| Pics or it didn’t happen. |
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If you tell, you might be blamed by her and she might stop speaking to you.
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I beg to differ. There are always signs. Men don’t wake up one day and decide to be a wanderer. They’re already doing it while dating the woman, many even get caught but then forgiven and the woman marries them anyway and pops out kids thinking it surely won’t happen again. But it always does. This is the same exact story for every wanderer I personally know. |
| Stay out of it |
| Send them both, the friend and her husband, an anonymous note. You will be on the outs with both of them if they know you are the messenger. |
| I can’t believe all of the people who are telling OP to tell the wife. What good will that do? Possibly break up a marriage? If you tell the wife be prepared for her to ghost you and of course her spouse will. MYOB. You have no idea what’s going on in someone’s marriage. |
Lol yeah, disregard. There's a little crew that thinks it makes them look smart to rush into every thread to say it's fake.
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OP, did they see you?
I get not wanting to be involved but if the wife is a close friend, you should tell her. She may be hurt and angry and blame the messenger initially but she has a right to know. I'd rather hear it from someone who saw it firsthand and whom I trusted. If you don't know the wife very well, send an anonymous email. If he's doing more than kissing other women, he's exposing his wife to disease and that's not cool. |
| If you’re a close friend you’ll tell. Friends look our for each other. |
| The wife of one of DH’s friends was seen making out with another man in the bathroom at a party. Everyone talked about it and it always made me feel bad that everyone seemed to know except for him. They eventually divorced and I’m still not sure he knows about this story. The sad thing is that there were stories like this before they got married. Perhaps if someone had told him, they wouldn’t have gotten married and created a sad, dysfunctional environment for two kids. |
| If this actually happened, stay out of it unless this is a VERY good friend of yours and they're a person who won't then turn against, you which is what often happens. |
Understand that you will likely lose this friendship if you tell. |
| I saw mommy kissing Santa Clause |
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You saw them kissing. You don’t know if they’re having sex.
Stay out of it. |
What is the point of this? Worst advice ever!? |