5th grade boy teased for being homosexual, even though he isn’t homosexual

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I suppose it is also plausible they actually didn’t say it.

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He should make new friend and tell them the boys are dating and they don’t like a 3rd wheel.

If they ask if he said it say yea, I thought they were dating. My bad.

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Sorry your kid is going through this. It sucks and people forget boys can be mean like this (excluding) too.

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Do you live under a rock or something? Every boy older than like 7 years old that I have seen around northern Virginia wears athletic pants as the PP described above. They will wear nicer pants when the occasion calls for it, but to school and for everyday wear it’s sweatpants.

Maybe in public school.

It’s the FCPS board, so that’s all that’s relevant.

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Anonymous wrote:When do kids wear what they want and stop with the stupid track pants?

Think kids do wear what they want, it's just what they want isn't jeans anymore because jeans are more uncomfortable.

My ten year old doesn't own jeans. His grandparents bought him a pair a year or two ago and he wore them once or twice and refused to wear again. Wears sweatpants or joggers only and haven't ever really seen his friends in jeans. If an occasion calls for something dressier, he has a pair of khakis buried somewhere.

That being said, it shouldn't matter what kids wear though it also can (as someone who was bullied profusely and had a parent like a PP who was clueless that it mattered at all).

Anyhow, I'd have gotten frustrated at the counselor who said they couldn't do anything because the kids hadn't admitted to it. Of course they didn't and the counselor would expect kids not to fess up. The counselor should still counsel on what is inappropriate and the repercussions of engaging in such unkind talk and behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:He should make new friend and tell them the boys are dating and they don’t like a 3rd wheel.

If they ask if he said it say yea, I thought they were dating. My bad.

That's hilarious.

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Intense athletic training is the answer. If you can't physically defend yourself, you are making yourself a victim.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is bizarre. OP doesn’t know that boys her son’s age wear athletic pants? The counselor said she couldn’t do anything because the kids didn’t admit to using a slur? All counselors do is guide kids on appropriate ways to interact. She can do that regardless of whether everyone agrees on what words were used. Some pp thinks a report that a student bullied a classmate at age 10 will have life long ramifications for the student?

I feel like you’re all from a different planet.

Not OP, but athletic gear is against the dress code at most schools.

Absolutely false.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember growing up, eons ago, wearing green and yellow on Thursdays was forbidden.

Wow this is amazingly demented, but you appear to have diagnosed the issue correctly:
https://queerbychoice.livejournal.com/415321.html


"when she was in high school, there was a rumor perpetually whispered that if anybody wore green on a Thursday, that meant they were queer. She says she researched the Fairies and found out that they tended to wear green as the overwhelmingly most common color in their clothing, and that Thursday was their most important religious day, and that their religious ceremonies held on Thursdays included orgies, at which, presuming that Grahn was right about them having valued and respected same-gender sex, same-gender sex would have presumably been had."

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FCPS allows athletic gear:
https://www.fcps.edu/about-fcps/policies-regulations-and-notices/student-rights-and-responsibilities/important-topics

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to say, but he might want to wear different clothes. I have a nephew who his fashionable mom has always dressed him like a little . . . sorry, gay man. Fitted pants rolled up at the ankles, loafer with no socks, bow ties and bowler hats. He was super cute, yes. And he loved the attention. But now, in school, all he was getting is a very negative kind of attention for how he dresses. His younger brother has always refused to dress like that as if sensing early on nothing good comes from it. Hoodies and running shoes for him. Older brother is morphing as well. But it's been painful.

My son wears jeans, sneakers, t-shirts and a turtleneck under the t-shirts in the winter, just like his friends. It has nothing to do with how he dresses.

Where are 5th graders wearing turtlenecks? I have a 4th grader and most of the kids wear shorts and t shirts if it’s over 40. A sweatshirt if it’s under 40. Never pants u less it’s snowing and never jeans. Most only one coats for skiing. Are you in this area?
I do think it’s time for a major wardrobe overhaul plus getting new friends.

What the hell is wrong with you?

