How soon after becoming engaged did you get married?

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Anonymous wrote:I know the standard is 1 year but is 6 months too soon?

Depends. If you've known each other for years and lived together for a year, six months are plenty. If you met six months ago through an app, not nearly enough.

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Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

That’s a forced marriage. This is not the type of marriage op is asking about.

Nobody forced us to get married.

One or both of you felt an obligation to do so, not for love. -dp

I married "for love" as in, the person who loved and cherished me for 12(before marriage) and now 35 years, but we definitely viewed legal marriage as basically the quick and easy way to settle wills and assets ha. It's a legal construct, not one based on love.

[Anonymous]

We were engaged 9 months but I have two friends who pulled off weddings in 4-5 months. My sister said, when you get engaged, figure out your venue or your date and the rest will fall in place. For her there was a particular place she really wanted to get married so she had to wait over a year. For us there was a date that held special significance and then we picked the location. I felt like everything was pretty much done and organized in 5 months (we lived in DC but had a New England wedding so did everything over a few weekend visits). I didn’t think I wanted / needed an event planner but our venue came with one and she was really easy to work with. Unless your event is quite small (like a backyard cocktail party) I’d consider a planner… it could make it much easier to get everything done efficiently. (Our wedding was 80 people, for context). Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Two and a half weeks.

I had been engaged once before (broke it off before the wedding) and I came to the conclusion that being engaged sucks. I hated always having event planning in the back of my mind.

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Six weeks. Not pregnant. Just wanted something small. We called our favorite country inn and asked when it was next free. Booked every room for the weekend and invited immediate families plus a few friends.

It was absolutely fabulous.

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Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

That’s a forced marriage. This is not the type of marriage op is asking about.

Nobody forced us to get married.

One or both of you felt an obligation to do so, not for love. -dp

I married "for love" as in, the person who loved and cherished me for 12(before marriage) and now 35 years, but we definitely viewed legal marriage as basically the quick and easy way to settle wills and assets ha. It's a legal construct, not one based on love.

If you married for love, you and spouse would not have married only after you became pregnant and already been together for 12 years.

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Anonymous wrote:10 months. The reason it’s usually 12-18 months is lead time to plan the wedding. Dresses can take 6 months to have made and tailored - they don’t make it until you order it. If you are ready to make a lot of decisions fast, go for it.

Dresses don’t have to be made. People pick dresses all the time off the rack when dress shopping. From there it was tailored a bit.

[Anonymous]

9 months of engagement after 14 months of dating.

Together almost 40 years now.

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Getting married is simple, weddings can be too but people make them complicated. What matters is focusing on your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We got engaged over the weekend and I’m wondering if a September/October wedding is too soon? Some extended family members will be available then and it’s the perfect timing with our work schedules.

It will be a lot of stress planning a wedding in a short timeline and you will be charged more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know the standard is 1 year but is 6 months too soon?

For people who want a massive wedding that will take a lot of planning (and would therefore be very stressful to do in 6 months), yes. For people who don't know each other well (i.e. got engaged on a whim, haven't spent sufficient time together, etc.), yes.

For people who can easily plan a wedding during that time and are making a smart choice about who they are marrying, no.

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Anonymous wrote:A few weeks.

I didn't want a big fancy wedding, and I was pregnant and preferred to be married before he was born.

That’s a forced marriage. This is not the type of marriage op is asking about.

Nobody forced us to get married.

One or both of you felt an obligation to do so, not for love. -dp

Abortion is legal in this country, or was until recently. So is unmarried parenthood. OP clearly wanted to marry the man.

[Anonymous]

2 years and one month. We had international family we wanted to be able to come (and they needed to work on visas and there were times they wouldn't be able to travel). And our dream venue was booked during the season we wanted until the following year. We loved the planning and were young (although already together 3 years and living together).

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That isn’t too soon at all.

I was engaged for 1.5 years. We got engaged in the winter and all the good dates for the year were already taken. My MIL wanted guests from her native country to be able to come too. My parents wanted a faster wedding but it all worked out. Have been married 17 years.

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Pp here. I think it also matters if you already know where you want to get married and have things planned. I started at zero and visited venues, tried on dresses, I had no idea.