Act like a Man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does your brother-in-law being gay have to do with this?

OP is clearly homophobic.

[Anonymous]

Troll fail.

[Anonymous]

Anybody have a link to the other threads about the gay brother's foreclosure?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I am down at my in laws and my never do well gay brother in law starts crying at the dinner table about his new foreclosure.

My two teenagers are watching this scene and it really gets under my skin. Suddenly, I take cinematic inspiration from the godfather scene when Don Corleone slaps the singer Fontaine.

I tell my brother in law to act like a man and get a hold of himself. I didn’t use any homophobic slurs at all.

Nonetheless my wife and all the women in the family have circled the wagons against me that I mistreated the brother in law terribly and they think I am some kind of bad influence. It doesn’t matter what the brother in law is constantly screwing up and begging for bail outs.

Thinking of taking the kids and wife if she wants to come and heading home early.

Real men praise publicly and criticize privately, OP. Man the hell up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does your brother-in-law being gay have to do with this?

OP is clearly homophobic.

I doubt he is afraid of homos. He just doesn’t like them.

[Anonymous]

Looking forward to OP's forthcoming book on Corleone Parenting. If you don't mind the high-ish sibling homicide rate it has a lot to recommend it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get that your BIL is a mess, but you were out of line and need to deal with your discomfort with behavior that doesn't fit neatly into your perceptions of what men and women are supposed to be/do.

Your best option would have been to stay quiet. Second best would be to gently probe him about his financial choices that led him to this situation. You chose the hands down absolute worst option.

You are not a character in a movie. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking forward to OP's forthcoming book on Corleone Parenting. If you don't mind the high-ish sibling homicide rate it has a lot to recommend it.

LOL! 1 out of 4 ain’t bad. 1 out of 5 if you count Tom Hagen.

[Anonymous]

Your BIL can't be told to STFU because.... he's gay? That's the women's stance?

Eff that.

[Anonymous]

OP is likely a self-described "Alpha". But, OP has simply proven once again that 100% of the self-described "Alphas" are really just ass*oles who can't spell words with that many letters.

[Anonymous]

I think it might have been ok if it was your brother but not your brother in law, that's inappropriate and especially at the inlaw's house over the holidays.

A grown man, even a gay one, who is crying has serious issues and nobody ought to be slapping them down verbally or any other way. Compassion works better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I am down at my in laws and my never do well gay brother in law starts crying at the dinner table about his new foreclosure.

My two teenagers are watching this scene and it really gets under my skin. Suddenly, I take cinematic inspiration from the godfather scene when Don Corleone slaps the singer Fontaine.

I tell my brother in law to act like a man and get a hold of himself. I didn’t use any homophobic slurs at all.

Nonetheless my wife and all the women in the family have circled the wagons against me that I mistreated the brother in law terribly and they think I am some kind of bad influence. It doesn’t matter what the brother in law is constantly screwing up and begging for bail outs.

Thinking of taking the kids and wife if she wants to come and heading home early.

Now you need to “act like a man” and apologize in person to him. You should also see if he needs money to keep his house. So get on your horse and man up. Stop acting like a little b**ch.

This! Act like a decent man (and husband and extended family member)yourself. The Godfather us not a guide for conducting one's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody have a link to the other threads about the gay brother's foreclosure?

It's his BIL.

Other thread was about if he should tell the family who did not know. He had tried to help and got docket updates, so, knew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should probably work on sitting with your uncomfortable feelings rather than expecting other people modify their emotions to suit yours.

Couldn’t the same be said for the grown azz man openly sobbing at the holiday dinner table over a situation he created for himself? He sounds like a manipulative narcissist.

+1

[Anonymous]

I still don’t understand how the BIL being gay has any relevance to this situation.