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On Tuesday, my son’s two closest friends at school told him that he was “forbidden” from playing with them anymore because he “liked boys instead of girls.” My son has crushes on girls and is not homosexual, but they said that because of his clothes, they could tell he only liked boys.

My son tried to speak with the vice principal and the school counselor, but neither had time for him. He was distraught. I emailed to see if he could please speak with the school counselor.

On Wednesday, he met with the counselor, who suggested that he use “I statements” to tell his friends how he felt when they made those comments. My son tried it, but was met with ridicule.

I asked the counselor to please meet with the two boys who told my son he was homosexual and excluded him for it, and to meet with all three of them and mediate a conversation between the three of them. I also asked the counselor to follow up with me.

So far, no response from the counselor.

Any suggestions? Is this kind of teasing tolerated by FCPS? I thought the school would have stepped in.

I teach 6th and was wondering. Did he tell the teacher? He/she may have already talked to all 3 separately or together. The counselors are extremely busy right now and found time to talk with your son, but probably won’t talk to the 2 other boys. Their job is more to counsel not discipline. If you want something more to happen, reach out to the Assistant Principal. Unfortunately, teasing is very much a part of 4-6th grades. It’s a common coping mechanism for their own insecurities. My last advice would be to focus on supporting your son even if it involves helping him find new friends.

Teasing does not end in 6th grade in FCPS.

Phones and SnapChat make teasing / bullying far easier and more pervasive.

And SnapChat conveniently deletes the evidence, which benefits the bullies.

"Snapchat leaves no evidence" is absolute nonsense. You can take a picture of a phone screen with one of the other 100 phones nearby.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to say, but he might want to wear different clothes. I have a nephew who his fashionable mom has always dressed him like a little . . . sorry, gay man. Fitted pants rolled up at the ankles, loafer with no socks, bow ties and bowler hats. He was super cute, yes. And he loved the attention. But now, in school, all he was getting is a very negative kind of attention for how he dresses. His younger brother has always refused to dress like that as if sensing early on nothing good comes from it. Hoodies and running shoes for him. Older brother is morphing as well. But it's been painful.

My son wears jeans, sneakers, t-shirts and a turtleneck under the t-shirts in the winter, just like his friends. It has nothing to do with how he dresses.

Where are 5th graders wearing turtlenecks? I have a 4th grader and most of the kids wear shorts and t shirts if it’s over 40. A sweatshirt if it’s under 40. Never pants u less it’s snowing and never jeans. Most only one coats for skiing. Are you in this area?
I do think it’s time for a major wardrobe overhaul plus getting new friends.

What the hell is wrong with you?

I think OP is a troll. NO kid is wearing turtlenecks under t shirts to school, never mind multiple kids "just like his friends." Plus, OP, heads up, they are NOT his friends.

New clothes stat and encouragement to join a team or activity to connect with new kids. Martial arts training might make him seem more confident. But yes, clothes that are like the ones worn by other kids matters. And if OP is real, turtlenecks under t shirts aint it.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is bizarre. OP doesn’t know that boys her son’s age wear athletic pants? The counselor said she couldn’t do anything because the kids didn’t admit to using a slur? All counselors do is guide kids on appropriate ways to interact. She can do that regardless of whether everyone agrees on what words were used. Some pp thinks a report that a student bullied a classmate at age 10 will have life long ramifications for the student?

I feel like you’re all from a different planet.

Not OP, but athletic gear is against the dress code at most schools.

Absolutely false.

Literally not false. My three have attended six schools so far, and each one has banned athletic wear.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is bizarre. OP doesn’t know that boys her son’s age wear athletic pants? The counselor said she couldn’t do anything because the kids didn’t admit to using a slur? All counselors do is guide kids on appropriate ways to interact. She can do that regardless of whether everyone agrees on what words were used. Some pp thinks a report that a student bullied a classmate at age 10 will have life long ramifications for the student?

I feel like you’re all from a different planet.

Not OP, but athletic gear is against the dress code at most schools.

Absolutely false.

Literally not false. My three have attended six schools so far, and each one has banned athletic wear.

Do you attend schools in FCPS?