How soon after becoming engaged did you get married?

[Anonymous]

Engaged in May/June, wedding in November. My dad had a terminal illness and I wanted to make sure he could be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We got engaged over the weekend and I’m wondering if a September/October wedding is too soon? Some extended family members will be available then and it’s the perfect timing with our work schedules.

It will be a lot of stress planning a wedding in a short timeline and you will be charged more.

If a venue is available, it would be fine. She just needs a planner or a family member who has gone through it before.

[Anonymous]

3 months. Why wait?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We got engaged over the weekend and I’m wondering if a September/October wedding is too soon? Some extended family members will be available then and it’s the perfect timing with our work schedules.

It will be a lot of stress planning a wedding in a short timeline and you will be charged more.

I think this is definitely doable but you may need to compromise on some things. IMO better to compromise on venue rather than compromise on when it's a good time for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

LOL why?

Bible thumping stupidity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

That’s a forced marriage. This is not the type of marriage op is asking about.

Nobody forced us to get married.

One or both of you felt an obligation to do so, not for love. -dp

Abortion is legal in this country, or was until recently. So is unmarried parenthood. OP clearly wanted to marry the man.

Can you not read that is says one or both? Do you not know what one means?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

LOL why?

Bible thumping stupidity

Why are you so concerned with someone being religious?
I am not religious and am married, not for preganancy reason, but chose to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We got engaged over the weekend and I’m wondering if a September/October wedding is too soon? Some extended family members will be available then and it’s the perfect timing with our work schedules.

Are you in the DC area? That’s peak wedding season, so finding a venue on short notice will be the big challenge. You’ll also have to be flexible about your vendors (photographer, etc) since a lot of people will be booked up. It’s doable though if you’re open to options beyond your first few choices.

Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We got engaged over the weekend and I’m wondering if a September/October wedding is too soon? Some extended family members will be available then and it’s the perfect timing with our work schedules.

That is absolutely not too soon.

That was my situation. We got engaged in April after being together a little less than a year. Given other family members’ schedules, it was very hard to find a date within the next 18 months that worked for everyone. We found a venue we liked and they had an open date in September that somehow worked for all the relatives. We took it. So it was around a year and a half from meeting to wedding. We’ve been married 17 years now.

[Anonymous]

8ish months. We had a small destination wedding (don't worry, we paid for everyone to attend), so once the date was locked down it was easy to plan. The hotel took care of basically everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10 months. The reason it’s usually 12-18 months is lead time to plan the wedding. Dresses can take 6 months to have made and tailored - they don’t make it until you order it. If you are ready to make a lot of decisions fast, go for it.

Dresses don’t have to be made. People pick dresses all the time off the rack when dress counter, 26 shopping. From there it was tailored a bit.

I got a dress from a very high end designer in like 8-12 weeks, I think, but we did have to pay a rush fee. If you’re willing to pay, timelines are flexible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

LOL why?

Bible thumping stupidity

Why are you so concerned with someone being religious?
I am not religious and am married, not for preganancy reason, but chose to marry.

For me it would be the security of having some legal protections and easier than setting up a bunch of contracts. Being a new parent can cause intense reactions on some people, and giving birth is medically risky, so I'd see marriage as a safeguard. Not necessarily religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

LOL why?

Bible thumping stupidity

Why are you so concerned with someone being religious?
I am not religious and am married, not for preganancy reason, but chose to marry.

For me it would be the security of having some legal protections and easier than setting up a bunch of contracts. Being a new parent can cause intense reactions on some people, and giving birth is medically risky, so I'd see marriage as a safeguard. Not necessarily religion.

Someone accused another of bible thumping.

[Anonymous]

2 or 3 months. Our engagement was basically us deciding on a date to get married.

[Anonymous]

3 months. I wanted to be married, not engaged.