Fraternity for a decent human being

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since everyone else is throwing you under the bus for this question, I will provide one normal answer. He needs to do more research, talk to guys who end up in the various frats and find one that suits him more.

My DS is a very non-greek type and he found a place that was perfect for him. Every campus will have one I'd think. I will say that yes this IS something he will have to do himself but no reason not to lend moral support.

I agree with this advice.

I wasn't sure what the details of the post would be before I opened this, but I was certain there would be a flood of posters telling OP to "land the helicopter." I wish people would just not respond to posts if they don't have advice/answers.

"Mom, back off and let your adult son solve his own social problems" IS the correct advice and the answer.

oh please! These fake answers are so dumb. You and every other poster are just as involved in your kids lives even thought you profess and pretend not to be. No parent spending time reading and posting on a parenting board on a topic for college age kids is just as vested in parenting as the OP. So stop with the BS

And to answer the OPs question, if your DS really wants to join a fraternity he has to look at groups he fits in with. It’s hard for freshman to go to college and realize they aren’t quite the kid of person who is in the “popular” crowd anymore. They have to look beyond that and find a group where they actually like the people and fit it and would want to hang out with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since everyone else is throwing you under the bus for this question, I will provide one normal answer. He needs to do more research, talk to guys who end up in the various frats and find one that suits him more.

My DS is a very non-greek type and he found a place that was perfect for him. Every campus will have one I'd think. I will say that yes this IS something he will have to do himself but no reason not to lend moral support.

If he's in a frat, he's not a non-greek type.

Sorry but you're wrong. He only rushed becasue his roommate wanted to and he didn't want to be left out. Texted me at 1 AM after the midnight deadline to sign up saying he just wasted $50 because there's no way he's pledging. Guess what? You (anonymous DCUM poster) do not know everything (or even anything). He found a group of guys just like him who just happen to be in a fraternity and loves it. He has not been hazed. Yes I know he hasn't because he told me at the first sign of it, he's leaving. He will be living in the house next year, and can't wait. I am thankful that he found this group because it has really expanded his friend circle and social life and hes a very introverted, non party, hard working student type.

You're pathetically defensive. He's in a frat. He's Greek. Your precious snowflake is a frat boy. Get over yourself.

Do you always judge people you don’t know anything about just by labels? Charming personality trait!

NP but you kindaaaa set yourself up to be judged by posting here.
Also, weird your kid is drunk texting you at 1am about signing up for recruitment. Glad he found some friends and a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since everyone else is throwing you under the bus for this question, I will provide one normal answer. He needs to do more research, talk to guys who end up in the various frats and find one that suits him more.

My DS is a very non-greek type and he found a place that was perfect for him. Every campus will have one I'd think. I will say that yes this IS something he will have to do himself but no reason not to lend moral support.

I agree with this advice.

I wasn't sure what the details of the post would be before I opened this, but I was certain there would be a flood of posters telling OP to "land the helicopter." I wish people would just not respond to posts if they don't have advice/answers.

"Mom, back off and let your adult son solve his own social problems" IS the correct advice and the answer.

oh please! These fake answers are so dumb. You and every other poster are just as involved in your kids lives even thought you profess and pretend not to be. No parent spending time reading and posting on a parenting board on a topic for college age kids is just as vested in parenting as the OP. So stop with the BS

And to answer the OPs question, if your DS really wants to join a fraternity he has to look at groups he fits in with. It’s hard for freshman to go to college and realize they aren’t quite the kid of person who is in the “popular” crowd anymore. They have to look beyond that and find a group where they actually like the people and fit it and would want to hang out with.

NP - you think I come here for parenting advice? No way - I come for the snark.

Also, may I introduce you to the new phenomenon known as "Recent Topics?"

[Anonymous]

Some kids are very independent but still enjoy a close relationship with their parents. Only on dcum is that considered pathological.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since everyone else is throwing you under the bus for this question, I will provide one normal answer. He needs to do more research, talk to guys who end up in the various frats and find one that suits him more.

My DS is a very non-greek type and he found a place that was perfect for him. Every campus will have one I'd think. I will say that yes this IS something he will have to do himself but no reason not to lend moral support.

If he's in a frat, he's not a non-greek type.

Sorry but you're wrong. He only rushed becasue his roommate wanted to and he didn't want to be left out. Texted me at 1 AM after the midnight deadline to sign up saying he just wasted $50 because there's no way he's pledging. Guess what? You (anonymous DCUM poster) do not know everything (or even anything). He found a group of guys just like him who just happen to be in a fraternity and loves it. He has not been hazed. Yes I know he hasn't because he told me at the first sign of it, he's leaving. He will be living in the house next year, and can't wait. I am thankful that he found this group because it has really expanded his friend circle and social life and hes a very introverted, non party, hard working student type.

You're pathetically defensive. He's in a frat. He's Greek. Your precious snowflake is a frat boy. Get over yourself.

Do you always judge people you don’t know anything about just by labels? Charming personality trait!

NP but you kindaaaa set yourself up to be judged by posting here.
Also, weird your kid is drunk texting you at 1am about signing up for recruitment. Glad he found some friends and a life.

Oh thanks I’m so glad you’re happy for him!!! :lol:

[Anonymous]

Goodness, new poster but I’m very glad my DS talked to me about joining a frat. It’s absolutely something they should be able to talk through as it’s hard to find one that’s good. Mine asked around incl asking female friends which ones had a bad rap. He also observed which frats had members that still regularly socialized with non-frat students as not all of his friends were rushing. He ended up at one with very good friends and it has been a positive experience.

[Anonymous]

I was the director of recruitment for the sororities and let me tell you. Ugh.

Men and women would not get in for all kinds of petty crap. It may not even be as obvious as you think it is. It may be that someone else they really wanted didn't like him

[Anonymous]

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