sending hugs to the moms and dads out there

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.

You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?

If you apply EA, you are accepted and get results within a few weeks. There is not enough time between applying and getting the acceptance for any stress to build up. In my DC's case, high achieving student with impeccable stats and ECs, so we did not think he would not be accepted in the in-State public flagship. It is really great to be in and it takes away all stress.

- DP.

Impeccable stats? People really talk like this??

You new here PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS got into his safeties over the weekend (UMW and Radford) so we have collectively breathed a sigh of relief.

Congratulations to your son!
- a UMW grad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I never felt that way when our DD was waiting for her results. Maybe we’re the outliers?

We were outliers too. We never felt or applied any pressure to get into a particular school. I knew my kid would get into at least one of the schools applied to.

You are actually in the more common population group. Most people don’t even attend college!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.

You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?

If you apply EA, you are accepted and get results within a few weeks. There is not enough time between applying and getting the acceptance for any stress to build up. In my DC's case, high achieving student with impeccable stats and ECs, so we did not think he would not be accepted in the in-State public flagship. It is really great to be in and it takes away all stress.

- DP.

Ummm. No. My son put his application for EA in September and they don't release results until 12/15. Where are you getting a few weeks?

Many kids did not like any schools with 'rolling admissions'. So there is a wait. He didn't see the need to apply to a school to get an acceptance when he had zero intention of ever attending. Luckily, he's never stressed--or at least doesn't show it.

I don't talk about it or impending date. He has a few RDs left to turn in, but pretty chill about it. I know I will likely get that 'nervous feeling' on the 15th--just because it's there and the first--but it's not stress.

Some kids really drag their feet on supplementals, etc. I can see why there could be stress in a house. Not all kids have the same personalities either--some are prone to anxiety and are more tense by nature.

I always thought it was such a d*chebag thing to answer a post like "OPs" with some of the sanctimonious responses. Good lord. Good luck to everyone!

+100
The smug posters make me laugh, they're so sanctimonious. Like your son, my daughter wasn't interested in any of the schools that have rolling admission. So her EA decisions won't be out until mid-Dec/Jan. Nerve-wracking!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks.

My kid just got notified that he has one acceptance on the way, so I’m not nervous any more. I hope you all get good news soon, too. Remember, all your kid needs is one acceptance.

And, seriously, if they don't? It isn't the end of the world. They can go to community college and work and apply for spring semester.

It might not be the path they wanted, but we need to stop framing these things as 'life and death'. It's no wonder there is such a HUGE amount of mental health issues in teens/young adults.

They are young. They have their entire life ahead.

I agree with this and I am trying to really internalize it this year as I have a 11th grader who is very stressed they may have a C that will blemish a not perfect but very good transcript. I know he will have options no matter what and I don’t want him to see this as a life or death issue. We get a clean slate in college (or CC).He is a hard worker and very young. He will be much better off than just “okay”, no matter what happens— as long as he stays positive and engaged in his life plans for his future and his well being. Trying to remind myself to present things this way to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid probably has an arrest he is hiding from you. AOs are doing basic background checks on kids before offering admission. I know two kids who got rejected in scenarios like yours.

Good lord.

Schools are imperfect bureaucracies, and delays like this happens all the time. I know because I work at a public university, albeit not in admissions. Our university offers automatic admission to students who have certain grades without discretion. My kid applied EA a couple months ago and still hasn't heard back, even though his admission is literally guaranteed. While I totally understand the stress and anxiety, I wouldn't make any sweeping assumptions. If you're really concerned, you might have your DC contact admissions to make sure everything is okay with his/her application.

Why on earth would you apply EA if the admission was "literally guaranteed"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS got into his safeties over the weekend (UMW and Radford) so we have collectively breathed a sigh of relief.

UMW = Universoty of Mary Washington? Did he apply EA?

Yes and yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid probably has an arrest he is hiding from you. AOs are doing basic background checks on kids before offering admission. I know two kids who got rejected in scenarios like yours.

Good lord.

Schools are imperfect bureaucracies, and delays like this happens all the time. I know because I work at a public university, albeit not in admissions. Our university offers automatic admission to students who have certain grades without discretion. My kid applied EA a couple months ago and still hasn't heard back, even though his admission is literally guaranteed. While I totally understand the stress and anxiety, I wouldn't make any sweeping assumptions. If you're really concerned, you might have your DC contact admissions to make sure everything is okay with his/her application.

Why on earth would you apply EA if the admission was "literally guaranteed"?

NP. Why not? My kid's applications were all ready to go by the EA deadline, so why not submit them? Even schools that didn't offer an EA option, she had submitted by end of October.

She wanted to get all of the college application stuff done ASAP so she could enjoy the rest of her senior year and not be stressing. 7 of the 9 schools she applied to have an EA option (including her top three choices), and having answers and a (hopefully) good sense of where she's going to go before the new year even hits I think will take a lot of the stress off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.

You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?

If you apply EA, you are accepted and get results within a few weeks. There is not enough time between applying and getting the acceptance for any stress to build up. In my DC's case, high achieving student with impeccable stats and ECs, so we did not think he would not be accepted in the in-State public flagship. It is really great to be in and it takes away all stress.

- DP.

Impeccable stats? People really talk like this??

Well, obviously I don't talk like this IRL, but on an anonymous board? Yup. I am very proud of my kid's achievements. My Asian-American DS from a magnet STEM public HS had - 4.0/4.8, magnet STEM public school, 12 APs, 1600 SAT and NMS, research papers etc. These kinds of stats are not rare and uncommon in our circles. Neither is someone like DS applying to in-State flagship and getting full merit aid. So yeah - impeccable academic stats.

