She is taking credit for it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside thought?

DP.
Of course! But please understand she needs to put on airs - what is she supposed to say?
Of course a smart person wouldn’t post anything but I have yet to meet a smart preschool teacher (no offense most of them are very nice people)

What no she isn't. They are a couple engaged and it doesn't matter they are a couple and she may have done other things behind the scenes that OP isn't aware of to help her son achieve this goal.

She lives there and I'm sure she isn't just sitting on her butt I'm sure she is gonna contribute in some way whether it's towards utilities or cleaning. This is extremely petty and a sign of bean counting to the fullest.

It's not putting on airs like other PPs said they are a couple and this is there accomplishment.

Not to mention OP should treat lightly with this one since she said it herself this girl at 23 years old moved hours away to be with her son when they weren't even engaged yet. But somehow you don't hear a peep from OP about that huge sacrifice her FDIL made.

And what makes you think preschool teachers aren't smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are worried about the wrong things.
Who cares what she posts on FB.
The problem is whether she will have any claim to the house despite it being bought
-with your son’s money
-before they got married
-and her name isn’t on the title

Especially if there are kids in the picture. I mean of course you don’t want your grandkids to have nowhere to live but also you don’t want her to have it just because she popped out the kids.
Your son needs to think about protecting some of his other future assets - of course he needs to support the kids but it’s best if he keeps the bulk to himself.

They are an engaged couple about to be married stop with the bean counting by just referring it to as her "son's" money.

[Anonymous]

They are engaged to be married, to combine their futures and lots. She's not "taking credit" for his home purchase; she is enjoying that they are buying their first home.

I made 2x what my husband did, had no debt, and had a nest egg (thanks to my parents - nothing I did) when we got engaged. So our first condo was purchased in my name only . . . his credit was crap. Does that mean that it wasn't *our* home? What about now, when I am a SAH parent? Is our home only my husband's? No, we became a unit, and our wins and losses were both of ours to share.

I strongly encourage you to examine why you feel competitive and put out by your future DIL being excited about their home purchase. This really sounds like sour grapes. You have a chance to say, OK, maybe I am afraid of losing the closeness I have with my child and feel the DIL is a threat. But all you will have a self-fulfilling prophecy if you react the way you have in this situation. Yes, they will pull away from you, but it will be because you couldn't let go and respect (and celebrate!) their relationship.

[Anonymous]

OP, be honest. Why do you hate her? Is she a different race? Ethnicity? Religion? Will there be anyone whom you think is good enough for your precious baby boy (who is a grown man)?

[Anonymous]

Op. You are NOT justified.

Now go say congratulations.

And buy them a housewarming gift.

Or you're never going to meet your grandchildren

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are worried about the wrong things.
Who cares what she posts on FB.
The problem is whether she will have any claim to the house despite it being bought
-with your son’s money
-before they got married
-and her name isn’t on the title

Especially if there are kids in the picture. I mean of course you don’t want your grandkids to have nowhere to live but also you don’t want her to have it just because she popped out the kids.
Your son needs to think about protecting some of his other future assets - of course he needs to support the kids but it’s best if he keeps the bulk to himself.

Yes you're right I'm focused on the wrong thing instead of focusing on the FB post I should focus on being sure my son protects his future assets.

I know the majority of PPs said because they are an engaged couple it's both of their doing and how this is an accomplishment they share and that my FDIL may contribute in other ways such as cleaning or what not. But people are still individuals even in a relationship and should be able to have some accomplishments still on their own. If my FDIL got a promotion at work they also wouldn't be my son's just because they are a couple.

Should I bring it up to my son protecting his future assets or leave it alone and not get involved?

[Anonymous]

Your son is lucky to marry a preschool teacher.

And you're a complete idiot OP. You didn't even post this post. The internet did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are worried about the wrong things.
Who cares what she posts on FB.
The problem is whether she will have any claim to the house despite it being bought
-with your son’s money
-before they got married
-and her name isn’t on the title

Especially if there are kids in the picture. I mean of course you don’t want your grandkids to have nowhere to live but also you don’t want her to have it just because she popped out the kids.
Your son needs to think about protecting some of his other future assets - of course he needs to support the kids but it’s best if he keeps the bulk to himself.

Yes you're right I'm focused on the wrong thing instead of focusing on the FB post I should focus on being sure my son protects his future assets.

I know the majority of PPs said because they are an engaged couple it's both of their doing and how this is an accomplishment they share and that my FDIL may contribute in other ways such as cleaning or what not. But people are still individuals even in a relationship and should be able to have some accomplishments still on their own. If my FDIL got a promotion at work they also wouldn't be my son's just because they are a couple.

Should I bring it up to my son protecting his future assets or leave it alone and not get involved?

Leave it alone. You sound like the worst person ever.

[Anonymous]

The #boymom is strong in this one.

[jsteele]

The OP is a troll.