My father died of end stage colon cancer what was discovered 1 month before he passed

[Anonymous]

I'm feel for you as well, OP. A dear friend of mine recently passed away after a one-month illness. We used to talk almost every day and now...there is silence.

Wishing you peace and strength.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, lost my mom in a similar way to stomach cancer that had been misdiagnosed as heartburn for months. Drs dismissed the signs. She was a lifelong vegetarian and active (yoga, walking), but had a big swollen belly.

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Pp - I didn’t finish my thought. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s devastating and I can imagine how shocked you must be since it was sudden. My mom died 8 years ago, and I lost my dad a year ago. I still think of her daily, even though it’s been so long (my dad too, though his death was recent). I’m glad your father didn’t suffer for too long. May he rest in peace.

[Anonymous]

My dad died 2 weeks after a cancer diagnosis in his early 60s. He was also incredibly active and healthy up until he found out. It was completely shocking and took me a long time to be ok. Give yourself some time and do some grief counseling in a few months.

[Anonymous]

wtf is wrong with doctors today?! Makes me so angry.

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My neighbor died in 3 days from a diagnosis. She had a big headache and these weird bruises on her back. Went to her doctor for a sick appointment and he told her to go immediately to the ER (based on the bruising) where they admitted her. She had left her dog at home and called us to go walk and fed him for her.

She fell into a coma the next day and died the day after that. Was absolutely insane. Was some sort of leukemia called 30 day Leukemia or something meaning is you didn’t have it diagnosed within 30 days of first sign, you die within a month.

Cancer sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:wtf is wrong with doctors today?! Makes me so angry.

They aren’t miracle workers. People still die.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry, OP. I understand a little of how you feel since several years ago, my father died of lung cancer. He was in his late sixties and had never smoked a cigarette in his life. We had a few terrifying months in which he was in and out of the hospital, deteriorating before our eyes for reasons nobody seemed to understand.
His lung cancer was diagnosed only on autopsy.
We took a big family vacation a few months before he got sick, and my father was healthy and walking probably 8 or 10 miles a day. It’s so shocking and heartbreaking to a fast-acting cancer. Those several months seem to have taken no time and to have lasted forever. My thoughts are with you.

My father also died of lung cancer very quickly, within months, never smoked a day in his life.

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Anonymous wrote:wtf is wrong with doctors today?! Makes me so angry.

They aren’t miracle workers. People still die.

I think the pp is referring to the doctors who ignore the signs of something really serious until it is too late.

We all know we die but if you could treat something sooner and live a little longer ( without suffering too much) isn't that better?

To the op I am so sorry. It is very hard and please let yourself grieve. Hope you have supportive people in your life. Sending hugs to you!

[Anonymous]

This thread is not helping my health anxiety.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is not helping my health anxiety.

Maybe this has nothing to do with you and you’re an extremely self centered jerk to try to turn other people’s grief and loss into pity for yourself.

To OP and all who are grieving, I’m very sorry. Be kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Wow this thread is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for all of you who have shared. Cancer sucks so much.

Not quite the same as losing a parent, but my FIL passed from a cancer that was supposed to be slow progressing. We knew it would likely eventually kill him, but thought we had years to manage it. Then once he was opened up for surgery the doctors realized it had spread all over. He was one of those rare cases where symptoms show up too late and it grows too fast. He had only just reached retirement age and it honestly makes me realize how much we have to balance enjoying being alive today with saving and putting things off to an uncertain future.

On the other hand I’m watching my father decline from a slow progressing neurological disease and that is terrible in its own way too.

Loss (and pending loss) is hard. With the quick deaths you don’t have time to prepare and with the long deaths you watch them suffer. Sucks all around.

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

[Anonymous]

So very sorry op.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is not helping my health anxiety.

I didn’t have health anxiety until I read this thread 😣