I’m 53 and trying to lose weight. It’s not moving.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel unconfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

Like I said, eating disorder.

Well, it's a shitty eating disorder if it keeps you at a healthy weight.

NP here. Those 15 pounds are the difference between me being pre-diabetic and not pre-diabetic.

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OP you really are at a healthy weight. You’re going to have to be pretty extreme to get back to your old weight. Are you really willing to live that way?
I decided I am not. I aim to eat 5-9 full servings of fruit and vegetable per day and if I do that I will allow myself other treats. I don’t drink or consume empty calories like soda but I’m not giving up pasta a couple times a week and an occasional home made dessert or good ice cream. I figure with all those vegetables and fruit I am pretty healthy and I walk a lot. I’m not letting the scale bother me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you really are at a healthy weight. You’re going to have to be pretty extreme to get back to your old weight. Are you really willing to live that way?
I decided I am not. I aim to eat 5-9 full servings of fruit and vegetable per day and if I do that I will allow myself other treats. I don’t drink or consume empty calories like soda but I’m not giving up pasta a couple times a week and an occasional home made dessert or good ice cream. I figure with all those vegetables and fruit I am pretty healthy and I walk a lot. I’m not letting the scale bother me.

The best thing you can do is just try to eat a healthy diet, exercise, and throw away the scale.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel unconfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

Like I said, eating disorder.

NP. How is PP’s comment indicative of an eating disorder

This part.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel uncomfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

It’s not an eating disorder to not want to be 50 lbs overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:How fast are you walking these 14k steps?
No tiny bones on adult people.

Some fast. Most normal. My wrist is 4.75 inches. I have tiny bones.

I have tinier, because I am not overweight. And I am taller than you.

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Anonymous wrote:How fast are you walking these 14k steps?
No tiny bones on adult people.

Some fast. Most normal. My wrist is 4.75 inches. I have tiny bones.

Yes, being big or small boned is a real thing. https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/can-you-actually-be-big-boned-102624074257.html#:~:text=%E2%80%9CYou%20have%20people%20with%20wide,influence%20bone%20thickness%20and%20density.

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Anonymous wrote:How fast are you walking these 14k steps?
No tiny bones on adult people.

Some fast. Most normal. My wrist is 4.75 inches. I have tiny bones.

I have tinier, because I am not overweight. And I am taller than you.

If you think OP is overweight, you’re nuts

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Anonymous wrote:I am tracking every morsel. I had no idea that post menopausal weight loss was virtually impossible. Has anyone been successful? What were you eating?

I am 55…lost 30 lbs in last 2 years post menopause. I eat a very clean diet and workout 6 days a week. Consistency is key.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you really are at a healthy weight. You’re going to have to be pretty extreme to get back to your old weight. Are you really willing to live that way?
I decided I am not. I aim to eat 5-9 full servings of fruit and vegetable per day and if I do that I will allow myself other treats. I don’t drink or consume empty calories like soda but I’m not giving up pasta a couple times a week and an occasional home made dessert or good ice cream. I figure with all those vegetables and fruit I am pretty healthy and I walk a lot. I’m not letting the scale bother me.

OP, I am about your size ... always around 115 until I had my kids, then 120, and now, in menopause, I'm around 125.

But I have some reasons for not dieting and trying to do what this PP suggests. Mostly, I don't want to diet in front of my teenage daughter.

I am trying to lift weights more often, and I have cut back on alcohol. I wasn't a big drinker anyway. But I notice that when I go a few days without it, my abs seem a little tighter and I feel a little lighter. I'd love to get back to 120

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I'm not even in menopause and cutting out alcohol does absolutely nothing for my weight. That said, I've been diagnosed with PCOS and a metabolic disorder associated with PCOS so losing weight just doesn't happen without medication (Metformin) for me. It sucks.

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51 and in menopause. I have lost 8 pounds since December by largely cutting out snacks and decreasing sugar and alcohol. I feel so much better!

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I am 48 and not yet in menopause. I've lost 12 pounds over the last couple of months (slowly gained 15 pounds over the last few years, 2019 to be exact). I've been working out at least 2 hours a day and eating very low fat, low sugar, small plant-based meals throughout the day with a little meat, no dairy. My work-out is weights, and I've incorporated some box-jumping and more power moves. And then I'm doing stair-climbing as well as running (really hard then recover, repeat) and HIIT style workouts. Would this keep someone from gaining weight in menopause when it hits?

OP - if you haven't incorporated weights into your work-out, I would try that. I mean work up to 20 pound dumbbells. The running fast for a minute or 2 then recover a minute or 2 seems to make me faster.

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Go WFPB, with someone like Dr furhman. Weight falls off, even post menopause!

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Anonymous wrote:I instantly gained 15 lbs when I hit menopause. I’m watching what I eat and I exercise, but I’m not willing to starve myself or increase my workouts. As long as my lab work is OK during my annual physicals and I feel well, I think 50-something women just have to accept their new normal.

You can, but I certainly won't. We call that circling the drain. It's how the end starts.

I agree!
-53 nearing menopause who will not accept a 15 lb gain. I put on 5 after a surgery (comfort eating, no exercise). Once I was cleared, I cleaned up my diet, resume activities and exercise and dropped those 5 in 2 months.

The key thing is that you said you’re NEARING menopause. Just wait a few months until you’re post menopause. It’s a whole new ballgame. Unless I starve myself or take up marathon running, this weight won’t budge. I’m not willing to do either, so I’ll be pudgy - which is better for me and those around me than being hungry and crabby.

My MIL is also one of those borderline anorexic ladies with osteoporosis who is obsessed with food yet refuses to eat. Food is one of life’s greatest pleasures and I’m going to eat healthy food in moderation but never diet.

I don't diet, I eat clean with sone treats thrown in. I will give up the sweets if need be, but I won't allow the pounds to pack on. I have been increasing my activity and started new, sustainable physical hobbies. I hike, play tennis, walk daily, etc, etc. I didn't exercise in any form until 40, so my joints are pristine. I'm pretty sure I won't gain too much post menopause. I hike with several women over 65 and they aren't fat and many have defined waists still. The common thread is activity and lots of it.

This is not something to feel smug about.

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I’m 55, post menopausal, and have lost 10 pounds in five months by eating MORE, lifting heavy weights 3x/week, walking 1-2 miles in the mornings for meditation not cardio, eating more protein, and prioritizing sleep. I’ve hit my goal weight and just added 250 more calories to maintain. It all feels very sustainable and something I hope to carry with me into old age.

Previously I was fatigued, very stressed, nutritionally depleted, and sleep deprived. I feel so much better now. You can do this OP!