I Hate Save the Date

[Anonymous]

People who send a post card like a year in advance to “save the date” how arrogant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who send a post card like a year in advance to “save the date” how arrogant!

For a wedding? Makes sense.

Although I like the ones that announce the engagement and highlight the upcoming festivities rather than a plain save the date.

[Anonymous]

They make sense to me. I make a lot of plans a year in advance. I think it is thoughtful. I don’t have to cancel camps or reschedule vacation if I know about a wedding in advance.

[Anonymous]

Why are they arrogant?

[Anonymous]

It’s not arrogant. They’re letting you know they are getting married on that date and will be inviting you. If you want to attend, save the date. If you don’t, don’t. THIS is not a thing to get aggravated about.

[Anonymous]

Arrogant? You have issues OP. Sorry, you do. These people are simply planning an event that they clearly yet mysteriously want YOU to attend. Do them a favor and decline the invite. You're not a real friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who send a post card like a year in advance to “save the date” how arrogant!

If it's a wedding, this makes sense; otherwise, it's a little much, I agree.

What type of event was this, OP?

[Anonymous]

This is pretty traditional for weddings. A century ago you only got the real invitation a month in advance, so knowing my niece is getting married next June is really helpful.

[Anonymous]

It's for the benefit of out of town guests who'll have to coordinate time off and travel.

[Anonymous]

Love save the dates. In addition to the points made by other PPs, it also gives me something fun to look forward to and more time to look forward to it. Yay!

[Anonymous]

I like them. My entire family is out of town, so I appreciate knowing when to get the best airfare deals and to save vacation days.

Do you not work OP? Is all of your family in town?

[Anonymous]

Love save the dates. We plan time off of work and vacations a year ahead. Save the date cards help us work everything out. I'd rather have a save the date card than miss something or have to reschedule something else.

[Anonymous]

Save the dates are very common for weddings and helpful for planning purposes.

I don’t understand why they would be annoying… It’s a piece of mail, informing me that someone is getting married.

[Anonymous]

Can someone give me a list showing how many days in advance specific event reminders should be sent?

365 days for a wedding is out. Is it three months? Six months? Two weeks?

[Anonymous]

I like the idea of the STD, but nowadays people try to get them out earlier and earlier and "call dibs" on any event that day. If I get an STD a year in advance for an acquaintance but 8 months out for someone close, I'm going to go with the closer person. It's not a competition on who gets them out first.