When you used to be fat.

[Anonymous]

I'd look at this friend group. My mother-in-law hangs out with older, overweight people whose main activity is eating so that's a big challenge right there and it's close to impossible for her to lose or keep weight off since she's retired and they are eating out almost daily.

Like others mentioned, or is this a "splitting the check" issue? I have a friend who likes to go to the most expensive places, order the most expensive dishes, and many, many drinks and then expect us all to split things evenly. It drives me batty as someone with two mortgages and family of 4 - I pay attention to what I spend money on, so now if I'm going out with her I tend to either skip out if it's too pricey or meet up for coffee or drinks. Or, a person could take cash and pay for one's part in cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And you worked really really hard to be healthy and fit-how to you explain to people that get annoyed at how “careful” you are now?

For example. If I know I am going out to eat with friends-I will plan the rest of my food for the day around that. And I never order appetizers or drinks or dessert. Or I’ll have a tiny bit of appetizer or a dessert as well as an entree of course. But I will never be excessive. Some of my friends have Been really annoyed by this. Probably because I used to not care at all? Hence, why I was fat.

The anxiety of getting back to where I was is pretty terrible. I hated myself. Like literally hated myself. I have spent 2 years getting to a healthy weight and more importantly, a healthy mind set and it makes me so depressed that I often have to hear my friends and family complain to me about it.

My whole life has changed for the better and honestly foregoing an appetizer/dessert/drink seems like such a small price to pay. Don’t get me wrong if it’s a special occasion (anniversary, wedding, special birthday etc…) I will definitely over indulge and then plan the next few days around that. But my friends and I go out like once a week/every 2 weeks and that’s just too often to be going all out.

I guess I wish more people understood the struggle. My body wants me to be like I used to be-and it’s a constant battle. I think a lot of it is that I was the “fat friend” for so long that people are just weirded out. Also none of my friends have had weight problems so they just don’t understand.

I’m just venting. And I hope I’m not alone.

You did it and you are strong. They want you to fail so it validates their choices. You being in control gives them no excuses not to be