youngest mom in my play group

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I am educated, successful and financially secure. We have months where we bill fewer clients but I always have my back-up savings, which I rarely touch and try to forget exists when I am shopping. Still I feel like HHI is neither here nor there. "

If HHI is neither here nor there, why bring it up at all?

my thoughts exactly...

OP here, I meant that a lot of judgment seems to stem from the idea that a young couple could not be *ready* that they might not be secure. Even though we are, I still get that "your poor child" vibe. A lot of conversations seem less anecdotal and more instructional, which isn't really fun. I hang out with other moms to enjoy our children, not be taught through blatant instruction. I know first time moms get lots of unsolicited advice but it shouldn't appear that we need it; especially since we have made it this far with no problems!!

But, hey, I will heed the advice I have received- I just won't go back and hopefully someone here can turn me on to some fun mommy stuff!

[Anonymous]

I had my child at 23 and I looked about 16. Ever since then I have pretty much NEVER found a parents group where I felt like I was among peers or friends I could connect with. People never were overtly nasty, it was just that it was almost like a wall would be in place right off the bat with the unspoken assumption that "we clearly don't have anything in common."

Some moms tend to be more friendly than others... but still what I've ultimately come to conclude is that motherhood is NOT a strong enough commonality to forge immediate bonds of friendship between people.

In other words, it's easier to find friends if you are looking at hobby groups, classes, or things that bring people together with common interests... not just people who happen to have children.

[Anonymous]

PP here again. I just wanted to note that my child is now 6, just finished kindergarten and being around parents from her class was just about the same as being in a playgroup at age 2... I was the youngest parent in the class by 10 years and a few were friendly but many parents were clearly just of a different generation.