Vent: husband half-a**es everything

[Anonymous]

That's great get off the internet and do it hag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weaponized incompetence.

The light switch works, no sparks, no short circuit. What’s the problem? Demanding things work just so is a personal problem, not a problem in other people.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand?

What are the two different way to wire the switches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand?

What are the two different way to wire the switches?

Sounds like you needed to buy a 3-way switch. Whoever bought the switch is at fault, OP.

[Anonymous]

I love my husband and would not split up my family but I 100% sometimes think about how nice my house would be if I was not married and didn't have to humor my husband with stuff like this -- he would absolutely do this and then try to convince me it was fine and also complain that hiring someone to fix it properly was a waste of money. It's laziness and being cheap combined with masculine pride and it's genuinely irritating to have to work around it just to deal with extremely simple household issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weaponized incompetence.

The light switch works, no sparks, no short circuit. What’s the problem? Demanding things work just so is a personal problem, not a problem in other people.

The issue is that if you want to turn on the light you have to walk to the other end of the hallway and ensure that switch is in the off position. Also in a house with kids stuff like this gets annoying really fast because you'll have a kid who absentmindedly changes the switches for no reason so you are going to have to go change that switch constantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weaponized incompetence.

The light switch works, no sparks, no short circuit. What’s the problem? Demanding things work just so is a personal problem, not a problem in other people.

The issue is that if you want to turn on the light you have to walk to the other end of the hallway and ensure that switch is in the off position. Also in a house with kids stuff like this gets annoying really fast because you'll have a kid who absentmindedly changes the switches for no reason so you are going to have to go change that switch constantly.

We have a couple of switches like this in our house. It happens maybe once a week and takes about fifteen seconds to resolve. It isn’t a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Op and her husband sound childish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the DW and I do all the handy stuff. I just recaulked the kitchen sink and if he had said something like “why did you use clear, white was better” I would be incensesd.

That's an opinion. In the OP, it's a fact that he didn't do the switch the right way. No one in their right mind would say that having to have one switch in the off position is the right answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team DH, if the switch works it’s not a big deal. Deal with it or pay someone to fix it as he suggested.

Not OP but it doesn't work! What are you missing about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have no idea who is responding to your post but it's a bit crazy. In any event, I think your husband was embarrassed that he did the switch wrong and didn't notice it so he acted out. That's not ok, and hopefully he'll eventually apologize and fix it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

I think it’s more like if you asked him to hang a large mirror, and it’s an inch off center.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are being mean, OP. He was probably really proud of himself for doing something new, and instead of being proud of him, you told him he did it wrong.

You wouldn’t do this with your kids. If your child made you pancakes, you would eat them and say how delicious they were. You wouldn’t be like, “oh, this is slightly undercooked,” and give it back.

Are you people reading the same post?! HE DID IT WRONG. If your husband hung a painting you asked him to hang and it was upside down would you just tell him you're proud of him and leave it? This is the same thing.

It's honestly more annoying because if my husband hung a painting upside down I could easily fix that myself but what OP Is describing requires either her DH to figure out what he did wrong and fix it OR to call and electrician. Which is almost certainly what OP wanted to do in the first place but was told "no that's a waste of money when I can just do it myself" and now her DH is trying to convince her that the fact that the switch does not work properly is actually fine and "it's been like that for 10 years" when it hasn't.

This is 100% his screw up and instead of admitting it and saying "you're right I will fix it next week" or "I'm in over my head let's just hire an electrician" he is lying and trying to make her think it's fine when it isn't.

There are just people on these boards who default to blaming the wife for everything and can's seem to understand that there are actually situations where a DH is wrong and it is totally merited to be annoyed with him.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to stay married? Call a handyman.

Is it fair that you have to do that too? No. But what will bother you more: having to call the handyman or having to walk down the hall to flip the switch?

Don’t want to call the handyman? Then find your tiny ranch or Cape Cod (which was likely built between 1930-1970 and will have plenty of its own quirks worse than an inconvenient switch), and move out. Be prepared to see your kids half the time. And be prepared to pay through the nose for housing/home maintenance.

If you are in a career where you are making enough to afford a SFH (probably in your current or better school district, because that plays into custody), plus its maintenance, plus maybe intermittent childcare (so you can work on the days when your have your kids), then why did you DIY a switch replacement in the first place?