Just curious...did anyone actually wait until marriage to have sex?

[aprilmayjune]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be so sad to have remained a virgin until my 30s. Some of the best experiences of my life were with former boyfriends. I do have a friend who waited for religious reasons, and she doesn't regret waiting. Her life is also much slower and, to me, much more boring - the totally typical suburban mom. A lot of people who wait have a certain narrow view of life.

I love how she has to put down others in order to justify the decisions she made. Perhaps your "friend" thinks you're a slut and finds your life...lacking.

Oh right, pp must be a "slut" because she didn't wait till her 30s to have sex. And clearly, her life is "lacking" because she didn't wait at least a decade for the "one." Ridiculous.

How is that statement anymore rediculous than saying people who waited have a narrow view of life??? My husband and I didn't wait.. but we were each other's first and have been each other's only's.. Looking back, I really think I could and probably should have waited.. just because in my opinion, (and call me old fashioned or show, or narrow or whatever) it's really the right thing to do. Women used to be singled out and ridiculed for having sex before marriage.. and divorce was something just didn't happen.. Now it's abnormal NOT to have sex before marriage, and a couple staying together forever is rare... It's actually a shame.

[Anonymous]

my husband and i are each others onlys. wasn't for religious reasons. just happened that way. it has worked just fine for us. no regrets.

[Anonymous]

I had a neighbor who was close to 50 and still a virgin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We did, we both did actually. Met each other at 17, dated off and on for years, finally actually got married at 26. Neither of us had sex with significant others, it just didn't feel right. We were both virgins on our wedding night, and it was just so incredibly sexy and special.
I would say the experience itself was really hot, frankly. Not awkward at all. I love the fact that our entire sexual relationship is based on each other.

How can you be so sure about your husband?

Not sure about pp, but DH and I met at 17 also and dated until we got married at 25. We were both virgins on our wedding night. I know for sure. Today is our 11th anniversary and we have 2 little ones.

Again, how do you know for sure. Is there some way to test for male virginity?

[aprilmayjune]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:We did, we both did actually. Met each other at 17, dated off and on for years, finally actually got married at 26. Neither of us had sex with significant others, it just didn't feel right. We were both virgins on our wedding night, and it was just so incredibly sexy and special.
I would say the experience itself was really hot, frankly. Not awkward at all. I love the fact that our entire sexual relationship is based on each other.

How can you be so sure about your husband?

Not sure about pp, but DH and I met at 17 also and dated until we got married at 25. We were both virgins on our wedding night. I know for sure. Today is our 11th anniversary and we have 2 little ones.

Again, how do you know for sure. Is there some way to test for male virginity?

You are aware that there is such a thing as a trustworthy man out there right? She probably has one of those...

[Anonymous]

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My DH and I waited because we weren't ready to be parents. We both worked very hard putting ourselves through college and wanted to make sure that if I were to get pregnant that we could make a good life for ourselves and our DC.

It's called birth control.

Which never fails. No one who abstained on this thread has attacked those of you who didn't. Why the nasty attitude toward those who waited? What's it to you what they chose to do or not do? Sheesh.

I didn't wait, and while I don't think waiting until my 30s would have been realistic, like a pp said, in hindsight I don't think my life was made any better by my past experiences.

[Anonymous]

I waited until marriage and am grateful I did. Sex with my husband is wonderful and we have grown together in our exploration of each other. We've been married for 8 years and are expecting our 3rd soon. I wouldn't have done it any other way. I really to think that it is a sacred experience.

[Anonymous]

I didn't wait. But, I married very late. All I can say is I am grateful for all the wonderful adventures and great sex in my early years. Ironically, I didn't marry for sex or money.

I am glad it worked out for those who waited but I have to wonder how do you know it is so great? You have nothing to compare it to?

And yes, getting married and having kids young does stifle you a bit. You can't travel on your own to see the world or venture out with that kind of responsibility in your early 20's. And yeah, these are usually the folks that end up being on the narrow-minded side. Simply because they don't have "street smarts" and their comfort zone is rather localized.

It doesn't mean you are not happy. Yes, you can be happily married at a young age and have wonderful kids and a great life. But, somewhere there is a sacrifice. And the sacrifice would be a bit of worldliness or an open-mind to other cultures views and priorities.

Seriously, people need to travel/live outside the U.S. more. There is a whole other world out there. I don't mean a couple of days here and there although it would at least be a start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a neighbor who was close to 50 and still a virgin.

How do you know this?... Not really something someone would casually mention.

[Anonymous]

I know woman who is in her late 40's an still holding out because of her Catholic faith. Crazy