I don't have time for this.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
I have two siblings. The one who lives 5 minutes away decided she is moving 800 miles away this coming spring and so she has divested herself of any responsibility.


OP, are you angry at this sibling for moving away? If she's been the sibling "on call" for several years, it might be the only way she can let you guys know she can't handle it any more.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I have two siblings. The one who lives 5 minutes away decided she is moving 800 miles away this coming spring and so she has divested herself of any responsibility.


OP, are you angry at this sibling for moving away? If she's been the sibling "on call" for several years, it might be the only way she can let you guys know she can't handle it any more.


OP here. Sure. But she should have also asked for help.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who can she call if she really needs something?


Yes, this. You can’t block her until you have set her up in a way that she is safe and cared for during the day.


What if you cannot afford it?
Anonymous
You said she calls you several times a week and then can't remember why. Several times a week is not a lot. She may just want to talk to someone but if it bothers you divert the calls to one of your sisters no matter how far away they live, that doesn't matter. If she really needs something they can call you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I have two siblings. The one who lives 5 minutes away decided she is moving 800 miles away this coming spring and so she has divested herself of any responsibility.


OP, are you angry at this sibling for moving away? If she's been the sibling "on call" for several years, it might be the only way she can let you guys know she can't handle it any more.


OP here. Sure. But she should have also asked for help.


This is why she is moving away. Why should she have to beg for help? You should have voluntarily stepped up to help. You title your post "I don't have time for this" so even if your sibling asked (which she might have and you ignored), your sibling did not have time for it all these past years.

Look how overwhelmed you are now. As the closest sibling caring for a parent I am really excited for your sibling who is moving and I don't have any sympathy for you with your snarky response. You are getting what you deserve.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I have two siblings. The one who lives 5 minutes away decided she is moving 800 miles away this coming spring and so she has divested herself of any responsibility.


OP, are you angry at this sibling for moving away? If she's been the sibling "on call" for several years, it might be the only way she can let you guys know she can't handle it any more.


OP here. Sure. But she should have also asked for help.



Why does she have to ask? It is not rocket science to know she needs help if she has been shouldering the burden. Time for you to step up now. Good luck!
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