Culture and values at FCPS Middle Schools

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Anonymous wrote:Catholic school will teach the things you want, OP, but those kids are always far ahead of others in promiscuity and drinking. This has been well know for generations.

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I've gotten a kick out of reading how some parents actually believe Catholic schools are bastions of wholesomeness and virtue.

I don’t believe that but they are sometimes more respectful of people who are religious. You have to be open to allowing your child to attend Mass and take Catholic religious classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We aren't Muslim or very socially conservative but DC went through the AAP Program at Rocky Run and that would probably fit the bill. There were a lot of very studious kids whose families did not allow dating and had very high expectations for behavior and academics.

+1 I agree with this and would also add Carson to the list. Basically one of the AAP center schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We aren't Muslim or very socially conservative but DC went through the AAP Program at Rocky Run and that would probably fit the bill. There were a lot of very studious kids whose families did not allow dating and had very high expectations for behavior and academics.

+1 I agree with this and would also add Carson to the list. Basically one of the AAP center schools.

DD goes to Rocky. Her best friend goes to RC. Both are studious kids who are well behaved and focused on academics. DD’s friend has dated. DD has not. She says that kids of all type date - studious ones, not studious ones, NPCs, well behaved ones, etc. Kids don’t tend to segregate on the basis of whether they date or are studious, or otherwise “virtuous”. It’s a matter of fit. DD has Muslim friends from conservative backgrounds. Some of them date. They just hide it from their families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Catholic school will teach the things you want, OP, but those kids are always far ahead of others in promiscuity and drinking. This has been well know for generations.

OP said she is Muslim, pretty sure Catholic school is not what she wants.

Went to Catholic in Dearborn. Plenty of Muslim kids in Catholic schools there including mine when I was a
Kid.

When I was a kid (gen x) it was not uncommon for Muslims with money to send their children to Catholic school.
Bonus points if it was a single sex school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check out private schools. The Catholic schools would advocate abstinence.

Sure they advocate it - a lot. But the teens and early 20s that worked for me and who had the most partners were always former Catholic school girls (or evangelicals). They also knew little about preventing disease and pregnancy, and almost nothing about how their own bodies worked. It was really sad.

[Anonymous]

My kid attends Cooper where there are a fair number of Muslim students. That said, you are never going to escape “sex” culture in middle school because kids’ hormones are raging — it’s just a fact of life. The best thing to do is keep your child busy and in activities you believe will insulate him/her from all that. There are plenty of academic activities after school, as well as chess club.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We aren't Muslim or very socially conservative but DC went through the AAP Program at Rocky Run and that would probably fit the bill. There were a lot of very studious kids whose families did not allow dating and had very high expectations for behavior and academics.

+1 I agree with this and would also add Carson to the list. Basically one of the AAP center schools.

Are you people really this naive?? Seriously? AAP centers are no different than base schools. "AAP" doesn't really mean much, and it certainly doesn't mean "studious and chaste."

[Anonymous]

I think what you are looking for you will find best in a private school. We have more conservative personal values as well, we’re Catholic, and my children are living out their values in public schools. They each have a friend group that I like but their values range from similar to ours, to very different.

My friends who send their children to Catholic school, have a much different experience. Values are close to theirs for all friends. FWIW, most grades in a Catholic school have 20-50 kids per grade, the public schools have 500-700 per grade.

My daughter has a friend who went to King Abdullah. She liked the academics. It’s very conservative, she left after 8th grade because it wasn’t a good fit for her. She says that there are girls dating other girls there too so it’s not a safe harbor. America is still America.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We aren't Muslim or very socially conservative but DC went through the AAP Program at Rocky Run and that would probably fit the bill. There were a lot of very studious kids whose families did not allow dating and had very high expectations for behavior and academics.

+1 I agree with this and would also add Carson to the list. Basically one of the AAP center schools.

Are you people really this naive?? Seriously? AAP centers are no different than base schools. "AAP" doesn't really mean much, and it certainly doesn't mean "studious and chaste."

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Rocky Run and Carson, as well as all the other AAP center schools, are no different than a base school. You people who think they are different seriously have your heads in the sand.

[Anonymous]

I've had two daughters at Kilmer and Marshall and there have been girls in hijab/conservative Muslim students at both. The schools are very diverse and your child's beliefs will be respected.

[Anonymous]

I have taught at 3 FCPS middle schools in various parts of the county at economic extremes, and there are sexuality and dating in all of them.

There are also extremely conservative kids who remain very modest or espouse religious values publicly.

Your daughter will find likeminded peers at all of them but will also see the opposite end of the spectrum everywhere. You either need to trust you have raised her to make choices you deem appropriate, or put her in a private religious school where staff will monitor and uphold your values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what you are looking for you will find best in a private school. We have more conservative personal values as well, we’re Catholic, and my children are living out their values in public schools. They each have a friend group that I like but their values range from similar to ours, to very different.

My friends who send their children to Catholic school, have a much different experience. Values are close to theirs for all friends. FWIW, most grades in a Catholic school have 20-50 kids per grade, the public schools have 500-700 per grade.

My daughter has a friend who went to King Abdullah. She liked the academics. It’s very conservative, she left after 8th grade because it wasn’t a good fit for her. She says that there are girls dating other girls there too so it’s not a safe harbor. America is still America.

There are no girls dating there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you will be more happy with a private religious school or homeschooling. You could also move to a more conservative country, but then your daughter would not be allowed an education.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Catholic school will teach the things you want, OP, but those kids are always far ahead of others in promiscuity and drinking. This has been well know for generations.

+1
I've gotten a kick out of reading how some parents actually believe Catholic schools are bastions of wholesomeness and virtue.

I don’t believe that but they are sometimes more respectful of people who are religious. You have to be open to allowing your child to attend Mass and take Catholic religious classes.

They are theses dangerous Christian Nationalists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

We are looking to relocate to Fairfax County and would like ask about values of student body in middle schools there. We are muslim and socially conservative. That being said, we would like our daughter to attend a middle school where is there is less of boyfriend/girlfriend culture and more focus on academics. We respect everyones culture and choices, but our culture and religion requires that we refrain from sexuality before getting married. That being said, we would like to pick a middle school with less of that going on. We realize that all schools will have that to an extent, but we would like to choose a school with less of that. We also realized that we play important role in teaching our values to her. She is very good at math. Which one of the middle schools is a better fit for us? P.S. If you have different opinions about dating/sexuality before marriage we respect your choices and do no want to debate about that here.

Hi OP!

What is your view of transgender / nonbinary and LGTBQIA+ students? These are all welcome, safe, and encouraged in FCPS.