Preparing for possible mental illness

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure to have him sign paperwork when he turns 18 so you have medical decision making ability. I did that for my DS with a mental illness.

I actually don't think this is possible in his situation, but I'll look into it.

NP. You can have him sign a HIPAA release so that you can have access to his medical information. Also, a medical power of attorney would, I believe, give you decision making authority were he to become incapacitated, though I admit I have no idea what steps you have to go through to "prove" that he is incapacitated. I would also get financial power of attorney so that you have access to his financial accounts, and look into having him sign a FERPA waiver so that you could, in theory, have access to his school records (though I don't think that gives you immediate access to things like attendance records if you are just trying to monitor him.).

No 18 year old is going to go for that.

Mine did. He has a mental illness and understood the importance of it.

No 18 year old going off to a military academy is going to go for that, if only because it makes them stand out.

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure to have him sign paperwork when he turns 18 so you have medical decision making ability. I did that for my DS with a mental illness.

I actually don't think this is possible in his situation, but I'll look into it.

NP. You can have him sign a HIPAA release so that you can have access to his medical information. Also, a medical power of attorney would, I believe, give you decision making authority were he to become incapacitated, though I admit I have no idea what steps you have to go through to "prove" that he is incapacitated. I would also get financial power of attorney so that you have access to his financial accounts, and look into having him sign a FERPA waiver so that you could, in theory, have access to his school records (though I don't think that gives you immediate access to things like attendance records if you are just trying to monitor him.).

No 18 year old is going to go for that.

Mine did. He has a mental illness and understood the importance of it.

No 18 year old going off to a military academy is going to go for that, if only because it makes them stand out.

Signing paperwork makes them stand out??? Nobody knows they did it except their parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure to have him sign paperwork when he turns 18 so you have medical decision making ability. I did that for my DS with a mental illness.

I actually don't think this is possible in his situation, but I'll look into it.

NP. You can have him sign a HIPAA release so that you can have access to his medical information. Also, a medical power of attorney would, I believe, give you decision making authority were he to become incapacitated, though I admit I have no idea what steps you have to go through to "prove" that he is incapacitated. I would also get financial power of attorney so that you have access to his financial accounts, and look into having him sign a FERPA waiver so that you could, in theory, have access to his school records (though I don't think that gives you immediate access to things like attendance records if you are just trying to monitor him.).

No 18 year old is going to go for that.

Mine did. He has a mental illness and understood the importance of it.

No 18 year old going off to a military academy is going to go for that, if only because it makes them stand out.

Signing paperwork makes them stand out??? Nobody knows they did it except their parents.

Having access to his school records would! You don't think an academy would wonder why?

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure to have him sign paperwork when he turns 18 so you have medical decision making ability. I did that for my DS with a mental illness.

I actually don't think this is possible in his situation, but I'll look into it.

NP. You can have him sign a HIPAA release so that you can have access to his medical information. Also, a medical power of attorney would, I believe, give you decision making authority were he to become incapacitated, though I admit I have no idea what steps you have to go through to "prove" that he is incapacitated. I would also get financial power of attorney so that you have access to his financial accounts, and look into having him sign a FERPA waiver so that you could, in theory, have access to his school records (though I don't think that gives you immediate access to things like attendance records if you are just trying to monitor him.).

No 18 year old is going to go for that.

Mine did. He has a mental illness and understood the importance of it.

No 18 year old going off to a military academy is going to go for that, if only because it makes them stand out.

Signing paperwork makes them stand out??? Nobody knows they did it except their parents.

Having access to his school records would! You don't think an academy would wonder why?

Who cares what they think? Parents wouldn't need to access grades unless there was a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure to have him sign paperwork when he turns 18 so you have medical decision making ability. I did that for my DS with a mental illness.

I actually don't think this is possible in his situation, but I'll look into it.

NP. You can have him sign a HIPAA release so that you can have access to his medical information. Also, a medical power of attorney would, I believe, give you decision making authority were he to become incapacitated, though I admit I have no idea what steps you have to go through to "prove" that he is incapacitated. I would also get financial power of attorney so that you have access to his financial accounts, and look into having him sign a FERPA waiver so that you could, in theory, have access to his school records (though I don't think that gives you immediate access to things like attendance records if you are just trying to monitor him.).

No 18 year old is going to go for that.

Mine did. He has a mental illness and understood the importance of it.

No 18 year old going off to a military academy is going to go for that, if only because it makes them stand out.

Signing paperwork makes them stand out??? Nobody knows they did it except their parents.

Having access to his school records would! You don't think an academy would wonder why?

Who cares what they think? Parents wouldn't need to access grades unless there was a reason.

You can't see that's a red flag for a school that'll kick you out for having medical issues? You realize cadets are technically enlisted, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:while none of my children have shown signs, my senior DS is leaving this summer for a rigorous university. It's crossed my mind that he might develop it while he's away.

I'm not overly anxious about this

With respect: you are overly anxious about this. None of your children, including this one, have symptoms. The illness is OCD, not schizophrenia--if he develops it, it can be treated and catching it in the first week vs the first few months isn't likely to make much difference.

There are no circumstances under which I, at 18, would have signed a medical power of attorney to my parents for this purpose. It is an anxiety symptom (and would have been in my mom as well) to ask for it.

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Anonymous wrote:while none of my children have shown signs, my senior DS is leaving this summer for a rigorous university. It's crossed my mind that he might develop it while he's away.

I'm not overly anxious about this

With respect: you are overly anxious about this. None of your children, including this one, have symptoms. The illness is OCD, not schizophrenia--if he develops it, it can be treated and catching it in the first week vs the first few months isn't likely to make much difference.

There are no circumstances under which I, at 18, would have signed a medical power of attorney to my parents for this purpose. It is an anxiety symptom (and would have been in my mom as well) to ask for it.

FYI, I was not the poster(s) who suggested he sign a medial POA! I would never do this! None of this had even crossed my mind until DH brought it up. I'm NOT overly anxious about this.