Red flag if a guy doesn’t see kids often?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

This is a bunch of BS and you know it

[Anonymous]

Run away.

[Anonymous]

What do you consider often? It sounds like you’re saying anything less than 60/50 is too infrequent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

This is a bunch of BS and you know it

No it isn't and you are too much of an idiot to know differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a red flag if a guy is separated but doesn’t seem to see his kids often? He says he works too much to have 50-50 custody. Kids are a tween and teens.

It’s better for the kids not to flip and flip.

And middle and high schools years are so busy with layered logistics it really is beat the kids live at the default parents home more.

Otherwise he’d need to step up and be more default parent and on top of everything. Or so you want to do that role for him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

His priorities are a BIG red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't have time to spend with his kids but he has time to date?

Yeah, no.

This.

[Anonymous]

My ex sees our kids about 4 times per year. His girlfriend doesn't have custody of her kid. It works for them since they have matching priorities regarding children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

I have a family member that told that story. Her ex won't let her see the kids, he keeps them from her, she didn't want them caught in the middle . . . None of it is true.

[Anonymous]

It might just mean his kids are well adjusted with mom and are very busy doing after school activities and that he doesn’t want to uproot their lives.

Personally, I think a man who demands 50-50 custody to avoid child support while his new girlfriend or mother watch the kids is that sort to run from.

But I also think 50-50 custody is a legal travesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

This is a bunch of BS and you know it

You HAVE to know that this story is very, very often false. It's so common for men to tell their girlfriends, friends, and families this. It paints them as the good guy without having the responsibility of actually parenting regularly.

So many second wives and girlfriends fall for this and end up hating the ex themselves.

Yes, parental alienation exists.

[Anonymous]

Deadbeats don't make good partners.

And +10000 or whatever we're at to the post regarding he has no time to see his kids or spend time with them, but has time to date? Nope, thats a bad guy there. Dont waste your time.

[Anonymous]

He's prioritizing dating over seeing his kids, so you can process that information however you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Way to many variables. I know someone that wants full custody of kids, and maybe sees them once every 2 weeks for 3 or 4 hours. His ex does everything she can to keep them from him. He didn't want them to be pawns, so he backed off the pressure but it is killing him.

Your partner may be honest that he is too busy toAnd the STBX understands that, and laid down the rules. That she would take full on full custody and didn't want it to be to much back and forth, create lack of stability.

Ask him what the actual agreement is and the rational behind it. That will give you more insight than a bunch of outside assumptions.

This is a bunch of BS and you know it

You HAVE to know that this story is very, very often false. It's so common for men to tell their girlfriends, friends, and families this. It paints them as the good guy without having the responsibility of actually parenting regularly.

So many second wives and girlfriends fall for this and end up hating the ex themselves.

Yes, parental alienation exists.

I'm ashamed to admit, I'm one that fell for stories told about the ex. Now those lies are being told about me too. He claims I want to take the kids from him even while I'm saying I want 50/50. Should have done my homework and actually spoke to the ex. I used to think that was a crazy thing to do, but when you're planning to have kids with someone, it's worth digging into the past to hear the other side.