What time does your DH or DW get home from work?

[Anonymous]

DH comes home at 6pm, only once a week at 7pm. We live close where we work, max 10 minutes walking to daycare and work.

[Anonymous]

another SAHM here, DH comes home between 5:15-5:45. I would go crazy if he was later than that more than once a week. He works for the government.

[Anonymous]

I'm a WOHM -- lawyer for government agency. My husband is a SAHD. I leave the house around 8 and am home by 5:30-5:45. My commute is around 35 minutes. He's not as energetic as most of you SAHMs - he often collapses when I get home, and I take over for the evening, i.e., dinner, baths and bedtimes.

[Anonymous]

awww that's so nice that you actually think most of us SAHMs are energetic, it feels good to hear that My husband helps out by keeping the kids busy while I prepare dinner, clean up and bathe the kids, which I am really grateful for. Kudos to all the working moms and SAHMs who di it all by themselves!

[Anonymous]

I am now a SAHM with a lawyer husband working at a law firm. I worked at a firm for years, and definitely saw a lot of dad associate/young partners dragging their feet as evening approached, but that wasn't everyone. One man I know brought a couch into his office after he had kids, and admitted that he sometimes came to the office on Sundays just to get a nap! Even if my DH does the same, I've been at a firm and have felt the particular kind of stress it involves, and I'd be glad if he could find a way to relax at the office. My DH leaves at 7am and arrives home at about 7:45, and those last few hours can seem like an eternity.

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM mom and my DH is a partner in a law firm. He leaves the house by 7:30 a.m. at the latest and gets home at 7:00 p.m. He also usually works at least the equivalent of one day each weekend. If he's in a particularly busy period, sometimes the entire weekend, and if it's particularly slow, OCCASIONALLY he won't go in at all. It is rare that I get the whole weekend with him. He is starting to explore other options, such as in-house counsel vs. law firm, to get more time at home. We're both willing to take a pay cut and possibly move out of the area to have a better/happier lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

When you have young children, staying in the office can sometimes seem like a better bet than going home and having to deal with the hassle of dinner, bath time, squawking children, angry, exhausted and bitter spouse etc.
Offices are quiet, dry, safe environments where you can chat to colleagues or surf the internet or even - god forbid - do a bit of work.

So perhaps the question isn't why men (and women) work so late, by why they come home at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you have young children, staying in the office can sometimes seem like a better bet than going home and having to deal with the hassle of dinner, bath time, squawking children, angry, exhausted and bitter spouse etc.
Offices are quiet, dry, safe environments where you can chat to colleagues or surf the internet or even - god forbid - do a bit of work.

So perhaps the question isn't why men (and women) work so late, by why they come home at all?

WOW - if you are serious - I feel very, very sorry for your children and your spouse! As hard as the dinner/bath/bedtime hour is - I savor these moments with my little ones - soon they will be grown and gone and we will miss them.
Enjoy your dry, safe, office and surfing the net!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you have young children, staying in the office can sometimes seem like a better bet than going home and having to deal with the hassle of dinner, bath time, squawking children, angry, exhausted and bitter spouse etc.
Offices are quiet, dry, safe environments where you can chat to colleagues or surf the internet or even - god forbid - do a bit of work.

So perhaps the question isn't why men (and women) work so late, by why they come home at all?

This person must be joking - - or maybe using the "voice" of their DH or DW who doesn't come home......

[Anonymous]

7:30 most nights. Has worked every weekend for 4 months. I hate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a law firm and almost every man with small children seems to deliberately hang around later than he needs to -- especially with blackberrys and remote e-mail access. Part of it seems to be macho posturing (wanting to be seen working long hours) and part of it seems to be avoiding the dinner/bath hour, frankly. All of them make lots of money and have stay at home wives, but their lives seem very out of balance.

I think there is some definite truth to this. I am a WM, but took long maternity l;eaves. While I was "at home" (ML leave for 6 months each) my DH "had" to work late most nights/weekends. Then, for some reason, when I go back to work (and BTW, we make basically the same amount - I make a bit more) he magically manages to help me with the pickups from daycare at 5:30...I think the periods where I was home he viewed it as a period where he could slack off from parenting duties b/c I was "in charge" pof th home but then once I am back at work, he realizes he has to pull his own weight too. Kind of disappointing to me since I was contemplating becoming a SAHM, but the realization would get much less help from him than I do now, puts me off of the idea entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine gets in around 7:30 pm due to commute and alot of work. Wish it could be earlier.

Same here. As a SAHM, makes for a long day with 2 little ones...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you have young children, staying in the office can sometimes seem like a better bet than going home and having to deal with the hassle of dinner, bath time, squawking children, angry, exhausted and bitter spouse etc.
Offices are quiet, dry, safe environments where you can chat to colleagues or surf the internet or even - god forbid - do a bit of work.

So perhaps the question isn't why men (and women) work so late, by why they come home at all?

This person must be joking - - or maybe using the "voice" of their DH or DW who doesn't come home......

I read this to mean that work is much easier than being at home w/young kids (I kind of ignored the bitter spouse part -seems like PP may have a bit of an issue there). Anyway, I (a WM) fully agree work is easier than being at home. So, SAHMs whose late working DHs plead exhaustion - kudos to you all since you have the much much harder job! PS. However, although I think it's much easier to be at work, I always leave at 5pm sharp so I can spend the evenings w/my kids. It's definitely harder...but so much more rewarding. Unfortunately I think some men just don't get the trade off (or aren't willing to make it).

[Anonymous]

My husband gets home between 7:30-8. I am a working full time mom and I handle the pick so it makes for very long days - cooking dinner, bathtime, bedtime routine. What irritates me the most is I leave everyday by 5pm - and I would like to work later - I have a very strong work ethic - but I am more interested in being with my daughter. Men, however, don't seem to have that interest. They find any excuse to work - and from my experience from working at a firm - they really will do anything to stay at work and avoid going home. It really pisses me off!

[Anonymous]

DH does the drop off and pick up of DD at day care, so he's home by 6:30 pm every day and we do the feeding/bath/bedtime routine together. Before baby he was home at 6:30 also, he is not one to stay late at work all the time, only when it's truly needed.