Can a single dad who has his kid full time really be too busy to text?

[Anonymous]

People make time for the things that are important to them. Sadly, it does sound like the ol "he's just not that into you". I would stop initiating texts with this person.

[Anonymous]

Or: He might be interested but doesn’t have the bandwidth to focus on you as a priority right now, or at least not as much as you can focus on him. Be kind but I agree with those who say to keep your options open. I recall being so slammed at work when i was single that I lost people I was interested in, because I just didn’t have the mental capacity to text and call as much as they needed or expected.

[Anonymous]

If it’s irritating you, he’s not the guy for you. Why stick around, demand for more than he can give right now, and make yourself unhappy in the process?

My spouse and father of our child is living away right now as we’re relocating. We are happy and normal, and even we don’t have a huge amount of bandwidth to chatter right now. I always make sure he talks with DD, but for me… meh. I’m doing 100% now, and that’s not even always.

He might need something more casual, and you need something more attentive. There’s nothing wrong with either, but either you can meet each other where you are, or you can’t. It’s okay.

I doubt he has dozens in line. Spring is always busy in construction. Life is busy with a kid at this time of year. You can get on board or if it’s not for you, it’s okay. You are allowed to want what you want, you just can’t always get it with who you want

[Anonymous]

It’s never just one text. Texts always end up in a conversation. So yeah sometimes it isn’t a good time, especially if you work and are a full time single parent.

[Anonymous]

Some people don't really care for conversations through texting.

More likely: Some people just don't want to reply. It's not about having the time. Unless someone is dying in a hospital, they have a few minutes to spare for a text message.

[Anonymous]

How many different scenarios do you have to post? Try your therapist. His kids should come first.

[Anonymous]

He’s just not that into you. I have a surgeon husband and he has always texted/called me multiple times during med school, residency, fellowship and now as a busy surgeon. Between multiple surgeries, even when there is an emergency, he can find time to text me during the day.

I had a friend who dated a surgical resident and he often didn’t call or text her for days saying he is busy. Anyone can find the time. Same for investment banking or law. It is easy to say you are busy.

[Anonymous]

He might be a jerk who fought tooth and nail for the kid. That doesn’t just happen. He doesn’t want to tell you about WWIII. Or who knows?

The kid might tell you about mom eventually.Weird that he doesn’t share about that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he has 100% custody, then the mother is a hot mess.

I would question it if he says 100 percent custody. What does that mean? Mom is in jail? Even if she lives out of the country she would have some custody.

[Anonymous]

A text isn't just a text. Then the person replies and you have to reply back and then they start telling you about their bad day and 100 texts and 45 minutes later, you can get off the phone.

I dread texting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or: He might be interested but doesn’t have the bandwidth to focus on you as a priority right now, or at least not as much as you can focus on him. Be kind but I agree with those who say to keep your options open. I recall being so slammed at work when i was single that I lost people I was interested in, because I just didn’t have the mental capacity to text and call as much as they needed or expected.

I can understand that. When I was a single mom there was a lot of time that I didn't have what it took to nurture a relationship. If that's where he is, he should say so.

Whe does his being a single dad with 100% custody raise flags for anyone? Women can be deadbeats, mentally ill etc. just like men and.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you. I have a surgeon husband and he has always texted/called me multiple times during med school, residency, fellowship and now as a busy surgeon. Between multiple surgeries, even when there is an emergency, he can find time to text me during the day.

I had a friend who dated a surgical resident and he often didn’t call or text her for days saying he is busy. Anyone can find the time. Same for investment banking or law. It is easy to say you are busy.

I take my comment back. A single busy person is very different than a single dad busy person.

[Anonymous]

His daughter and his job that supports her are taking priority. Better dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you. I have a surgeon husband and he has always texted/called me multiple times during med school, residency, fellowship and now as a busy surgeon. Between multiple surgeries, even when there is an emergency, he can find time to text me during the day.

I had a friend who dated a surgical resident and he often didn’t call or text her for days saying he is busy. Anyone can find the time. Same for investment banking or law. It is easy to say you are busy.

+1. Dated and married an investment banker turned hedge fund manager. He has never struggled to make me a clear priority.

[Anonymous]

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