"N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)

[Anonymous]

This was a thing at Churchill a few years ago when my kids were in HS. I think the kid got suspended

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Sadly, this actually is happening. And parents who don’t think their kids friends have more influence than parents by 6th grade are gravely mistaken.

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?

DP. I have no idea why you would "presume" that? Aside from the fact that it is thoughtful. and white people aren't great at being thoughtful about racism?

White people shouldn’t speak for all black people.

This goes both ways. All ways. No single person should go around blabbing like they have authority over huge groups of people. Each person's opinion is just that, an opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?

DP. I have no idea why you would "presume" that? Aside from the fact that it is thoughtful. and white people aren't great at being thoughtful about racism?

White people shouldn’t speak for all black people.

Who in this thread is speaking for all Black people?

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No, actually, they were not. They were expressing an opinion that no one should use it. They were not speaking -on behalf- of any Black people. They were expressing an objection to anyone using that offensive word.

Maybe stop looking for reasons to be offended. There are enough real ones out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else's child talked about being handed or seeing others at school pass out "N-word" passes? What should we do---inform school leadership?[/q]

N-----, please.

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Not OP and not a troll. And my kid doesn’t use the n-word. But it was very confusing for him to understand when he was younger.

How old was he when he first heard the word?

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Not OP and not a troll. And my kid doesn’t use the n-word. But it was very confusing for him to understand when he was younger.

Is he equally confused when teachers say be quiet and his talkative friends say the opposite.

Parent your kid. Stop making excuses.

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Sadly, this actually is happening. And parents who don’t think their kids friends have more influence than parents by 6th grade are gravely mistaken.

Hope you use the same excuse when you dumb kids are taking drugs from friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Not OP and not a troll. And my kid doesn’t use the n-word. But it was very confusing for him to understand when he was younger.

How old was he when he first heard the word?

3rd grade

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Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Not OP and not a troll. And my kid doesn’t use the n-word. But it was very confusing for him to understand when he was younger.

Is he equally confused when teachers say be quiet and his talkative friends say the opposite.

Parent your kid. Stop making excuses.

What excuses? We did explain to him. He doesn’t use the word. I just said he was confused back then when his friend told him this and then we told him it was very bad.

It was 3rd grade. He had never heard the word before and he didn’t know the history. He came home all excited that his friend gave him a “gift”. But we explained it and he was confused why his friend said this. He was young and didn’t understand all of the history and modern complexities around race.

[Anonymous]

I can see why the passes would be attractive to kids. The word has almost magical powers. The kid giving the pass has access to the power and can grant it, and the kid receiving the pass can try it out without fear.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.

We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.

Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.

It’s confusing for young kids.

Troll score: 2 out of 5

Sadly, this actually is happening. And parents who don’t think their kids friends have more influence than parents by 6th grade are gravely mistaken.

Hope you use the same excuse when you dumb kids are taking drugs from friends.

Yeah, that’s the same thing.

[Anonymous]

I spoke to a white mom at a party who said her middle school age son had been given bc a pass, and then pushed into a scuffle and was pressured to use the word. He felt terrible and would never have used the word if not given a pass and bullied by these kids. He was suspended from his private school and the principal was not hearing his side of the story. His self esteem was very low, and he was sick at the thought his classmates knew he had used the word. It’s a trap, and it is a sticky one. I felt terrible for her and I’m not white.

[Anonymous]

This is insane. Elementary school aged kids should never use language like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I can see why the passes would be attractive to kids. The word has almost magical powers. The kid giving the pass has access to the power and can grant it, and the kid receiving the pass can try it out without fear.

Yeah…until someone captures a video/recording of them saying it and posts it to social media. The cancel culture warriors won’t care if they were given a “pass”