The minority characteristic does play a role here. OP describes a woman who sees her ethnicity or minority status a key aspect of her worldview and what defines and determines her relationships to everyone else in the company, including her supervisor, and her work itself. I'd be having talks with HR about her and seeing a way out of the door for her. She's not a good fit. She causes tension and doesn't respond well to instructions. End of story. |
Yep. The racism is starting to trickle out… |
I don't see the issue with this. Management asked for feedback and she gave her opinion which likely won't be followed up on. Maybe it's a stupid idea. So what? |
Yeah… I’m not going to trust an older white woman’s word on a young woman of color’s “worldview” coming about as a result of her race and that this is the cause of issues at work. This inclination of OP to have an opinion regarding how this employee’s race effects their “worldview” and “relationship to everyone in the company” is incredibly problematic at best, and at the end of the day it is going to be HR’s job to deal with OP, not the young woman OP is complaining about. |
| Sounds like she doesn’t want to be there, leave her to do half assed job and transfer her out. |
You don't think the one with the bad attitude and unproven track record is going to be HRs problem? Ok. |
It's an expensive idea that basically says she doesn't like the working environment she just started working at. It has nothing to do with any problem she's having at work. |
You do it by mentoring them and reminding them that it's important to know what you don't know and not to approach things where they come off as frequently wrong but rarely in doubt. They need to be put in their place sometimes. |
| I would shift my perspective to her being an adult child. She’s clearly an adult and may be able to do decent work but she’s also immature. Use patience, clear instructions, and redirection just as you would a child. |
| OP, I've worked with individuals like this. They're emotionally immature and have been around people who have normalized this type of interaction. She needs to outgrow it. I agree that you're probably being dismissed as a typical white lady and as an authority figure. Be kind but also don't be overly nice. She's mistaking professionalism and lack of confrontation for being weak. If she tries to tell you to do her work, let her know that this is part of her job and you need it done by "x." Said politely and kindly. You're in charge, OP. It's ok to be in charge. And if she doesn't do her assigned work, she gets fired. |
| She knows she won’t be fired because she is a minority. And she is loving watching white people squirm. |
| She is young and she models. She may have an inflated sense of self importance, but most of the problems you describe are about not understanding her role and level, and what you want from her. Spend time making sure that is crystal clear. You are getting pretty weird with assumptions about her worldview and culture, you are not in her head and talking about this with HR is going to make you look out of touch. |
Just like you would with your teen kid |
| Ok so what’s her religion and ethnicity? |
What working environment? The furniture and the old carpet? Now you're just looking for things to hate on. |