Where are you on the introvert/extrovert scale?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

NP. What you're describing can be fun, yes, but as an introvert it drains my energy. It makes you feel buzzy and happy, but for me I feel spent.

Whereas driving alone, listening to music I love, deep in my thoughts as I walk around the store sounds absolutely lovely to me.

I make the effort to spend time with my friends, but I absolutely need my alone recharge time. And a standing weekly shopping outing with someone who isn't super super close to me would be a nightmare.

Interesting! I don’t mind being alone, I like listening to music and being deep in thought. However, I’ve learned that the most human companionship is on a micro-level daily interaction (like going grocery shopping with my neighbor, or circling the park with my friend twice a week, or chatting with my elderly friend at church, etc.). Even though it’s more “fun” to read an engaging book or more productive to grocery shop, I feel connected and loved by people that I spend time with weekly doing sort of non-important things.

Happy for you but as an INTJ, I don't feel the need to be connected or loved by other people. I honestly do not need/want that connection.

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I’m an INTJ, but don’t feel like I’m a maximally introverted as indicated on this scale. People can wear me out, yet I get lonely without social interaction. It’s always a conundrum for me.

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

Just because we are different than you, doesn't mean you are right and we are wrong. You are the kind of judgmental extroverts, we introverts are trying to avoid. And don't tell me what's beneficial to me.

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

Just because we are different than you, doesn't mean you are right and we are wrong. You are the kind of judgmental extroverts, we introverts are trying to avoid. And don't tell me what's beneficial to me.

Seriously, so sick of people claiming that all humans need or benefit from human connections. It's not true.

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I'm off-the-chart introvert. I like parties and social events; I just really need to recharge afterwards. I'd rather have a few really close friends. I don't need a lot of socialization, but I'd rather it be deep and meaningful.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an INTJ, but don’t feel like I’m a maximally introverted as indicated on this scale. People can wear me out, yet I get lonely without social interaction. It’s always a conundrum for me.

That's normal. Introverts just need a different kind of social interaction, and recovery from other kinds. Introversion doesn't mean you don't need other people at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm off-the-chart introvert. I like parties and social events; I just really need to recharge afterwards. I'd rather have a few really close friends. I don't need a lot of socialization, but I'd rather it be deep and meaningful.

You don’t sound off-the-chart introvert. Why do you think so?

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Anonymous wrote:I think everyone calls themselves introverted these days. I find it very curious and wonder extroversion is becoming in volume comparable to left-handedness, because I sense there are much fewer of them today.

I think our modern, connected, very busy society is overwhelming for the average person, so introverted behaviors (like needing a recovery after socializing) are more common. If I lived on a farm in the 1950s I'd probably say I was an extrovert, because the amount of quiet time I personally need would just be a default part of normal life.

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It’s odd that there are so many INTJs on DCUM! I think female INTJs are only like 1% of the population?!

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The older I get, the more I realize I'm an introvert. I'm outspoken, which is why I thought I was an extrovert, but I sincerely prefer being alone and get exhausted when I am around people for too long. I'm an ENFP, which is right on the borderline.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that there are so many INTJs on DCUM! I think female INTJs are only like 1% of the population?!

I don't put much faith in the MB. It's mostly to let mangers pigeon hole employees into well-defined bins so they can avoid relating to work units.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an INTJ, but don’t feel like I’m a maximally introverted as indicated on this scale. People can wear me out, yet I get lonely without social interaction. It’s always a conundrum for me.

Same.

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I’m an INFP. I don’t really crave social interaction but I have a lot of friends. I am a homebody and don’t like making plans to go out. However, when I finally do get out, I’m always so happy I did.

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Anonymous wrote:I think everyone calls themselves introverted these days. I find it very curious and wonder extroversion is becoming in volume comparable to left-handedness, because I sense there are much fewer of them today.

Interesting. I blame the internet (as I do with most things). We are so overloaded with people constantly. It's to the point where even true extroverts now seek to retreat from it all and claim to be introverts. I don't think we were made to have this much contact with people. It is too much. The internet is why people are so sick of people.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

This sounds more codependent than extroverted.

+100. Good Catch-- that's exactly what it is!