I Hate Save the Date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Save the dates are very common for weddings and helpful for planning purposes.

I don’t understand why they would be annoying… It’s a piece of mail, informing me that someone is getting married.

For those of us who don’t like weddings and don’t want to go, it removes plausible deniability from our “I’m busy” excuses. The bride and groom don’t care if I go or not, it’s the family around that does. I don’t like weddings.

But I can see how, if you were a social person, it’s a nice way to have some heads up.

Not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Save the dates are very common for weddings and helpful for planning purposes.

I don’t understand why they would be annoying… It’s a piece of mail, informing me that someone is getting married.

For those of us who don’t like weddings and don’t want to go, it removes plausible deniability from our “I’m busy” excuses. The bride and groom don’t care if I go or not, it’s the family around that does. I don’t like weddings.

But I can see how, if you were a social person, it’s a nice way to have some heads up.

Not OP.

You don’t say, “I’m busy.” You say, “oh shoot. I can’t attend.” No other explanation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think save the date announcements are good to help people plan. But Miss Manners always says if you accept one invitation you can’t cancel just because you receive a better offer later. So there is some pressure on guests if they learn about a wedding very early. Makes it harder to decline later. But I still think they are a good idea, and not arrogant.

You don’t accept a save the date. You just write it on your calendar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone give me a list showing how many days in advance specific event reminders should be sent?

365 days for a wedding is out. Is it three months? Six months? Two weeks?

This is your wedding, not a fundraiser. Don't do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Save the dates are very common for weddings and helpful for planning purposes.

I don’t understand why they would be annoying… It’s a piece of mail, informing me that someone is getting married.

For those of us who don’t like weddings and don’t want to go, it removes plausible deniability from our “I’m busy” excuses. The bride and groom don’t care if I go or not, it’s the family around that does. I don’t like weddings.

But I can see how, if you were a social person, it’s a nice way to have some heads up.

Not OP.

Its an invitation, not a summons