My father died of end stage colon cancer what was discovered 1 month before he passed

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

I’m so sorry this happened.
In a way, there is something to be said for enjoying life to the end rather than suffering in the knowledge you have a disease that it’s very very hard to manage.

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Honestly - if I had to I’d rather die quickly than suffer through many years of harsh cancer “treatments.”

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly - if I had to I’d rather die quickly than suffer through many years of harsh cancer “treatments.”

I'm a PP whose BIL died in 3 weeks from an inoperable brain tumor. I would rather go that way than linger like my MIL and her slow, painful decline with Parkinson's. A few years ago, her muscular contractions were so bad one night that she broke vertebrae. She was in so much pain. Her doctors adjusted her meds immediately after that (she was put on a pump that delivers meds more efficiently throughout the day), but goodness - no one should have to go through that.

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Turbo cancer is a real thing

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Anonymous wrote:wtf is wrong with doctors today?! Makes me so angry.

To be blunt, you can die in a second from a heart attack or brain aneurysm.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is not helping my health anxiety.

Driving is probably riskier.

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

I’m so sorry this happened.
In a way, there is something to be said for enjoying life to the end rather than suffering in the knowledge you have a disease that it’s very very hard to manage.

I don't want to take away from OP's post or hurt in any way -- but this type of comment seems naive or reckless when it fails to account for the type of cancer.
It may well be true in the case of a terminal, aggressive, inoperable, non-treatable cancer.
On the other hand, many of us are walking around today healthy, living a normal life, for decades, because we were diagnosed early with a treatable cancer.

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I’m so sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

I’m so sorry this happened.
In a way, there is something to be said for enjoying life to the end rather than suffering in the knowledge you have a disease that it’s very very hard to manage.

I don't want to take away from OP's post or hurt in any way -- but this type of comment seems naive or reckless when it fails to account for the type of cancer.
It may well be true in the case of a terminal, aggressive, inoperable, non-treatable cancer.
On the other hand, many of us are walking around today healthy, living a normal life, for decades, because we were diagnosed early with a treatable cancer.

That’s fair, but I think even with those that are treatable, there’s still a lot of variance. I had a relative die of brain cancer recently and felt like the doctors gave false hope that their life expectancy/quality of life would be markedly better with treatment than without. In the end, they died within the exact time frame that most people with that type of brain cancer die, with or without treatment…I wonder if their quality of life and that of their caretakers would have been better without all that awful treatment, multiple hospitalizations etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Turbo cancer is a real thing

We have no idea if this was so called ‘turbo cancer’. Op doesn’t indicate if her father had ever had screening. Either way it’s very hard for op

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

I’m so sorry this happened.
In a way, there is something to be said for enjoying life to the end rather than suffering in the knowledge you have a disease that it’s very very hard to manage.

I don't want to take away from OP's post or hurt in any way -- but this type of comment seems naive or reckless when it fails to account for the type of cancer.
It may well be true in the case of a terminal, aggressive, inoperable, non-treatable cancer.
On the other hand, many of us are walking around today healthy, living a normal life, for decades, because we were diagnosed early with a treatable cancer.

The comment was made with regard to pancreatic cancer. No one is walking around for decades living a normal life with that

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I’m sorry OP. It’s crazy how this was so sudden. Similar thing happened to my very health and active FIL. One week totally fine and the next developed some sort of respiratory virus and was put on a ventilator. This was in 2019-so pre-COVID. Never smoked, super healthy and whatever this was took him down.

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I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to cancer years ago so my heart goes out to you. Losing a parent is devastating.

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Anonymous wrote:The week before he went to the hospital he was walking 10k steps. Once admitted he deteriorated quickly and it was discovered quickly that he had end stage colon cancer that had metastasized all over and he was dying.

It was very sudden and quick with him getting worse and weak every day until I saw him take his last breath.

I am devastated and I go between deep grief and shock.

I cannot imagine that he would have cancer and that it would take him so quickly!

I am so sorry to read your post and hope your grief lessens over time. Losing a parent is pain beyond measure. I do feel I should clarify some things as people may not get idea of colon cancer. I am guessing your dad did have symptoms before but maybe thought it was IBS etc. Colon cancer has signs and you do not one day walk in with terminal
colon cancer with zero signs. The signs can be embarrassing though so people may not want to discuss issues with digestion etc. People need to understand that digestion is as important as monitoring shortness of breath. Screening for colon cancer is essential and the prep for colonoscopy is so much easier now. I believe you may be able to
do without getting put out if you are scared of this. Our family has been getting colonoscopy screenings early because grandparents had this. I am no longer afraid of colonoscopy and yes again the prep is so much easier today. Please OP begin getting screened early and do not wait until 50 with having a first line family member with this disease. We started at 40 and insurance covered. Wishing health and peace!!

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to a friend's wife. From pancreatic cancer diagnosis to death was 6 weeks. Doctors had dismissed her symptoms for months until she had visible jaundice. She had a stomach bleed and died pretty much instantly. Her granddaughter was born that day.

Happened to my mother, too, with pancreatic cancer. 33 days from diagnosis to death. 3 months before, she travelled all over Europe.

I’m so sorry this happened.
In a way, there is something to be said for enjoying life to the end rather than suffering in the knowledge you have a disease that it’s very very hard to manage.

I don't want to take away from OP's post or hurt in any way -- but this type of comment seems naive or reckless when it fails to account for the type of cancer.
It may well be true in the case of a terminal, aggressive, inoperable, non-treatable cancer.
On the other hand, many of us are walking around today healthy, living a normal life, for decades, because we were diagnosed early with a treatable cancer.

The comment was made with regard to pancreatic cancer. No one is walking around for decades living a normal life with that

I'm the original pp. My mother likely ignored symptoms; however, by the time significant pancreatic cancer symptoms arise, it is end stage. I am glad she toured Europe. When she was diagnosed, doctors gave her 3-6 mos w/o treatment and 6-9 with. She explicitly said no treatment, but my sibling, who had medical power over her consented to chemo. She had one treatment which set off 2 weeks of agony and, then, mercifully, her death. I learned from her experience to put my wishes for end of life care in writing. I pray that whoever is in charge of me has the guts to follow my wishes.