I don’t want to be my sister’s plastic surgery care taker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not your sister's keeper but you seem to play this role when it's convenient to you.

you're weird. we all do things to help our friends and family when we can. it's a huge step to go from "sure i'll tag along to this appointment for moral support" to "i'll come take care of you away from my home for several weeks". I offer to watch friends kids for a few hours when needed and in a true emergency i'd take them for a week or more if needed, that doesn't mean i'm volunteering to take their kids for a week while they go on vacation. So yes I'm helpful to the extent that it's doable for me and worth the effort for me within the context of what the situation requires

[Anonymous]

Wait- you're not even local? This is a no.

[Anonymous]

Just say no. It’s elective surgery for vanity purposes. She can hire someone to help her. If she guilt trips you then she is a selfish jerk and just distance yourself. This isn’t life saving surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tangent but very important; she should not be having these many things done at one time. It's too many assaults on the body.

I attended a lecture by the head of a hospital (I'm in LA) and the short summary is:

The body is very good at handling one stressor at a time, but terrible at handling two or more.

That's why if you get the flu, your body is good at handling it, and if you break your ankle, your body can handle it, but if you do both at the same time, your body has a really hard time.

It's also why if you are ever offered a choice of using your own self or a cadaver to replace something (for skiiing accidents...sorry I'm not medical and not a skier), you go with the cadaver so as to not have two injuries to your body.

It's also why when you are sick you should not go for that run. Just take a walk.

One example he gave was if you are in the hospital to have your knee replaced and the doctor says, well while you are here, we can do your elbow at the same time, you say no.

I know this is not what you asked but besides her health, this is also relevant to her recovery time.

I'd say no, not until she goes to someone else. Or, just, no.

She may lose the 2k or whatever, but it's a lesson and some lessons cost money.

This is a great response with helpful infomation. Op, please she this with your sister.

[Anonymous]

NO is a FULL sentence OP use your words. Also tell the office in WRITING you will NOT be her caretaker.