"N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else's child talked about being handed or seeing others at school pass out "N-word" passes? What should we do---inform school leadership?

[Anonymous]

No? I would definitely advise my child to notify a counselor/teacher (discreetly) about this. It sounds wildly inappropriate and I wouldn’t want my child getting involved in whatever it is.

[Anonymous]

School needs to know about this immediately. It’s not OK regardless of who is giving out these passes.

If this doesn’t get dealt with, it will end up at the front page at your local newspaper.

[Anonymous]

What? I don't even understand what this is? People are given a "pass" to use the word and not be judged under certain circumstances? Or is it some worse almost unimaginable thing? What the hell?

[Anonymous]

I’m going to guess this involves black kids giving their non-black friends permission to use the word (sort of like a “you’re invited to the cookout” type thing?).

My elementary kids have not brought this up, but I plan to tell them that even if said while singing a song, or a friend says it’s okay, it’s just not a good idea. You never know who is recording and you don’t want that to become a word that you are comfortable saying (it’s not like a curse word where an occasional slip will be forgiven). Out of all the words in the dictionary I know my white kids will survive if they just refrain from ever using this one.

I agree with a PP who said to notify the school admin. This needs to get addressed, I’d be worried these kids aren’t understanding the full gravity of its meaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess this involves black kids giving their non-black friends permission to use the word (sort of like a “you’re invited to the cookout” type thing?).

My elementary kids have not brought this up, but I plan to tell them that even if said while singing a song, or a friend says it’s okay, it’s just not a good idea. You never know who is recording and you don’t want that to become a word that you are comfortable saying (it’s not like a curse word where an occasional slip will be forgiven). Out of all the words in the dictionary I know my white kids will survive if they just refrain from ever using this one.

I agree with a PP who said to notify the school admin. This needs to get addressed, I’d be worried these kids aren’t understanding the full gravity of its meaning.

Why would you assume that? My first assumption is that it’s probably a stupid Tik Tok challenge to get kids to use the N word.

[Anonymous]

Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

[Anonymous]

Smh oh the children. I haven't. I'd tell my kid, "pass or no pass", it's a no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? I don't even understand what this is? People are given a "pass" to use the word and not be judged under certain circumstances? Or is it some worse almost unimaginable thing? What the hell?

If three times it's spoken, unbroken, the demon Purpledrank rises from hell to torture and torment you.

[Anonymous]

There are certain words which shouldn't be uttered by certain people. A white boy, of all people, should never use the n bomb under any circumstance ever. One black friend is not the spokesperson for black people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?

My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.

[Anonymous]

I am confused as to why you do not know what to do. I mean, what are you options, to use the pass?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only rappers can use it

I think of it similarly to wonen and the b word. With the right tone and connotation, it can be a term of endearment or friendly word. I can (kindly) call my girlfriend a b, but, if her boyfriend calls her that, he's history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.

You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?

DP. I have no idea why you would "presume" that? Aside from the fact that it is thoughtful. and white people aren't great at being thoughtful about racism?