OP I'm sorry about this. My father also died suddenly. He had a massive cardiac arrest in the early hours of a Sunday when he was expecting to row in a race (he rowed daily). He was not on any medication and was fit and healthy as far as anyone could see.
I do agree that going out with a bang is preferable to a slow and painful decline. But at least with that you do get to say your goodbye's and how much you love a person, before you can't say anything at all. |
NP. Go F yourself. You're not the comment police. Health anxiety can cause a lot of anticipatory grief and is a difficult thing. This isn't the grief olympics and there is room for everyone here. |
I knew someone who died for this. It was fast and horrible. I’m so sorry. |
I am so sorry OP. My SIL's brother (40s) was diagnosed with colon cancer last year and passed away within two months. You probably know this, but for others, the possibility of colon cancer goes up significantly if an immediate family member has had it, so please get tested. Now my BIL is fighting brain cancer (yes, same SIL, it's a nightmare). Cancer f'ing sucks. |
I'm so sorry OP. That is traumatic how fast it happened.
I have found great comfort with journaling and putting together a photo album- maybe you would too? It somehow gave me closure to see it all from beginning to end and to write down the very important bits. Before I did that, my mind kept trying to remember things and cling to them/put them in order. Once I did it though, it helped because now I remember their life instead of just thinking about their death. |
my friend's dh got dx with stage 4 colon cancer at his first screening colonoscopy. however that is rare. it doesn't always have symptoms though. he did have constipation which can be a symptom. |
+1 my dad died from colon cancer after horrific chemo -2 different years and in and out of the hospital. Also contracted sepsis from a catheter in liver. It was so awful. I’m sorry, OP. Cancer is such an awful disease. |
Wtf?!?!!! Awful |
Unfortunately cancer can sometimes be asymptomatic until it is quite advanced. Or the symptoms are so common/vague as to be easily dismissed or attributed to other causes.
It’s true that some cancers can be very aggressive, but in most cases when the timeline moves this quickly, the disease was there for quite some time and just went undetected. It’s very sad. OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. |
this its much much more commonly long undetected than aggressive. that's often bc of the misapprehension that it causes symptoms so people assume that they'll 'know' if they have cancer and go deal. Except in the case of a palpable breast lump, continual night sweats, seizures/ weakness or multiple swollen lymph nodes, cancer is almost always asymptomatic until late late stage. That's why preventative screenings are so important and why they are racing to develop a diagnostic blood test. |
That's not actually true. Get your facts straight. |
While this has historically been true, there has been a rise recently in more rapidly advancing cancers. |
Because the cancer rate among young people has risen so significantly. Cancer tends to progress more quickly in a 30-year-old body than an 80-year-old one. |
Cancer has increased in younger ages, however, the shift to more rapidly advancing cancers is happening across age groups recently. |
This was true for my Dad. He was diagnosed in Jan 2022 with a large liposarcoma which was removed successfully in March and he resumed normal life feeling pretty good. Doctors gave him false hope (knowing full well the prognosis for people with this was about 8 months from diagnosis). At their advisement, he started chemo in May and we saw an immediate decline. Just about the time he was finishing up that first course of treatment (late-Aug) he landed back in he hospital and it was discovered the cancer had spread aggressively. He lasted another 40 days and passed away almost 8 months exactly from the diagnosis. I seriously doubt the chemo added a single day, in fact it simply hindered the last few good months he had. |