Why do celebrities use surrogates so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand for actresses and singers because being pregnant and post partum can interfere with your career. Socialites I've always figured it was either vanity or infertility issues that they didn't want to disclose.

They usually have a lot of money and/ or are married to another celebrity with tons of money. They don’t “need” to keep up their careers, unlike all of the regular working women out there. Plus they have enough money to hire help afterwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having children wrecked my health and career, so I’ve come to think those who can afford surrogates and use them are the smart ones.

So just ruin some other poor woman's health? Why can't we buy kidneys off people then?

And yes that definitely also goes for men who want to use a surrogate.

PP here. At least the surrogate is getting compensated for the hard work of pregnancy and childbirth AND isn’t saddled with the child after. A much better deal than moms get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand for actresses and singers because being pregnant and post partum can interfere with your career. Socialites I've always figured it was either vanity or infertility issues that they didn't want to disclose.

They usually have a lot of money and/ or are married to another celebrity with tons of money. They don’t “need” to keep up their careers, unlike all of the regular working women out there. Plus they have enough money to hire help afterwards.

I don’t think most celebrity women are daft enough to think a man’s career is a game plan. How many billions of women over the ages do people like you need to see get screwed in divorce before you understand that becoming a man’s dependent is a huge risk that often doesn’t pay off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:11:26 here — Also want to add that no man has ever carried a single pregnancy or become a father except by using a woman’s body. Yet, men get to preen and call themselves full parents without any social judgment for their exclusively parasitic means of reproducing. So, why in the world should women who go the “male” route (i.e., get someone else to carry the pregnancy) feel less than?

Biology?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:11:26 here — Also want to add that no man has ever carried a single pregnancy or become a father except by using a woman’s body. Yet, men get to preen and call themselves full parents without any social judgment for their exclusively parasitic means of reproducing. So, why in the world should women who go the “male” route (i.e., get someone else to carry the pregnancy) feel less than?

Biology?

PP here. I’m not sure what point you’re making.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Vain and horrible people.

Age

Age is also a common factor.

+1 And an increasing number of children with special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imho people's personal circumstances, physical conditions and emotional journeys differ and one hat doesn't fit all.

This! You don’t know — and don’t deserve to know — everything a public figure is going through.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My hot Take. Being pregnant doesn’t make you a better or more of a mom. If they can afford it and another woman wants to take advantage of that and receive compensation for “a job” why would anyone else care. The kid is the same.

This is like everything else. Those who made a different decision for whatever reason just to find blame and reason for someone doing it another way, usually just way to make themselves feel better with their own choice.

- SAHM think they’re better than those tgat WOH And use childcare
- People who clean their own house Think they are better than people who get their house cleaned
- Women who have have natural childbirth, think that people who are drugged
- People who struggle with their weight and weightloss think they are better than people who have weight loss, surgery or drugs

None of those things are remotely similar to paying someone to grow and carry your child inside their body.

The trend is disturbing. I get it when you have medical reasons, but clearly it has gone beyond that at this point.

Hot take is just wrong. The commodification of biological material, and actually renting a woman's uterus, is very scary territory.

This. Surrogacy is illegal in almost every western country. The US only allows it because there’s biblical precedent and we’re a much more *religious nation than Europe, Canada, Australia, etc.

*commercialized

Changed it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is Regarding women potentially struggling to conceive. So many celebrities have been shamed for adopting (whether internationally or transracially) so I can see why celebrities are turning away from it and doing surrogacy if they still can.

I can’t think of a major celebrity that has adopted in the last 5 years or so. Sandra Bullock was the last one in 2015. Can’t think of anyone past that.

Gestational surrogacy is controversial but at least the child is biologically related to the parents.

Hoda Kotb

[Anonymous]

I don’t know that it’s vanity, necessarily - they have enough $$$ and help to lose any baby weight quickly, and the media loves a good “baby bounce back” story. My guess is a lot simply can’t get pregnant due to current or former eating disorders and/or drug use. They could go through rounds of IVF hoping to get pregnant or just skip right to surrogacy, and the surrogacy seems a safer bet and will take less time and be a lot less invasive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is Regarding women potentially struggling to conceive. So many celebrities have been shamed for adopting (whether internationally or transracially) so I can see why celebrities are turning away from it and doing surrogacy if they still can.

I can’t think of a major celebrity that has adopted in the last 5 years or so. Sandra Bullock was the last one in 2015. Can’t think of anyone past that.

Gestational surrogacy is controversial but at least the child is biologically related to the parents.

Hoda Kotb

Getting a white baby through adoption is nearly impossible. Honda's kids are not white.

Childbirth is torture. Why not pay someone who likes it and wants to earn money do it?

[Anonymous]

“So much”? Name 20 off the top of your head.

[Anonymous]

A friend, single mom struggling actor with teen, is becoming a gestational carrier for a gay male couple (one is an undisclosed celebrity). She loved being pregnant and says she’s excited to help the guys start a family. Of course, she’s thrilled to earn enough to pay off her debt and put a down payment on a house!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is Regarding women potentially struggling to conceive. So many celebrities have been shamed for adopting (whether internationally or transracially) so I can see why celebrities are turning away from it and doing surrogacy if they still can.

I can’t think of a major celebrity that has adopted in the last 5 years or so. Sandra Bullock was the last one in 2015. Can’t think of anyone past that.

Gestational surrogacy is controversial but at least the child is biologically related to the parents.

Hoda Kotb

Getting a white baby through adoption is nearly impossible. Honda's kids are not white.

Childbirth is torture. Why not pay someone who likes it and wants to earn money do it?

I’m a PP who has defended surrogacy, but let’s not lie or be glib about what it is. Women overwhelmingly become surrogates for one of two reasons: because they need money or because they are pressured into it. It’s not because they’re barely sentient broodmares who don’t have nerve endings and “like” going through what you have described as torture so someone else to have a baby. You can defend surrogacy without tacitly dehumanizing the women involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend, single mom struggling actor with teen, is becoming a gestational carrier for a gay male couple (one is an undisclosed celebrity). She loved being pregnant and says she’s excited to help the guys start a family. Of course, she’s thrilled to earn enough to pay off her debt and put a down payment on a house!

Would she have rented out her uterus if she wasn’t struggling financially or wasn’t getting paid? Don’t gloss over what this really is: Women monetizing our reproductive capabilities in a society that values us for little else and narrows our options.