Now that my kid is in college and doing a double STEM major ... still impeccable stats and impressive internships. At some point in his professional career, race will become a neutral factor mattering less and less to employers. But, till now, doors have opened for him because of his stellar academic performance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid probably has an arrest he is hiding from you. AOs are doing basic background checks on kids before offering admission. I know two kids who got rejected in scenarios like yours.

Good lord.

Schools are imperfect bureaucracies, and delays like this happens all the time. I know because I work at a public university, albeit not in admissions. Our university offers automatic admission to students who have certain grades without discretion. My kid applied EA a couple months ago and still hasn't heard back, even though his admission is literally guaranteed. While I totally understand the stress and anxiety, I wouldn't make any sweeping assumptions. If you're really concerned, you might have your DC contact admissions to make sure everything is okay with his/her application.

Why on earth would you apply EA if the admission was "literally guaranteed"?

For high stat kids - apply EA to get the most lucrative merit aid $$$$ from the in-State Public flagship.

Why? Public colleges are contractually bound to the State to take in at least x% of in state students. They swoop up the in-state high achievers by giving some or all of the in-state tuition merit money in the EA and ED stage so that they can fulfill their obligation and open up the seats for full paying OOS and international students.

So the sooner your application has the AOs eyeballs on them the better your chances of being offered generous merit scholarship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.

You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?

If you apply EA, you are accepted and get results within a few weeks. There is not enough time between applying and getting the acceptance for any stress to build up. In my DC's case, high achieving student with impeccable stats and ECs, so we did not think he would not be accepted in the in-State public flagship. It is really great to be in and it takes away all stress.

- DP.

Impeccable stats? People really talk like this??

Well, obviously I don't talk like this IRL, but on an anonymous board? Yup. I am very proud of my kid's achievements. My Asian-American DS from a magnet STEM public HS had - 4.0/4.8, magnet STEM public school, 12 APs, 1600 SAT and NMS, research papers etc. These kinds of stats are not rare and uncommon in our circles. Neither is someone like DS applying to in-State flagship and getting full merit aid. So yeah - impeccable academic stats.

Now that my kid is in college and doing a double STEM major ... still impeccable stats and impressive internships. At some point in his professional career, race will become a neutral factor mattering less and less to employers. But, till now, doors have opened for him because of his stellar academic performance.

BS if those are your DS's real stats. Absolute BS.

[Anonymous]

For the class of 2025 and beyond: it doesn’t have to be this stressful. Get on Naviance or CollegeVine, compare your kid’s stats to those who are accepted, and apply to a range of safeties and targets. Throw in a reach or two if you like. This has not been stressful for our household. It’s self-imposed by people who are trying to guarantee an elite college result.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the stress levels are on the roofs, then that’s on all of you because there’s no reason it has to be that way for rational and normal people

Congratulations on having a rational and normal teenager I guess? I don’t think it’s all that irrational to want to see results from three and a half years (at least) of very hard work.

I don't even think that PP has a college aged teenager.

or we have teenagers with disabilities who work their butts off for 4 years to get ... a certificate of completion.
So some of us have perspective.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid probably has an arrest he is hiding from you. AOs are doing basic background checks on kids before offering admission. I know two kids who got rejected in scenarios like yours.

Good lord.

Schools are imperfect bureaucracies, and delays like this happens all the time. I know because I work at a public university, albeit not in admissions. Our university offers automatic admission to students who have certain grades without discretion. My kid applied EA a couple months ago and still hasn't heard back, even though his admission is literally guaranteed. While I totally understand the stress and anxiety, I wouldn't make any sweeping assumptions. If you're really concerned, you might have your DC contact admissions to make sure everything is okay with his/her application.

Why on earth would you apply EA if the admission was "literally guaranteed"?

It's literally guaranteed if she applies. And applying EA means there's a stronger likelihood of discretionary merit aid. There is little benefit to wait until the RD deadline. Finally, having an offer of admission to at least one school in December will help soothe any anxiety.

My turn: Why the incredulity?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re not stressed at all. He’s in at the in-state option, which is perfectly good and affordable. My kid knows it’s up to him to work hard and make his own life happen. He’s not dependent being at the “perfect” school. If he gets into a reach, great. But there’s no guarantee his outcomes would be any better compared to State U. Research suggests it doesn’t matter either way - it’s all about the kid and their approach to life.

You didn't feel any stress before he got accepted?

If you apply EA, you are accepted and get results within a few weeks. There is not enough time between applying and getting the acceptance for any stress to build up. In my DC's case, high achieving student with impeccable stats and ECs, so we did not think he would not be accepted in the in-State public flagship. It is really great to be in and it takes away all stress.

- DP.

Impeccable stats? People really talk like this??

Well, obviously I don't talk like this IRL, but on an anonymous board? Yup. I am very proud of my kid's achievements. My Asian-American DS from a magnet STEM public HS had - 4.0/4.8, magnet STEM public school, 12 APs, 1600 SAT and NMS, research papers etc. These kinds of stats are not rare and uncommon in our circles. Neither is someone like DS applying to in-State flagship and getting full merit aid. So yeah - impeccable academic stats.

Now that my kid is in college and doing a double STEM major ... still impeccable stats and impressive internships. At some point in his professional career, race will become a neutral factor mattering less and less to employers. But, till now, doors have opened for him because of his stellar academic performance.

Get a hobby, please.