Where are you on the introvert/extrovert scale?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an INFJ as well, and I'm sure I've become more introverted as I've aged. I'm friendly and good with small talk/chit-chat, but don't make friends easily as I've got some social anxiety. I feel lonely as I don't have any close friends in the DMV, and I'm bad at keeping in touch with my longtime friends out of state.

Also an infj who gets more and more introverted with age. Also horrible at keeping in touch with friends but I don't feel lonely. Love them when I see them, don't really mind when I don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

I don’t think anything is as fun as when I do it myself. Except sex. Sometimes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

That sounds like a nightmare to me. I just want to be by myself with my thoughts and my Starbucks when I'm running errands

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

NP. What you're describing can be fun, yes, but as an introvert it drains my energy. It makes you feel buzzy and happy, but for me I feel spent.

Whereas driving alone, listening to music I love, deep in my thoughts as I walk around the store sounds absolutely lovely to me.

I make the effort to spend time with my friends, but I absolutely need my alone recharge time. And a standing weekly shopping outing with someone who isn't super super close to me would be a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

This sounds more codependent than extroverted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

I don’t think anything is as fun as when I do it myself. Except sex. Sometimes.

When I’m having a beautiful experience, like attending a wonderful concert or exploring a new city or swimming in the ocean, I often feel sorry for people who are there with others. I don’t think you can truly experience something unless you’re by yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

NP. What you're describing can be fun, yes, but as an introvert it drains my energy. It makes you feel buzzy and happy, but for me I feel spent.

Whereas driving alone, listening to music I love, deep in my thoughts as I walk around the store sounds absolutely lovely to me.

I make the effort to spend time with my friends, but I absolutely need my alone recharge time. And a standing weekly shopping outing with someone who isn't super super close to me would be a nightmare.

Interesting! I don’t mind being alone, I like listening to music and being deep in thought. However, I’ve learned that the most human companionship is on a micro-level daily interaction (like going grocery shopping with my neighbor, or circling the park with my friend twice a week, or chatting with my elderly friend at church, etc.). Even though it’s more “fun” to read an engaging book or more productive to grocery shop, I feel connected and loved by people that I spend time with weekly doing sort of non-important things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

NP. What you're describing can be fun, yes, but as an introvert it drains my energy. It makes you feel buzzy and happy, but for me I feel spent.

Whereas driving alone, listening to music I love, deep in my thoughts as I walk around the store sounds absolutely lovely to me.

I make the effort to spend time with my friends, but I absolutely need my alone recharge time. And a standing weekly shopping outing with someone who isn't super super close to me would be a nightmare.

+1

Being around people exhausts me.
I see people rarely, briefly and on my own terms. And I still need several days to recover afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

You’re a pathetic dweeb

[Anonymous]

INTJ. Ideal level of social interaction is none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:INTJ. Ideal level of social interaction is none.

+1. I’m in a very social job with travel, so my batteries are empty at the end of the week. I am happy to go a whole weekend doing nothing and just handing out with my hubby.

[Anonymous]

I want to say ambivert but it sounds like a sedative or child abduction emergency alert.

Maybe idealistic introvert? I recharge my batteries alone - reading, walking, playing music, gardening, making art and more. But I care about others and their happiness/ comfort/ safety.

I make friends easily and people often tell me that they enjoy my energy. I, in turn, look for the good in others and try to understand they are coming from.

But I need alone time to feel balanced and healthy.

Live and let live extroverts and introverts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.