She is taking credit for it

[Anonymous]

so she was supposed to say, "my fiancé bought a house all on his own and now I get to live there too!". Is that what you expected? Because if so, you're just flat out TA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So when she gives birth and does it all on her own you'll give her all the credit and will tell your son to take the social media posts down that say "look we have a kid now?"

That's different because it is also my son's baby the house isn't in her name so it's not her house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so she was supposed to say, "my fiancé bought a house all on his own and now I get to live there too!". Is that what you expected? Because if so, you're just flat out TA.

She just wasn't supposed to post anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So when she gives birth and does it all on her own you'll give her all the credit and will tell your son to take the social media posts down that say "look we have a kid now?"

That's different because it is also my son's baby the house isn't in her name so it's not her house.

I would recommend you share the offending post with all of your social media friends with a note that it’s actually your son’s house and not the fiancé’s. Just for the record so everyone knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so she was supposed to say, "my fiancé bought a house all on his own and now I get to live there too!". Is that what you expected? Because if so, you're just flat out TA.

She just wasn't supposed to post anything.

wow that is certainly very odd. You sound like a very unhappy person and I pity your kid and his future wife. No you have no right ot be upset, even a little, about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so she was supposed to say, "my fiancé bought a house all on his own and now I get to live there too!". Is that what you expected? Because if so, you're just flat out TA.

She just wasn't supposed to post anything.

You’re coming off unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside though?

I understand that you are proud of your son and want him to get credit when its due but he is a grown man now, a homeowner and a soon to be husband. Encourage them to be a team and support each other without keeping scores of who did what percentage of work. Your son's happiness and peace of mind is tied to hers now. Your relationship with him and his kids would also be effected by your relationship with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside though?

No, you’re insane for being bothered by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So when she gives birth and does it all on her own you'll give her all the credit and will tell your son to take the social media posts down that say "look we have a kid now?"

That's different because it is also my son's baby the house isn't in her name so it's not her house.

You are insane. When my wife and I bought our first house it was in my name only because she was a graduate student from another country with no credit history. I also made most of the money. But of course, we shopped for the house together, made decisions together, and it was our house.

You don’t really understand how partnership works, do you? Do you count beans this closely in your own relationship, or only in your son’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so she was supposed to say, "my fiancé bought a house all on his own and now I get to live there too!". Is that what you expected? Because if so, you're just flat out TA.

She just wasn't supposed to post anything.

OP, continue this petty, controlling, biatchy path you're on, and you're not going to be able to see your future grand kids.

But they wouldn't even be yours, because they'd come from her body. You would have had nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So when she gives birth and does it all on her own you'll give her all the credit and will tell your son to take the social media posts down that say "look we have a kid now?"

That's different because it is also my son's baby the house isn't in her name so it's not her house.

Are you sure about that? The mortgage and deed are two different things.

[Anonymous]

OP you are worried about the wrong things.
Who cares what she posts on FB.
The problem is whether she will have any claim to the house despite it being bought
-with your son’s money
-before they got married
-and her name isn’t on the title

Especially if there are kids in the picture. I mean of course you don’t want your grandkids to have nowhere to live but also you don’t want her to have it just because she popped out the kids.
Your son needs to think about protecting some of his other future assets - of course he needs to support the kids but it’s best if he keeps the bulk to himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside thought?

DP.
Of course! But please understand she needs to put on airs - what is she supposed to say?
Of course a smart person wouldn’t post anything but I have yet to meet a smart preschool teacher (no offense most of them are very nice people)

[Anonymous]

You should not follow your FDIL on social. If you can't help it bc she tagged your son, unfollow him too. Sorry but you can't handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I just think if she is taking credit for something this big that my son has accomplished what else will she bulldoze his credit for?

I'm not sure if my son is deep down bothered by it. I understand he is an adult but as his mother I will still worry and want him to get credit where credit is due. I was sure to send him a little something for himself to congratulate him on his new home.

But I will not address it with him personally what his fiance put on FB because I don't wanna alienate my son.

Smart move. Even if it bothers you, don't sour a happy time by bringing this up.

I don't plan on bringing it up. Do you think I'm justified in being bothered by this inside thought?

DP.
Of course! But please understand she needs to put on airs - what is she supposed to say?
Of course a smart person wouldn’t post anything but I have yet to meet a smart preschool teacher (no offense most of them are very nice people)

No offense, but you’re a j a c k a s s. Who hurt you?