Staying at MIL's house - a vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my MIL was wearing a sweater in 88 degree heat and complaining of cold. She had our family with small children sleep in a room that was in the mid 90s. I spent the night fanning my kids and wondering if I should take them out to the car and run the AC all night. That was the only night we stayed there. It was always a hotel after that.

A few years later she was diagnosed with moderate dementia. I wondered if it might be a reason for her strange behavior earlier.

It absolutely is. OP's MIL exhibits all the mental rigidity and hyperanxiety around changes to her routine that are typical of people with dementia. The heat thing is concerning, because the elderly don't feel thirst, so she could get dehydrated quickly if she doesn't feel heat either and overheats. Dehydration is a common cause of UTIs in the elderly, and also leads to falls, mental confusion, etc...

[Anonymous]

This is totally ridiculous, I don't believe one word of it, it is nothing but click bait for MIL haters.

[Anonymous]

I think your MIL has some cognitive decline.

Also, this never happens on dcum: TOTAL AGREEMENT! WE HAVE SPOKEN, OP! If I lived anywhere near where you are, I’d come out and rescue you!

Come back with an update ASAP! If you didn’t take our collective advice m, then you best not
update or you will face the wrath!

Tell yourself now: never again! Never! Pledge to never go stay with your MIL.

Sort of kind of a similar situation but my ILs invited our family of 3DC to stay at their vacation 2BR condo! Yay! Free family vacation so we went. Surprise! We arrived and ILs were there - they were staying, too! Bait and switch!

[Anonymous]

Take an Uber to the public library to work. It's air-conditioned and everyone has to be quiet there. You can sneak snacks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to a coworking space (like WeWork). $50/day or less.

If she’s this cheap she could just go to the public library.

Seriously.

I can’t believe an adult with a job would put up with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just a vent! Currently staying at MIL's house. My niece is getting married this weekend, so we are in town for the wedding. DH wanted to come here for the whole week as she has wedding festivities going on this week. I'm working remotely from her house this week....

It's only Tuesday. We are here until Sunday. I also should say that she is not happy about her granddaughter's wedding so this attitude might be why she's acting this way, but I should say that normally she's tolerable at best and typically very stubborn.

Go to a hotel today. You have no air conditioning, no bed to sleep in, no car, and no quiet private spot to work. If the DH doesn't like it go home.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a fake post.

[Anonymous]

1. MIL has some level of dementia.
2. Now you know for the future how it is to stay with her.
3. Rent a hotel for the rest of the trip. (As pps have said, she'd obviously prefer to ha e her space back to the way it was)
4. Rent a car. Or else you and DH are attached to her for all wedding activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ahhhh you have a DH problem not a MIL problem!

Get thee to a hotel.

at a minimum rent a car and go to a library from the beginning to end of day + gym

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a fake post.

OP has melted away from the heat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a fake post.

OP has melted away from the heat.

COME BACK, OP! Don’t ghost us.

I hope OP is luxuriating in a nice bubble bath at the hotel she’s escaped to - solo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a way to save money somewhere else. And get out of there and get a hotel room. Immediately. I

This.

[Anonymous]

Tell your DH that you were willing to try the home stay but it’s simply not working - you are tired, hot, and don’t have peace for work and (wink wink) you know it’s not fair to require his mom to sacrifice. You have to get a hotel or a car - his choice.

[Anonymous]

Fly home to work. You can miss the wedding or fly back just for the day.

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll. No grown woman worthy of the name woman would put up with this. I have a credit card, an Uber app and an ID. I would have been in a hotel within the hour of someone treating me like that. You tell me I can’t go on a WALK or access a car that you previously told me I could use? Bye. I don’t stay in places where my freedom of mobility is compromised.