Act like a Man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I am down at my in laws and my never do well gay brother in law starts crying at the dinner table about his new foreclosure.

My two teenagers are watching this scene and it really gets under my skin. Suddenly, I take cinematic inspiration from the godfather scene when Don Corleone slaps the singer Fontaine.

I tell my brother in law to act like a man and get a hold of himself. I didn’t use any homophobic slurs at all.

Nonetheless my wife and all the women in the family have circled the wagons against me that I mistreated the brother in law terribly and they think I am some kind of bad influence. It doesn’t matter what the brother in law is constantly screwing up and begging for bail outs.

Thinking of taking the kids and wife if she wants to come and heading home early.

Now you need to “act like a man” and apologize in person to him. You should also see if he needs money to keep his house. So get on your horse and man up. Stop acting like a little b**ch.

Give him money after that slimy and calculated emotional appeal?!
Oh hell no!

[Anonymous]

Now you need to cut off the banker’s horse’s head and put in his bed to stop the foreclosure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should probably work on sitting with your uncomfortable feelings rather than expecting other people modify their emotions to suit yours.

Couldn’t the same be said for the grown azz man openly sobbing at the holiday dinner table over a situation he created for himself? He sounds like a manipulative narcissist.

He's not the one who wrote the post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does your brother-in-law being gay have to do with this?

The implication is that a real man wouldn’t cry at the dinner table.

Unless someone is dead or dying, this is generally the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it might have been ok if it was your brother but not your brother in law, that's inappropriate and especially at the inlaw's house over the holidays.

A grown man, even a gay one, who is crying has serious issues and nobody ought to be slapping them down verbally or any other way. Compassion works better.

This!

[Anonymous]

BIL is gay not trans. He’s still a man. Man up isn’t the issue. The issue seems to be his ineptness. Op says it a vicious cycle of victimhood looking for saviors to fix his ineptness. I deal with a sibling and her adult kids who are like OPs BIL. I bite my tongue and do what I can, but sometimes I want to scream. They crowdsource every mundane thing. Consistently late. It’s a relationship of utility. I’m their savior, seat filler, holiday hostess. They never leave! Arrived an hour late for Christmas and left at 1 am! My internal voice kept looping Melania’s FOCK CHREEZMUZ.

[Anonymous]

So, OP wanted BIL to control his emotions and in turn, didn't control his emotions?

I would be PISSED if you said that in front of teens, boys and girls. It would be one thing if you said "suck it up," which would still be your own emotional outburst. But, it wouldn't have anything to do with toxic male culture. Yelling is not more manly than crying.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I would have thought the same thing as what OP said out loud