Can a single dad who has his kid full time really be too busy to text?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. He works by himself in construction and has his daughter all the time 100% custody. He responds to my texts a day or a few days after I send them. It's irritating me. I have no kids but he says that he texts when he can. He also doesn't want to say why he has 100% custody.

Are you a single parent who works full time and has child custody 100% of time? And do you work construction, which is physical labour? It’s so much work, and tiring! You should move on if you can’t handle that he prioritizes his child over you. I would respect a man way more if he showed up as a loving father than ditching his kids for a ditz that can’t handle not being in contact.

[Anonymous]

You are not a good match together, move on.

[Anonymous]

My BF isn't a great texter. He has his kids a lot and his job is pretty busy. He's definitely not seeing anyone else, but I admit, I wish he was a better communicator. I'm also not sure how into me he is, and that also isn't great.

Yours might be a weak communicator or he might not be that into you. In your case, days between texts feels purposeful. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I detest texting conversations.

Texts should be used to make plans to meet up. That's it.

Agree.

My contractor and house painter very, very, very rarely text on the job. I'd say they field live phone calls more frequently.
It can be dangerous if you are texting on scaffolding or on a ladder or driving to a job site.

OP, you sound needy. Let the guy text or call you to make dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never ever believe the whole “I don’t have time to text” bit. It’s a cop out and everyone knows it. He is either talking to a ton of women. Or he simply is not that interested and doesn’t see the need/desire to tell you or completely cut you off.

You can text back when your kid is napping, at school (daycare, preschool whatever). If he works clearly his kid has to be in some kind of care. He can text on his lunch break or while he is pooping. Whatever. Everybody has time-it’s just what they choose to do with it and he is not choosing to text you back. Move on. He will NEVER make you a priority.

It's not literally about having the time. It's communication style. Like, I dread phone calls. To me, phone calls are A Thing. I have to mentally prepare myself and set aside at least 30 minutes. I find it exhausting afterwards. I wasn't like that in the 90s, but I've evolved. To me texting is easy because I can do it between little chores like you said. Other people will yak away on the phone while they are grocery shopping or when they have a couple of free times. Some people hate texting and find texting to be A Thing where they have to set aside the time to concentrate on it and find it exhausting. I imagine a construction worker could be that type.

It definitely could be a sign he is married, or involved with other women, or not into OP. Not ruling that out. But it could also be he's not a texter and doesn't have the mental energy to text between all his other obligations.

[Anonymous]

I've had a lot of construction workers at my house lately. The men are focused on the their work and the job at hand. They take their time to do quality work. I can tell you these men are not standing around texting.
The general contractor does field inbound phone calls from clients or from subs.

These men are not working office jobs. They are focused on doing their job and getting in and out.

Time is money. Many are being paid by the job and that is their focus at work, not frivolous texting.

Many people do not like texting. I'm a woman and I can't stand it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. He works by himself in construction and has his daughter all the time 100% custody. He responds to my texts a day or a few days after I send them. It's irritating me. I have no kids but he says that he texts when he can. He also doesn't want to say why he has 100% custody.

Are you a single parent who works full time and has child custody 100% of time? And do you work construction, which is physical labour? It’s so much work, and tiring! You should move on if you can’t handle that he prioritizes his child over you. I would respect a man way more if he showed up as a loving father than ditching his kids for a ditz that can’t handle not being in contact.

Got damn are you rude and damaged.

[Anonymous]

So far one side says he's not interested and the other says to give him a break. Well I texted him and no response. I just won't bother anymore. Not sure why these men are even trying to date. I found him on old.

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't understand some people expect immediate answers.

I'm not dating, but sometimes I take a little time to answer my friends' texts. Because I don't consider every conversation to be uRgeNT.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't have the time (or interest) to text then he doesn't have time to date!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few hours, maybe he is busy.

A couple of days? He is just not that into you.

Maybe not. I don’t know this situation, but I have a hard time responding to texts! I see, need to think of a response, get distracted and then three days goes by because it gets buried in 10 other texts . . .

I can’t check phone during the day and then the nights are a whirlwind! Esp. If trying to stay off phone in front of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So far one side says he's not interested and the other says to give him a break. Well I texted him and no response. I just won't bother anymore. Not sure why these men are even trying to date. I found him on old.

Have you actually met in real life? How long have you known him? Does he ever initiate?

Regardless, time to move on because he is not giving what you want.

[Anonymous]

Do you believe he really is a single dad? A lot of guys say that when they have kids but they don’t want to settle down! I have a friend who would blame the “lack of time” all the time.

[Anonymous]

What evidence do you have for that ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you are one of dozens

This. The single dad thing is crap. No way all those guys in Tinder are single dads. It just seems too high to believe