I think her parents did the right thing. It is more stable for the kid. I would love that setup. |
Hah, not in my situation. Deadbeat dad. Could hardly hold a job. My daughter is 20 and she still does not want to see him. |
You love the set up as it would benefit you. That's pathetic. |
Your mom could have moved and given your dad custody. Problem solved. |
If you don't think 50-50 is right for your kids, you have the kids be with their other parent full time and you see them every other weekend. |
Not a red flag right away. Not enough information. This is what he told you so you'd bug off.
I had an ex who I thought could do something to our child if I got too close. I wasn't much off. His mental decline was so rapid and he took himself out soon after we separated. I was told by so many that I was a bad mother for not going to court. I knew there's a possibility of him hurting the child. To make sure it doesn't happen, I simply stayed away. |
C'mon, you already know the answer to this. |
Problem solved? So, you’re okay with dad having full custody, just not mom? Why are you so opinionated and obstinate about other people making the right choices for themselves? Obviously, this arrangement worked out well for these people. Why does this bother you? Because you have deep unresolved issues? |
Yes. Been there, done that. Husband barely has a relationship now with his adult children, and wonders why they barely speak to him. He didn't invest. I tried for years to keep them all together, but as the kids became young adults, in college, etc. they just didn't have the time, and there was no real foundational relationship there to hold them through that typical phase. I have no respect for his lack of parenting efforts, and I have no empathy when he feels bad about not seeing his kids. And that alone is a bad place to be with your life partner. Run. |
Yup this. +1,000,000,000 |
It benefits the kids. Stability and routine is better. Not Think that scenario would benefit me because I would have even less time than I already do. I do get child support so I don’t know if you were thinking there would be some financial benefit because with equal earners that’s not the case. I nest so I don’t inconvenience the kids. I am doing most of the parenting. 50/50 Custody is BS and terrible for kids. It puts the parents first and not the kids. There would be no personal benefit of me having the kids most of the time: it would benefit the kids immensely. |
I do not get child support (correction from above). |
I got a divorce because my ex was a workaholic and did no parenting. If you're ok with that go for it. |
50-50 custody has Stability and routine too … the talk of “bouncing around” is as if the kids don’t know what’s going to happen next … like a schedule is whimsical or something. Maybe some situations happen like this if parents aren’t consistent. |
Tweens, yes. Teens generally don't want anything to do with their parents anyway. |