She is taking credit for it

[Anonymous]

They're engaged. Everything a married couple does is an accomplishment of the household, not an individual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Your son is 27. You should have landed that controlling helicopter a decade ago, mom.

I didn't realize there was an age number where you stop looking out for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Your son is 27. You should have landed that controlling helicopter a decade ago, mom.

I didn't realize there was an age number where you stop looking out for your kids.

This is not looking out for him.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are unhinged. Is it the menopause? You sound like a loon.

[Anonymous]

This is a terrible take, OP. She’s been by his side for four years. Whether she contributes financially or not, they’re a team and it makes sense that they would celebrate their accomplishments together. You’re so petty.

[Anonymous]

She’s going to live in the house, yes? Why isn’t she allowed to be excited about it? She probably also helped pick it and will decorate it and will be contributing money and labor to pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Do you think who gets individual credit is an important measure of a marriage? My DH and I tend to share credit in most things because we both contribute. That's the whole point if marriage.

Imagine if your DIL had a baby and went out of her way to make sure everyone knew SHE was the one who read all the baby books, and figured out childcare, and of course went through pregnancy and childbirth and all of it. Instead of saying "we are so happy to welcome this new person to our family!" And praising your DH for his support. Even though, realistically, it's gonna be mostly her, especially when he's in the road all the time.

Marriage is not a good place to be petty AF.

[Anonymous]

So when she gives birth and does it all on her own you'll give her all the credit and will tell your son to take the social media posts down that say "look we have a kid now?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Your son is 27. You should have landed that controlling helicopter a decade ago, mom.

I didn't realize there was an age number where you stop looking out for your kids.

What in your post is about looking out for him? He's fine. This is about you, mama bear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside though?

NO. You are NOT justified in being bothered by this. Why are you concerned about “credit” your son is missing out on by a Facebook post? Think about that. You’re being incredibly immature. Please seek out therapy to develop some emotional maturity and how to require more of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Do you think who gets individual credit is an important measure of a marriage? My DH and I tend to share credit in most things because we both contribute. That's the whole point if marriage.

Imagine if your DIL had a baby and went out of her way to make sure everyone knew SHE was the one who read all the baby books, and figured out childcare, and of course went through pregnancy and childbirth and all of it. Instead of saying "we are so happy to welcome this new person to our family!" And praising your DH for his support. Even though, realistically, it's gonna be mostly her, especially when he's in the road all the time.

Marriage is not a good place to be petty AF.

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Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside though?

DP. Of course you’re not justified in being bothered by a Facebook post she made about being excited about her new home. What on earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op. You need a reality check.

They're engaged and she bought a house with him. It doesn't matter who earned the money.

When they have kids, be sure to mention that they're all hers, he can't take credit for them. All he contributed was one Y chromosome. That's nothing

This. People make all kinds of unusual financial decisions. Putting a house in one name only is one of them. Doesn’t mean they view the house as belonging to only half of the couple.

My brother owns his own business. Even though he pays 100% of the mortgage, taxes and insurance, the house is in his wife’s name because during lean times, he doesn’t have to worry about losing the house in a bankruptcy.

You need to stay out of this not only because it’s not your business but also because you are so very wrong.