Was BIL annoying/ rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people are giving the mom grief for sleeping in. These kids had a parent present. Why reinforce such gender stereotypes by insisting the mom must be around.

I think it was likely cluelessness by the BIL and not rudeness. But rather than being annoyed, a good response would have been something like, “Great. I’m a one-style cook myself when it comes to eggs. I’ll whip up some scrambled eggs for Larlo and my kids. Here are the eggs and pans for you for your and Larla’a eggs. Please make yourself at home.”

Or, you could be a gracious host and a decent human being, simply by chatting with the brother-in-law in the kitchen while making three different kinds of eggs for him and two little kids. Why don’t you all just lighten the hell up for once in your lives?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, show me one family where 9 and 7 year old siblings don’t want different kinds of eggs for breakfast. C’mon.

They could have just had the toast and bacon.

Or their mother could have gotten her a$$ out of bed and tended to her children.

So the dad was up but wanted his lazy a$$ served. Again it is always the mom/wife fault

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, show me one family where 9 and 7 year old siblings don’t want different kinds of eggs for breakfast. C’mon.

They could have just had the toast and bacon.

Or their mother could have gotten her a$$ out of bed and tended to her children.

They had a parent awake with them. Let the woman sleep in until 8:15. JFC.

Fine. Then be a good sister and make her kids the damned eggs they want.

No. Daddy has hands.

(not OP)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, show me one family where 9 and 7 year old siblings don’t want different kinds of eggs for breakfast. C’mon.

Yet almost no one is making three different types of eggs for their kids and spouse.

I do it all the time. There’s nothing to it.

You choose to be a short order cook in your own home. Stupid, but you do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Also, show me one family where 9 and 7 year old siblings don’t want different kinds of eggs for breakfast. C’mon.

Yet almost no one is making three different types of eggs for their kids and spouse.

I do it all the time. There’s nothing to it.

You choose to be a short order cook in your own home. Stupid, but you do you.

No, I choose to be gracious for guests. Some of you might wanna try it. It’s called extending yourself instead of being selfish shrews.

[Anonymous]

I truly wouldn't invite them to stay over again. Day visits only.

[Anonymous]

I doubt dad makes 3 types of eggs for breakfast daily. So he could have just asked for toast or cereal. But no, he wanted his ass served.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people are giving the mom grief for sleeping in. These kids had a parent present. Why reinforce such gender stereotypes by insisting the mom must be around.

I think it was likely cluelessness by the BIL and not rudeness. But rather than being annoyed, a good response would have been something like, “Great. I’m a one-style cook myself when it comes to eggs. I’ll whip up some scrambled eggs for Larlo and my kids. Here are the eggs and pans for you for your and Larla’a eggs. Please make yourself at home.”

Or, you could be a gracious host and a decent human being, simply by chatting with the brother-in-law in the kitchen while making three different kinds of eggs for him and two little kids. Why don’t you all just lighten the hell up for once in your lives?

Classic. It is only a man, and a non-breakfast-making one at that, who would respond to justifiable frustration over a request to make three(!) different types of eggs with accusations of indecency as a human being, and the need to “lighten the hell up”. There is no truer indicator of entitlement than anger like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people are giving the mom grief for sleeping in. These kids had a parent present. Why reinforce such gender stereotypes by insisting the mom must be around.

I think it was likely cluelessness by the BIL and not rudeness. But rather than being annoyed, a good response would have been something like, “Great. I’m a one-style cook myself when it comes to eggs. I’ll whip up some scrambled eggs for Larlo and my kids. Here are the eggs and pans for you for your and Larla’a eggs. Please make yourself at home.”

Or, you could be a gracious host and a decent human being, simply by chatting with the brother-in-law in the kitchen while making three different kinds of eggs for him and two little kids. Why don’t you all just lighten the hell up for once in your lives?

Classic. It is only a man, and a non-breakfast-making one at that, who would respond to justifiable frustration over a request to make three(!) different types of eggs with accusations of indecency as a human being, and the need to “lighten the hell up”. There is no truer indicator of entitlement than anger like this.

There is only one problem: you are not talking to a woman, you are talking to a man, and you are talking to a man who yesterday morning made six different omelettes for five adult family members and one child. It’s what you do for guests, and it was my pleasure.

[Anonymous]

It may be what *you* do for guests, and your pleasure. OP is under no similar obligation, and her noting this does not merit hyperbole and accusations of indecency as a human, for the love. I’m sure you’re Julia Childs with a omelette, and good for you. The world is not made of versions of you, nor of any of us. And this is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else here wishing they had the ability to sleep until 11?

Yes! I don’t remember the last time I was able to sleep that long or the last time I had nothing to do until then.

[Anonymous]

You offered to cook breakfast and he took you up on it. Next time you say, please feel free to help yourself to anything in the kitchen and show him around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else here wishing they had the ability to sleep until 11?

Meh, that's nothing. What is the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Definitely obnoxious. You now know how to handle this in the future. Either don’t ask and make what you want or show him where the pans are.

[Anonymous]

Make the BIL's eggs first and serve them cold