Trying to understand my mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What can I do to do a better job of expressing my love for my Mom? What does she need from me? What would she like?

She parented you a long time Op. Now, tables have turned and you are the most capable adult in the room. Every thought should be more about you caretaking her, than her meeting whatever expectations you have.

This is terrible advice. Your first responsibility is to your own children. Children don't ask to be born. Not fair to guilt OP into thinking she needs to be subservient to her mother because her mother "raised her."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have the expectation that your dad should babysit?

My dad is dead, I said my mother is a widow in the OP.