because if my husband hung a painting upside down I could easily fix that myself but what OP Is describing requires either her DH to figure out what he did wrong and fix it OR to call and electrician. Which is almost certainly what OP wanted to do in the first place but was told "no that's a waste of money when I can just do it myself" and now her DH is trying to convince her that the fact that the switch does not work properly is actually fine and "it's been like that for 10 years" when it hasn't.

This is 100% his screw up and instead of admitting it and saying "you're right I will fix it next week" or "I'm in over my head let's just hire an electrician" he is lying and trying to make her think it's fine when it isn't.

There are just people on these boards who default to blaming the wife for everything and can's seem to understand that there are actually situations where a DH is wrong and it is totally merited to be annoyed with him.

THIS. If this type of interaction happens every once in awhile you shrug and move on. Hire an electrician to fix it and next time go straight to the electrician. If this type of interaction plays out frequently in your relationship, that’s a cause for concern.