Staying at MIL's house - a vent

[Anonymous]

1. Rent a car and work from a coffee shop or local library all day long.
2. Buy a fan for your room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ahhhh you have a DH problem not a MIL problem!

Get thee to a hotel.

I agree it's a husband problem. His only excuse would be if MIL has significantly deteriorated since he last visited. Tell him you can't sleep in 93F and that you need to work elsewhere too, so you're getting a hotel room. He can stay and suffer if he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did she invite you to stay with her? Or did DH invite himself and you? It sounds like she likes her house her way (her right) and maybe you guys should go ahead and move to a hotel and get a rental car after all.

This. Also, this is ridiculous:

DH told her that I need it quiet during work hours as I'm on meetings a lot during the day, and she'd need to keep the TV turned down.

You are a guest in her home! You don't get to tell her what she can and cannot do. DH and I are both super cheap, but get a damn hotel. Your MIL is not the problem here. DH's refusal to pay for accommodations that would meet your needs is the only problem I see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ahhhh you have a DH problem not a MIL problem!

Get thee to a hotel.

OP has a backbone problem. It's ok to put your foot down once in awhile.

[Anonymous]

Always get the rental car.

[Anonymous]

These situations are the worst. DH doesn't want to spend the money or offend his mom. And you get stuck the loser. I know it would cause problems, but I would tell DH that this is untenable. He is not the one who has to work in the situation. So he should stay there with his mom, have some quality time, and you go to the hotel and work.

I know there will be push back, but deep down MIL will be thrilled -- if you have a good excuse.

[Anonymous]

You could even check in tomorrow morning and return for the wedding. The hotel part is "Just for work."

[Anonymous]

I cannot fathom being in a relationship like this. Grow some balls and get a hotel room or go home. If you can't afford the hotel, you can't afford to be there. You have a massive DH problem.

[Anonymous]

This is on you. Uber out of there now and get a hotel.

No complaining. Fix this.

[Anonymous]

If you afford to remodel and a pricey vacation, you can afford a hotel.

She does not want company.

[Anonymous]

You are a grown woman.

Get a rental car.

Go stay in a hotel.

It's not too late to do that.

Be polite about it.

Let DH stay there if he wants.

I am befuddled as to why you came for the whole week. Why didn't you let DH come and join him on Friday? You clearly did not drive together.

[Anonymous]

Rent a car. Get a hotel and say you're coming down with something and don't want to spread it to her, given her age. Then, meet back up again on Friday when you're feeling better.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like MIL is trying to get you to take the hint. But your DH is too cheap and you're too passive to get a clue. She doesn't want you there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you afford to remodel and a pricey vacation, you can afford a hotel.

She does not want company.

+1. MIL is likely aware that you are staying only to reduce your bottom line. No one likes being expected to run a hotel in their own home. If your MIL came to visit and harped on the way you like to live in your own home, you’d be ticked, too.

Go pay for a hotel room. You sound like a lousy guest.

[Anonymous]

What is your husband telling you when you bring this up? This is batsh*t.